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Just a question re transgender

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drasticdonkey · 20/02/2025 09:31

I'm part of a following online (think sci-fi) and I've noticed that this group of people is increasingly made of trans people/gender fluid/queer people etc.

Not only that, but as I've gotten to know the group more/become closer to people I've noticed the following:

  • The prevalence of mental health issues in this group
  • the prevalence of adhd/autism in this group
  • many of them have POTS, or chronic pain conditions or ehlers Danlos.
  • the clothing and hair is also very similar, almost like a uniform
  • they enjoy certain sci fi shows/certain characters and really become fixated on every aspect of it
  • fights often erupt as people get easily offended over very silly things and almost compete to be the "worst off or have the worst mental health" if that makes sense

I suppose my question and thoughts turned to "is any of this connected?!". Has any science/research properly investigated these links? Aibu to wonder if all these things are connected - in particular the medical aspects?

I'm not aiming to offend on this thread but really I'm just curious re the genetic aspect

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ditalini · 21/02/2025 18:33

JellySaurus · 21/02/2025 14:32

Fair enough, but it doesn't mean that they should expect the rest of the world to live according to their beliefs.

It's no different to a very religious person wanting to live according to their beliefs.

Not only is it no different, it's extremely similar to people with extreme religious zeal.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 21/02/2025 18:36

Apart from a very few absolutely exeptional people in each generation, we all have to come to terms with not being exceptional. Most people eventually realise they are quite ordinary.

Having some sort of minor disability is no longer special enough to get anyone's attention, so you need to have fourteen or fifteen, or an amputation or two, to get any notoriety at all.

ditalini · 21/02/2025 18:38

ditalini · 21/02/2025 18:33

Not only is it no different, it's extremely similar to people with extreme religious zeal.

That makes no sense, sorry. Obviously something that's no different is extremely similar 😳

What I meant was that it would be interesting to know whether in some cultures extreme religious zeal is also one of these behaviors.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 21/02/2025 18:42

American Southern Baptists, perhaps? They seem to do their best to insist that everyone must believe what they do.

When they come up against the gay it ain't pretty, because the gay quite legitimately refuse to conform to the baptist norm. (And let's not think about the special hell-on-earth that is being a gay adolescent in a Southern Baptist family.)

AlertCat · 21/02/2025 18:55

I wonder if there is (also?) a link between cross-sex hormones and some of the illnesses and conditions that seem to be associated with a transgender identity.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 21/02/2025 19:03

At least one of the puberty blocker drugs was developed for a quite different purpose and was deemed too dangerous to be prescribed to adults for more than six months, so it seems quite likely that the experimental animals children to whom they were prescribed for several years might have been damaged by them.

niadainud · 21/02/2025 22:12

Nerdy activities (D&D, amateur stand-up comedy, anything sci-fi related) seem to attract people on the autistic spectrum and there seems to be a lot of overlap with all things queer, non-binary and trans.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 22/02/2025 12:23

And of course there has been no bar whatever to women playing male characters and men playing female ones in role-playing games, at least during this century and I think for rather longer, though usually until quite recently it tended to be women playing males because the male characters had a more interesting variety of things available for them to do/be.

And nobody has ever thought that the bearded bespectacled bloke with a beer belly playing Princess Nadine, Super-Assassin, must be gay or trans, as far as I know.

JellySaurus · 22/02/2025 14:09

What I meant was that it would be interesting to know whether in some cultures extreme religious zeal is also one of these behaviors.

Do you mean among people who feel a deep need to be speshul, @ditalini?

I have had involvement with Abrahamic religious communities, and IME (which I admit is not extensive) people who feel extreme religious zeal tend to be hyper-conforming because their religion either specifies the behaviour expected from each sex, or because sexual stereotypes are embedded in their religion's way of life. I don't know enough to comment about Dharmic religions.

The Abrahamic religions all have the concept that human beings were created in God's image, and that souls are placed in bodies by God. Claiming that God placed a female soul in a male body is like saying that God made a mistake. Body modifications are like damaging God's image, or implying that what he made was not good enough. Members of progressive branches of these faiths might well feel differently about this, but I cannot imagine that faith members with extreme religious zeal could.

A person with both a trans identity and extreme religious zeal would be so phenomenally conflicted that it would be cognitive dissonance on steroids. Or selective thinking on steroids.

ditalini · 22/02/2025 14:19

JellySaurus · 22/02/2025 14:09

What I meant was that it would be interesting to know whether in some cultures extreme religious zeal is also one of these behaviors.

