Dh drank a whole bottle of whiskey

[howyoufeeling]

Seriously a whole bottle of Jameson.
Now dh is a good bloke, works his ass off in his own company, hands on dad, looks after us the best he can. He's got SADS, does every winter. He's upped his sertraline as recommended so waiting for that to take effect.
I took the little ones to bed last night and slept all night with them, he drank a whole bottle of whiskey. He didn't cause any trouble or anything you might expect from someone drinking that amount, wasn't sick or anything but couldn't get into bed as his head was spinning so slept downstairs. I've come down this morning and the whole bottle is gone.
Aibu or will this not fuck his liver ?! He's currently in bed dying, has work in a bit. Can't help but feel a little smug and so fucking grateful I don't feel how he does !!

Not normal thinking.

@Mightymoog because she had a huge tolerance for alcohol - worked out as 12 bottles as each box was 3 litres.

She died eventually but she kept up this level for a long time

@RabbitsRock ik I quoted her post, I just read the list and struggled to see how anyone could do that

The second line was to op

@Blushingm I couldn’t drink that much liquid in a day

Jesus, that's a lot.
Could she afford it?

I'm sorry to hear this, my mum would drink everything if she could find it. She did fib and say her bloods were ok (when they weren't). It must be a massive strain and worry for you

I think he’d know if he had alcohol poisoning by now - i’m not a regular drinker but at a party last summer I ended up drinking the majority of a bottle of gin and I absolutely knew all about it within a couple of hours.

Um, do you know how alcoholism works....?

Thank god it wasn't a litre but I'd still be very concerned about him. And I'd actually want to him to see a GP about his SAD/alcohol problem - because this is a problem. Just because it's not every day doesn't normalise it - there was a thought pattern last night when he sat down to drink that needs sorting out.

And fuck off to everyone with their 'my so-and-so drank 5 barrels a night and their liver was fine' stories. My cousin was an alcoholic and dead at 36. How about that for a little alcoholism anecdote?

Yeah this. OP if you're that concerned about his mental health then I really wouldn't be laughing and feeling smug and posting on mumsnet.

I would be getting him in to see a doctor asap.

@Starlight1984 Yes I do, an alcoholic uncle who has recently died from a tragic accident due to drink. An alcoholic sister who is drinking for breakfast. Dh is not an alcohol. Just depressed at the moment and looking for an escape from his mind. I understand alcohol is a slippery slope but I can safely say my dh doesn't have a drink problem, last night was the first of such an occurrence.

@Mightymoog not really - she almost had her house repossessed, utilities weren't paid, landline cut off

At one time she had a 6 figure salary but as you can imagine eventually she got caught drinking at work (she drank for years at work but never got caught) Took civil service pension for ill health and died not long after

Again @Starlight1984 Please see my updates about feeling smug. I already said those were the wrong words to choose.

Yes I am worried about him at the moment but I also know my dh and know he won't be proud of his actions last night

My mother did die - I've already said that. She died a horrible death - burst oesophageal varies so could see herself bleeding to death. That a nice little anecdote for you?

I've been sober for almost 2 years now (I come from a family of heavy drinkers, my dad and 2 of my siblings are alcoholics, although my dad also went tea-total some years ago) and I've been reading a lot and listening to podcasts a lot on alcohol. One of the factors that can really make someone fall into alcoholism is their relative "resistance" to it as in, we don't get sick as much or as quickly and we can function "normally" even under a relatively large amount of alcohol. I used to tell myself "yeah, I've had 3 double gin and tonics at lunch but I'm not even tipsy, I'm just relaxed, I'm not drunk or sleepy or anything, everything is fine". I was also healthy and didn't show any signs of organ damage... yet! You convince yourself that you're actually worse without the alcohol (trembling, palpitations, irritability, antisocial, depressed...) and as soon as the 1st drink hits that day, it's like you're taking a big, deep breath... but in reality, you're just making everything worse for the next day, and the cycle starts all over again.
It's not OK to drink a whole bottle of whiskey, never, let alone at home alone. Depression isn't a justification for heavy drinking or alcoholism, it can be a factor and/or a side effect of the addiction.
I would try and talk to him and point him to therapy. His seasonal depression will be made worse by drinking (even if it doesn't feel that way whilst you're drinking) and it is also recommended to avoid drinking when on sertraline.
This podcast really helped me realise the extent of issues with alcohol (over) consumption, I hope this helps:
https://pca.st/episode/568737a0-2414-4d14-b5d4-3f2688008037

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So sorry she got to that stage.
It's a terrible affliction.

Blushingm @femfemlicious meant that they thought there were 3 bottles of wine in each box.I actually didn’t realise a box has the equivalent of 4 bottles!

People with alcoholic family members are much more likely to end up with a partner with problem drinking.

They used to have 4, then went down to 3; probaby 2.5 by now!

It's quite a misconception to believe all alcoholics are the same, e.g. drink at breakfast, slur, behave badly, are bad partners and parents, (insert other stigma here)...
I was none of those, and even my partner now wouldn't describe me as an alcoholic, but I do. I know. I was your under the radar drinker, you'd never notice! I'd never drink before lunch or in front of the kids, I'd not spend all my money on it and I didn't lose friends, jobs or anything over it. You may not think as your DH as an alcoholic but to try and medicate your depression with alcohol is a pretty big stepping stone.

How long does it take for the higher dose of Sertraline to take effect OP?

At this point, the fact he mixed this amount of alcohol with a new dose of medication, would be a major concern for me.

I think this is warning bell that should not be dismissed.

Yes I'd be worried about his mental health - he sounds like he's really needing to block life out. Is there anything new that might be making things even harder than the SAD alone at the moment?

I hope he's feeling better soon. But maybe he's better to stay off work today, it can't help anything at work if he goes in looking terrible and smelling of whiskey.

@howyoufeeling it's frightening when you've got family members who have alcohol issues - my brother drank heavily too but to the same extent as my mum. I didn't drink for 15 years as I was terrified I'd turn in to my mum