To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

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decided to edit this a bit for clarity - I'm a Ms, my pharmacist keeps writing Miss on the labels (as part of a wider pattern of annoying behaviour). Will I look mad if I say please call me Ms on my labels?

(The prescriptions all say Ms)

@Miss Scarlet - Alas, I fear you might be correct. And that is so sad. Why on earth, in this day and age, should a woman's identity depend on whether she has a male partner that she's happy to live with?

It's great, fantastic, fabulous that people are happily married, but it's not something that anyone else should really care about. It does not define either the woman's or the man's identity or status. That's going back centuries - millenia even. But past people were a lot more subtle and perceptive than the current internet generation. Even they knew that arranged marriages - as were common then - were more about property inheritance or political affiliation than individual wishes or identity. Hence so many romances/fairy tales.

I've been happily married for many years, and I am profoundly grateful to have been fortunate enough to have met - accidentally - a nice man. But it really does not matter to me what anyone calls me. And I would in NO WAY AT ALL look differently upon a woman who has not had or did not WANT the same marital status. People should do what's best for them, whatever status they might feel that to be.

I have- as was traditional in Scotland - kept my unmarried name. But I'm deliberately known by my initials on bank cards etc. My sex or even my gender identification (female) has nothing to do with my finances. Or a lot else.

Lecture = enquire to make sure all is in order.

Never had a problem with any pharmacist, strange you have with two.

Miss sounds like an ancient crone
Have some respect for others.
OPs words. Oh the irony.

What has the Equality Act got to do with someone dying?

Oh sorry , were you there in the shop?

All the pharmacist should be checking is the name and address are correct and the meds are what the customer was expecting.

This was a lecture starting with her asking why I was taking x (which is none of her business) and that I'd be better off without it.

The OP is correct - some pharmacists are keen to show their disapproval of private scripts.

I wish this was all I had to get wound up about 🙄

Disagree, my DS was on very strong ABs for tonsillitis, the pharmacist reiterated the need to go to A&E immediately, if the situation worsened.

No harm in him doing that.

Pharmacists are not robots, they are trained professionals.

I know! 🙄

Because women should not be defined by marriage status.

With respect, it sounds like you are struggling to really put yourself in the shoes of a pharmacist. I wonder if you would feel differently after working as a pharmacist for a week. I would certainly struggle with the amount of demands, the precision required to make sure I was dispensing the correct medicine; the people who pop in to discuss all sorts of matters relating to physical and mental health. I always think when I watch pharmacists at work that it is a job I would really struggle to do and I respect and feel grateful other people have the skill set to do it! What I am thinking is that this is not about you or any spite towards you… apart from anything else I would imagine pharmacists have so much on their minds to remember and do precisely and correctly that the last thing on their minds would be pissing someone off intentionally.

Yeah, go for it, it's not like the NHS isn't busy enough.

Oh I see you think that a pharmacist has the right to query what was discussed and agreed between patient and doctor and decide they know better?

The right to ask a patient, in front of other customers , when collecting a prescription, what it's for?

The examples you give are nothing like the situation I had.

The OP's script is a private script. It has no effect on the NHS.

Pharmacists are highly trained professionals and are expected to do FAR MORE than just check name, address and medication. Otherwise a vending machine could do the job. GPs are not infallible and can make mistakes, the expectation is we pick it up if it does happen

If there is an error with the prescription where the dose is wrong and the patient comes to harm, we are jointly liable with the GP. Yes we do ask why something has been prescribed on occasion because some drugs are prescribed at different doses for different conditions.

With an attitude like yours, it’s no wonder your pharmacist has taken a dislike to you

I don’t know it the pharmacist controls those or if it is just data from the prescriptipn.

I am like you in that it irks me when people use “Miss” (or occasionally, weirdly, “Mrs”) for me. It’s not my title. I would prefer no title to “Miss”.

Pharmacists are under a legal and professional obligation to comprehend and challenge a prescription which a pharmacist feels is unsuitable or potentially harmful. They are not processing robots whose task is merely to mechanically put labels of packets of pills in a bag and check your DoB and address

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It's not your name though. It's a title.

Please explain why the Boots pharmacist's response to my asking if they were selling a private script too low compared to what I'd been charged before was " do you want this or not"?

Please explain why I should tell a pharmacist in front of other customers why I was taking a certain medication?

Funny then that Boots, the same Boots branch who were so rude about my suggesting they were under chargingme for the private script, have never once asked about any NHS scripts.

YABU. Ms is pretentious. You’re either a Miss or a Mrs. Ms to me is someone who is divorced or unmarried and for some reason doesn’t want to say so. Ms is akin to they/ them. You’re one or the other- shit or get off the pot.

A little off topic, but I always assumed that even if a married couple decide not to change/share their name the woman/women still change their title? As 'Mrs' denotes married. Unless otherwise preferred, of course.

(By "always assumed" I mean I've never, ever thought about it until just now, when I read your post. 😅)

You can tell them you do not want to disclose in front of other customers or ask to speak in the consulting room.

The Boots pharmacist is a human and could have been having a bad day hence the short response. It could be they’re someone who’s not particularly nice but that doesn’t give you the right to discredit an entire profession.

I despise my local Boots because there are just not enough staff so no matter how hard the pharmacist tries, the service is appalling. Doesn’t mean every Boots in the country is as bad

Honestly who cares 🙄

Exactly. What a ludicrous thing to get worked up about! 🙄