Dh drank a whole bottle of whiskey

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Seriously a whole bottle of Jameson.
Now dh is a good bloke, works his ass off in his own company, hands on dad, looks after us the best he can. He's got SADS, does every winter. He's upped his sertraline as recommended so waiting for that to take effect.
I took the little ones to bed last night and slept all night with them, he drank a whole bottle of whiskey. He didn't cause any trouble or anything you might expect from someone drinking that amount, wasn't sick or anything but couldn't get into bed as his head was spinning so slept downstairs. I've come down this morning and the whole bottle is gone.
Aibu or will this not fuck his liver ?! He's currently in bed dying, has work in a bit. Can't help but feel a little smug and so fucking grateful I don't feel how he does !!

Some people have a very high tolerance for alcohol though, and similarly others are affected by relatively small amounts. No way to tell until your liver makes its’ displeasure known !!

Has he gone to work drunk? Could he be in trouble for that?

Wow I have never herd anyone drink that much (or it be admitted too)
I’m sorry about your mum .

There was a youtuber who drank a bottle of whiskey at Christmas and died of alcohol poisoning. If your dh is depressed but not suicidal I'd be spitting feathers at hi. If he's suicidal his medication isn't working and he needs an immediate intervention

He doesn't seem drunk, perfectly coherent but obviously it's still in his system ! His lad is driving today. As I said, I think he'll be home early. He doesn't work with anyone else, he's self employed with his own business but does have an urgent job that cannot be pushed back.
Yes he's an idiot, yes he's been stupid. He's a good worker though and will not let anyone down.

My husband can drink a whole bottle of rum or brandy and not die so I'm sure your husband will be ok but very badly hungover

A bottle of whisky is around 28 units, I think, so double the recommended weekly max in one session. Not good. He must have been feeling bad and/or out of control to do that.

I’ve lost two people to alcohol recently. One seemed fine healthwise- until one day when they weren’t. We assumed it was the excessive alcohol intake starting to have an effect. We were wrong. That was it. Irreparable liver damage. No real warning at all - until it was too late.

Doing this once won't do much harm but make sure he drinks plenty of liquids, eats something - a meal that includes a fair amount of protein helps absorb the effects of alcohol - and don't let him anywhere near machinery (kettle included!).

Are you sure he's not drinking in secret is he op? Seems a bit extreme to drink a whole bottle in one evening and be fine the next day.
Most people would be very ill after drinking a whole bottle of whisky.

Depending on how many hours it took to drink, it would be a bit of a red flag to me that he actually could drink that much without vomitting, or some other issue. Someone who wasn't already drinking quite heavily would usually have puked or passed out long before they managed to get a whole bottle down. Also just drinking that much in one sitting alone, is a warning that something is not right, even if it's related to the SADS, medicating with alcohol is not the answer.

I don’t see the problem, you said he doesn’t normally drink that much, he isn’t a violent thug when he’s drunk and he didn’t cause any problems. This wouldn’t bother me and I wouldn’t bring it up

I read the "smug" comment as the OP who is clearly worried, trying to sound less doom laden and make her statement a bit lighter.. ie if there isn't anything to worry about and I'm over reacting - like a verbal wry smile.

I don't think she's seriously smug or she wouldn't be posting.

Worth a read op:

www.forhers.com/blog/sertraline-zoloft-alcohol-what-you-need-know

Book a GP appt discuss the low mood

To reassure you, the liver is a pretty hardy organ.So long as he doesn’t have habitual pattern alcohol abuse it’s unlikely he’s done any long term harm with a binge session. Can request a GGT blood test , gamma-glutamyl transferase (GGT) test measures the amount of GGT in your Blood. Elevated GGT may indicate liver damage

You can drink alcohol with setraline,not too much or it’ll increase sedative effect. Dont need to be alcohol abstinent with setraline, just be sensible

@Katemax82 assume you are not recommending that!

Not sure I would be too impressed if I had someone turn up to do some work after drinking a whole bottle of whiskey.

I would think he must be quite a heavy drinker normally if he hasn’t suffered any ill effects, especially if he is on medication that doesn’t react well with alcohol

If he drank that daily then his liver would be fucked. As a one off it will do no harm long term at all. He's feeling shite, hopefully he's learned his lesson. I don't drink spirits at all now as I can't control the amount and do end up finishing the bottle! As long as he doesn't go out today and buy another bottle then hopefully you're alright.
Presuming he doesn't have alcoholism?
Could you try and get him out of the house during the day? Even just for a walk in the park, to a cafe for lunch etc.

To take a little sidestep for a second, I have a lot of sympathy for his SAD, I know how gruelling it is, and I'm no stranger to escaping into booze for a while - but I've always found that alcohol is actually the very worst thing for mood - I bet he's feeling worse today, or at least no better.

The temporary relief is so beguiling, but on the regular, it just perpetuates and exacerbates the low mood. So maybe worth looking at from that practical point of view? That it's a pretty lousy antidepressant! 🙂

From OP's post, he is self employed but if he his job is manual he could be putting his or his colleagues' health and safety at risk. What does he do as a living? I doubt he'd be covered in that case by insurances.

He works all day every day so not like he's moping around the house ! As said he runs his own company so he doesn't get any days off. Even works most weekends.
He won't come home with one ! He'll be taking it back to the shop if he doesn't

Is he in the building trade, a scaffolder, or something similar?

If so, don’t criticise or worry, as a one off won’t hurt him, just tell him not to be such a f*ing dick.

He’ll have seen stupid pissheads before and will fully understand that if this becomes a habit he’ll wreck himself, his family, and his business. See comment above.

Honestly, I don't think you can say that. And you should know the lengths people will go to hide their slide into relying on alcohol. Especially depressed people. Like your husband...?

Your dh does have an alcohol problem.
And is on anti depressants.
You are minimising this.
Drinking a while bottle of 40% proof alcohol is not normal, nor ok.
He needs to see his GP as obviously the antidepressants aren't working.

I know I was younger (16) when I over indulged in whiskey but I was really ill. Blacked out, vomited, had to go to bed and felt physically sick at the very thought of whiskey for years after. I know he’s an older, six footer bloke so won’t be that bad but to have no effects the next day would be more concerning to me than a big hangover. My ex is a recovering alcoholic and no matter how much he drank he never ever had a hangover or sickness. He was proud of it but it just made his drinking worse because there was no cut off point.

I would be doing some digging. To drink that much and not be sick is very unusual as a one off for a bloke. I’d be concerned he is hiding other drinking from you to have that much tolerance. People have died from having whole bottles of spirits.

what a curious take on this - reminded me of an elderly lady neighbour when dc were babies, coming home with shopping including a bottle of wine shock horror,
remarked upon, as though it was anyone else’s business, asked were my parents drinkers?!
I said no, apart from a sherry at Christmas, but my grandparents when entertaining family, friends, occasions, mammoth Sunday lunch, had wine, she declared rather huffily,
“well they must have made their own as they couldn’t afford to have wine with every meal”
we said, ok..
I never said every mealtime!

My wealthy paternal grandparents had an account at the wine merchants, comfortably off with a large family, always some celebration or other! enjoyed wine, but the vehemence of this neighbours disapproving response has stayed with me (obviously)

I was however careful not to mention the staffed family house on Lake Como,
(jointly owned with friends) gardener/handyman, daily cleaning lady and
chaffeur driven Bentley.

This was a few years ago now - we have subsequently had comments
from the sanctimonious, po faced “I don’t drink” contingent,
but then we are neither alcoholic nor suicidal, which downing a bottle of whisky
in perceived alcohol tolerance would indicate, be that deliberate, subconscious,
or unconcerned.