To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

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decided to edit this a bit for clarity - I'm a Ms, my pharmacist keeps writing Miss on the labels (as part of a wider pattern of annoying behaviour). Will I look mad if I say please call me Ms on my labels?

(The prescriptions all say Ms)

Well it’s reflective and your banging on at me being wrong, no place in 21st century, no respect and being in the “proud to be married” group.

A large proportion agree with me.

Yes the majority of women do agree with you and they put everyone they're ever registered with the admin load of updating their title and surname when they get married. So since the majority do care about their title it is really weird of you to not think it's a big deal when that title is Ms and it's not recorded as requested? If the majority of women agree with you it's no big deal why do the majority of you change it to Mrs if you don't care about whether you are correctly labelled as that and titles are something no one cares about? You can't have it both ways, therefore your "the majority agree with me, you're making a stink about being called Ms" sounds really hypocritical when you could have stayed as Miss maiden name but you want people to respect your choice to change it.

It's about time we stopped using titles - there's just no need and they're causing unnecessary hassle and wasting a lot of admin/management time.

We stopped using them in our firm a few years ago. Only one client even mentioned the lack of Ms/Mrs/Mr/Dr and they were just mentioning it in passing rather than complaining. Prior to that, idiotic complaints were far too common.

I know it will blow some people's minds, but we also stopped using Male/Female markers on databases etc. Just no need at all.

It was a data protection law change a few years ago that prompted it as one of the new rules/laws was that you should only keep and process data that you need to keep and process, i.e. every little bit of data used must have a purpose/requirement. We did a thorough review of all our databases and no one could come up with a genuine reason why we needed titles nor sex/gender for our clients, so we went through the databases, removed the fields if possible, and if not possible, changed the data within the field to be blank or n/a.

In the few years since we "cleansed" the databases, we've never actually missed having that data and never found that we needed the data.

Everything in our database, all forms, all letters, emails, etc., now use a simple salutation of initials, and/or firstname, and lasttime. Simples!

No idea! You’d have to ask them!

For me, being called Miss or Ms is a non issue.

In fact given by first name, I’m often called Mr.

As long as the meds were right, im
happy .

A rose by any other name.......

I’ve been using Ms since I was a teenager. Yet I still get post addressed to me as ‘Miss’ which makes me feel about 5. My small daughter is a ‘miss’. My small son and spouse are both Mr because nobody gives a shit if they’re married or not. It’s everyday sexism to use married titles in my opinion. I hate that my daughter knows which of her female teachers are married (irrelevant!) but nobody knows if the male teachers are married or not. It sends a poor message.

I don’t always raise it but I really should. It’s only a small issue if you think we should live in a sexist society and put up with it. The difficulty is so many people don’t understand why it’s an issue or indeed care. Whenever this comes up on mumsnet, everyone says not to get your knickers in a twist/I’ve got bigger things to worry about etc.

Are they chill pills?
Take one

What's your point? A majority of women once agreed that only men should have the right to vote.

Did they? I mean, no-one actually asked, did they?

Are you being serious?

This puts my problems into perspective

Well surely you are always called Miss and you stayed registered as that everywhere, right? You didn't go around causing a fuss to change your title to something no one cares about of course?

You didn't go around causing a fuss to change your title to something no one cares about of course

Does "causing a fuss" apply to women who change their title and name when they get married?

Also to those saying it doesn't matter - what if the pharmacist put Mr versus Ms? Having a title that indicates a different sex could make a big difference depending on the meds the patient was being prescribed. Someone I know was supposed to be being prescribed HRT and instead was prescribed testosterone, not sure how or where tye mix up began, but surely having the correct title does matter in that case as a common sense check? 'Oh Ms Blah, do you know why the doctor prescribed you testosterone? What was the issue you were trying to treat? Oh HRT - you've been prescribed the wrong medication. ' But generally I do agree that if titles don't matter let's bin them to save the admin as a PP suggested upthread.

Also before someone accuses me of making up the above mix up, I can tell you that I was also wrongly given pills for angina, codeine, and blood thinners when I was in that pharmacist for something else. Also the GP surgery was terrible for making errors themselves including telling a 90 year old woman she just had a cough and wouldn't check her sats, she died two days later of pneumonia (again someone I know so can verify this).

It's completely sexist as is the "quiet down woman, stop making such a fuss " responses people are giving to a woman asking someone to do something as simple as get her details correct. Internalised misogyny on full display.

But "Mrs" get a free pass because it's expected women should do that and be pleased to do it.

I think there are far more important things to worry about.

Apparently not, updating your title and surname with every change to your marital status is just viewed as updating your details but asking people to use the title you've provided which will stay consistent whether you marry, divorced, remarry etc is making a big fuss 🤷🏻‍♀️

Op, clearly most of us couldn’t give a shit. But it is clear it is massively important to you. To such an extent you even think ms is part of your name and not just a title. And start a thread on it.

so next time you go in, just say can I ask you to correct as I prefer ms to miss.

Agree with this but she should say, "Miss is incorrect", not "I prefer Ms".

It's because they don't see "Mrs" as a preference (even though it is). They think updating your title to Mrs and changing your surname is updating something factual and all the admin load of doing that everywhere you are registered is a must do task, but telling the pharmacist that they've incorrectly entered your title is a big fuss of nothing.

She doesn't prefer Ms though, Ms is her title and what she's provided them and what they keep not correcting. Miss isn't a correct title she doesn't prefer, it's just as wrong as being Mr.

A title is a choice, a preference, there is no law on which you can use. It is a personal choice. A preference. She chooses ms. She can easily chose something else.

She can.

Other people can't choose something else for her though.

Right but they already know her chosen title and keep ignoring it, so personally I wouldn't be saying to them "I prefer Ms" anymore than I'd be saying "I prefer my name spelled X" I'd be saying it's incorrect and asking them why they keep entering it wrong