Do you mean among people who feel a deep need to be speshul, @ditalini?

I have had involvement with Abrahamic religious communities, and IME (which I admit is not extensive) people who feel extreme religious zeal tend to be hyper-conforming because their religion either specifies the behaviour expected from each sex, or because sexual stereotypes are embedded in their religion's way of life. I don't know enough to comment about Dharmic religions.

The Abrahamic religions all have the concept that human beings were created in God's image, and that souls are placed in bodies by God. Claiming that God placed a female soul in a male body is like saying that God made a mistake. Body modifications are like damaging God's image, or implying that what he made was not good enough. Members of progressive branches of these faiths might well feel differently about this, but I cannot imagine that faith members with extreme religious zeal could.

A person with both a trans identity and extreme religious zeal would be so phenomenally conflicted that it would be cognitive dissonance on steroids. Or selective thinking on steroids.

No, I was substituting the gender zeal for another religious zeal.

i.e is neurodiversity and/or mental disorders overrepresented among very zealous religious people?

Very zealous being defined as way beyond what is expected in their community, e.g bodily mortification, cloistering etc.

Grammarnut · 24/02/2025 09:16

Porcuporpoise · 21/02/2025 10:52

I agree that it's no coincidence but I disagree about the cause.
There is a strong correlation between autism and a whole host of autoimmune diseases, including ones that (if you are a skeptic) are not possible to fake eg crohns disease (diagnosed by structural changes to the gut seen via biopsy). You don't have to be autistic to suffer from these conditions of course, but they are far more prevalent amongst autistic people than neuro typical ones.

So if many trans people are autistic then it stands to reason that the incidence of these conditions will be far higher than normal within the trans community.

Not entirely sure that's true. The trans community seems heavily to lean towards narcissism which is likely to want to produce 'symptoms' of illness so that they are always centred.

Sharptonguedwoman · 24/02/2025 10:39

verysmellyjelly · 20/02/2025 09:54

Unfortunately a lot of people self diagnose with POTS, Ehlers Danlos and so on because there is so much misinformation about the conditions online. This has led to those who really have the conditions being treated even more badly by doctors than in the past: they're basically being seen as "TikTok illnesses" now! It's not surprising that when people are picking up other identity labels via social contagion, they'd also acquire disability labels too.

Autistic people are especially vulnerable to online pressure, so that may be a factor, but equally not everyone who thinks they are non neurotypical really is: it's another situation of labels becoming fashionable in certain online places like Discord and Reddit and TikTok. I'm not saying these conditions aren't real (of course not! I am autistic myself), but there absolutely are people with a "gotta catch 'em all" mentality.

EDS is a terrible thing. Staggered that anyone would self diagnose with it. The only person I know with it has full forever PIP, he's only 30.
I wonder what these people do have?

JellySaurus · 24/02/2025 10:56

ditalini · 22/02/2025 14:19

No, I was substituting the gender zeal for another religious zeal.

i.e is neurodiversity and/or mental disorders overrepresented among very zealous religious people?

Very zealous being defined as way beyond what is expected in their community, e.g bodily mortification, cloistering etc.

I suspect that some forms of neurodiversity wouldn’t show up as much IYSWIM. Those who are extreme rule-followers could be quite at home in an environment where there are many rules and clear distinctions, for example. They might actually be seen as very good members of the religious community, rather than as people in search of something that fits them.

Porcuporpoise · 24/02/2025 11:43

Grammarnut · 24/02/2025 09:16

Not entirely sure that's true. The trans community seems heavily to lean towards narcissism which is likely to want to produce 'symptoms' of illness so that they are always centred.

OK so point us at some data to back that up. I mean quite a lot of trans activists are definitely narcs but I'm not sure how representative they are of the community as a whole, for all the airtime they get. The high preponderance of autism in the trans community however can be clearly shown.

Grammarnut · 24/02/2025 13:55

Porcuporpoise · 24/02/2025 11:43

OK so point us at some data to back that up. I mean quite a lot of trans activists are definitely narcs but I'm not sure how representative they are of the community as a whole, for all the airtime they get. The high preponderance of autism in the trans community however can be clearly shown.

I was not saying that autism is not highly representative, esp among young women - it very clearly is. I was just commenting that many of the older trans we hear from/about e.g. I. Willoughby, seem to be narcissists (and that thing we are not supposed to mention). I don't know any stats on it - I think it would be difficult to quantify, too.

JellySaurus · 24/02/2025 17:15

Not convinced there is such a thing as a trans community. There seem to be two distinctly different trans populations: those escaping and those self-indulging.

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