Dh drank a whole bottle of whiskey

[howyoufeeling]

Seriously a whole bottle of Jameson.
Now dh is a good bloke, works his ass off in his own company, hands on dad, looks after us the best he can. He's got SADS, does every winter. He's upped his sertraline as recommended so waiting for that to take effect.
I took the little ones to bed last night and slept all night with them, he drank a whole bottle of whiskey. He didn't cause any trouble or anything you might expect from someone drinking that amount, wasn't sick or anything but couldn't get into bed as his head was spinning so slept downstairs. I've come down this morning and the whole bottle is gone.
Aibu or will this not fuck his liver ?! He's currently in bed dying, has work in a bit. Can't help but feel a little smug and so fucking grateful I don't feel how he does !!

Surprised he’s got to early sixties on three bottles of wine a night. At the very least that’s 189 units a week !!

Surprised he’s got to early sixties on three bottles of wine a night. At the very least that’s 189 units a week !!

Surprised he’s got to early sixties on three bottles of wine a night. At the very least that’s 189 units a week !!

SOME people can get away with extreme drinking for years if not their whole lives and die of plain old age.
Others are not so lucky - they have to choose alcohol or longer life.

If you're a heavy drinker - even not heavy - its Russian Roulette.

You may be lucky. Or not.

They look bad for it. Poor short term memory too. They're lonely too having lost their DP to heavy drinking.

Get him into rehab, anyone who can drink a whole bottle of whiskey and not die is an alcoholic-guaranteed. Damage to his liver is quite possible, but it may not come home to roost for years.

half a bottle in one go is not a "treat" it's definitely a problem- if you think he doesn't drink while you are not looking you are likely deluding yourself. My mother drank for years, she is incredibly clever at masking it, you just don't notice. I looked in the cupboard with the boiler in it once, to adjust the temperature, and found a glass of wine- I would have sworn she wasn't drinking.

Exactly this - some people seem to “get away with it,” but in my experience, heavy drinkers always show some level of accelerated cognitive ageing, even if they look physically fine. The brain takes a hit long before the body does. Memory lapses, slower thinking, and poor decision-making creep in gradually, so they often don’t even notice it happening. They may not die from liver failure, but the mental decline is real. So yeah, some long-term drinkers never get liver failure or other obvious health issues, but their cognitive abilities decline faster than peers.

It should also be noted that the liver is one of those organs that can fail very suddenly. Liver disease can be silent for years. Many alcoholics or heavy drinkers have normal liver function tests right up until the point of failure. Blood tests don’t always detect cirrhosis or fibrosis.

Prolonged heavy drinking can also cause Korsakoff syndrome and Wernicke encephalopathy.

He's currently in bed dying, has work in a bit. Can't help but feel a little smug and so fucking grateful I don't feel how he does

I assume 'dying' is supposed to be a joke @howyoufeeling

He could have died. Passing out is a stage before coma, before death in some people. he could have choked on his own vomit or had breathing problems.

If he can go to work after a bottle of spirits either his work isn't 'taxing' or he's got alcohol dependence.

Some people would need to be hospitalised after that amount of alcohol.

The only reason he isn't is probably because he drinks a lot and his weight (17 stone.)

From what you say his job sounds stressful and he may be hiding his stress over it, and managing it by drinking.

I think the SAD is a red herring.

Many people with SAD use alight box at home, or manage to get 2 holidays in winter sun to help them through the darker months.

They don't have to take drugs.

They may not die from liver failure, but the mental decline is real.
Dementia is a real risk too.

You do realise not all people with sad can afford winter holidays ? Luckily we can and we did go away over Xmas and new year but not everyone is in a position to do that. This is a really tone deaf comment. I suggest you get off your pedestal.

Anyway, as I last updated dh is fine, learnt his lesson and won't be consuming large amounts of whiskey anymore. Thanks all

@howyoufeeling I’ve tagged you because of an awful situation that happened to a friend that you may be unaware about. Her DH was a binge drinker- just parties. Fine the rest of the time. He attempted suicide during a binge, and nearly succeeded. He was not suffering depression, it was just the effect of the alcohol. Totally unexpected, no warning, she nearly lost him.

Also, while his lad may be driving, your DH is working while over the limit. Depending what he does, it could invalidate his work insurance. Any accident might not be covered. And I would imagine his clients can smell it on him, shower or not. You won’t smell it because you are used to it.

Sounds like you're driving him to it.....

Wow, what a hateful and misogynistic comment! There is nothing at all in the OPs posts that even suggest anything remotely. Take your hateful misogyny elsewhere.

The fuck you're on about!?!?!??!?!!??!

@Snakebite61 Yep, blame the woman 🙄

@VindiVici there's nothing wrong with taking prescription drugs 🙄

As its a one off I would be full of sympathy but I would say that he needs to monitor how he is feeling, as excessive alcohol is often a salve for depression.

I do agree with all who have commented regarding his physical health and mental health. I know my dh, unlike the posters saying he definitely drinks in secret... he is a good man, a hard worker, a good hands on dad who has to much pride to be sipping from a hip flask in secret. He's not that guy. If he wants a drink he will have one, on his own time, not in work and nobody will tell him otherwise. He knows he went overboard and in a way I'm kind of glad he did as now it's really given him/us reason to look at his weekend drinking and realise it has become more of a habit than it should be ! So something good has come of this I guess, realisation and the understanding that something needs to change.

Horrid and unnecessary comment to a woman who is very worried about her husband.

@Snakebite61 are you fucking ok? Arsehole.

She isn’t though!! She has argued clearly and multiple times that drinking an entire bottle of whisky every weekend is fine, and eventually admitted why yes it is binge drinking haha silly me. If my dh was doing that I’d be sending him to the gp for liver tests, checking our wills, and telling him we are done if I see alcohol in the house again because if he’s going to die of cirrhosis I want to already have a clearly separate household for the kids.

Does that mean he won't be drinking a whole bottle at the weekend? Because that is still a large amount.

@Convolvulus Of course he won't. And if he was stupid enough to bring a bottle home this evening (he won't) I would be telling him he's a fucking idiot and putting his health at risk and he would be in the doghouse big time. But as it stands, he's not an idiot, depressed at the moment and I am very aware of that fact.