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My husband keeps touching my full face...WTF

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Thankgodforwine · 15/02/2025 23:26

My husband randomly runs his hand down the front of my entire face.....he knows it annoys the fuck out of me ...but he keeps doing it. When I voice my annoyance/rage, he makes it out as if it's "me"problem.
He is a great guy and dad....amazing husband and provider but ...WTF, is it me or is this normal. For context and to avoid drip feeding, I'm not a fan of human contact...like hugging etc ...some may say I'm awkward...but a hand to the full face ...surely nobody likes this, also his hands are sweaty as fuck, no joke ...these hands are damp. Am I being unreasonable, please say I am not 🤣

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SerenStarEtoile · 15/02/2025 23:37

Not unreasonable at all. I would hate it and think most people would. Ick!

Yougetmoreofwhatyoufocuson · 15/02/2025 23:40

He knows you don’t like and yet he still does it. Are there other things he does that you have said you don’t like?
Personally I would find that akin to assault.

RogueFemale · 15/02/2025 23:40

No it's not normal. It's abnormal and weird.

username299 · 15/02/2025 23:40

Yank his armpit hair.

TourangaLeila · 15/02/2025 23:43

Yeah great guy. He continues to do something he knows you don't like and then gaslights you about it.

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Thankgodforwine · 15/02/2025 23:44

SerenStarEtoile · 15/02/2025 23:37

Not unreasonable at all. I would hate it and think most people would. Ick!

Thank God I thought i was going crazy lol

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tillyandmilly · 15/02/2025 23:44

I would slap his face!

Duh · 15/02/2025 23:46

I remember a character doing this to his family members in a film (John Travolta in Face Off) and it was weird as fuck to watch but was supposedly inherent to a ‘recognition’ part of the storyline. I never thought anyone would do it in real life. How odd.

discdiscsnap · 15/02/2025 23:46

I would hate that. Do something equally irritating back . Like ruffle his hair or rub his ear

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Thankgodforwine · 15/02/2025 23:46

Yougetmoreofwhatyoufocuson · 15/02/2025 23:40

He knows you don’t like and yet he still does it. Are there other things he does that you have said you don’t like?
Personally I would find that akin to assault.

Loads ...we have been together 20+ years ..so other things I can deal with...but this I draw the line ...I just can't cope with it, it actually drives me insane

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JaneFoe · 15/02/2025 23:47

username299 · 15/02/2025 23:40

Yank his armpit hair.

Nostril hair works too.

BMW6 · 15/02/2025 23:48

I think he's doing it BECAUSE it annoys you.

I'd slap his hand away and tell him he can choose a) stop doing it or b) Divorce

rainbowsparkle28 · 15/02/2025 23:49

Yougetmoreofwhatyoufocuson · 15/02/2025 23:40

He knows you don’t like and yet he still does it. Are there other things he does that you have said you don’t like?
Personally I would find that akin to assault.

This. He is not a great husband. He does it knowing that you don’t like it and is disrespecting your boundaries and bodily autonomy completely and it seems intimidating you. What sort of person intentionally does that?! 😤🤨 I would be telling him in no uncertain terms that he is to stop immediately or this is a deal breaker, end of. His choice. And mean it.

Doingmybest12 · 15/02/2025 23:50

He isn't a great guy and amazing husband. I think it's an intimidating and disrespectful thing to do.

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Thankgodforwine · 15/02/2025 23:50

I told him today if he done it again he was getting a punch to the balls ....he done it again a couple of hours later ...it's so weird. Obvs didn't punch him in the balls because I'm not evil lol

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MrsTerryPratchett · 15/02/2025 23:50

Tell him that next time, you will do something equally unpleasant back. I suggest a sock full of pound coins to the nadgers. Doesn't take a lot of force and he won't see it coming.

Seriously, I would say, "if you touch me like that again, knowing I hate it, I will assume you hate me. And I will act accordingly". No smile, no little laugh, no words that minimise or excuse.

Talipesmum · 15/02/2025 23:52

Draw down his face but with a green sharpie.

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 15/02/2025 23:52

How did you react when he did it again?

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/02/2025 23:53

lol

I hate when women do this. Describe something horrible, disrespectful and abusive happening in their home. Then "LOL". It's not funny. No one is laughing except him. Because he's a cunt. And he's relying on you having no boundaries. Have some.

What would he do if you poured water over his head? Or slapped his hand away? Or shouted in his face? I suspect you don't because I suspect he's actually worse than you are describing and you're a little afraid.

xRobin · 15/02/2025 23:53

Thankgodforwine · 15/02/2025 23:50

I told him today if he done it again he was getting a punch to the balls ....he done it again a couple of hours later ...it's so weird. Obvs didn't punch him in the balls because I'm not evil lol

This is very very odd. How long has he been doing this?
Do you secretly hate each other?
It sounds like he irritates the living shit out of you and it sounds like he enjoys irritating you.

Renamed · 15/02/2025 23:54

Why didn’t you punch him in the balls?

powershowerforanhour · 15/02/2025 23:55

The next time he's doing it, bite the hand. If he does it again, bite harder.

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Thankgodforwine · 15/02/2025 23:56

He's honestly not intimidating he's just so annoying...I'm wondering if he's "premanopausal" 😂

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MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 15/02/2025 23:56

Why are you laughing about this?

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Thankgodforwine · 15/02/2025 23:58

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/02/2025 23:50

Tell him that next time, you will do something equally unpleasant back. I suggest a sock full of pound coins to the nadgers. Doesn't take a lot of force and he won't see it coming.

Seriously, I would say, "if you touch me like that again, knowing I hate it, I will assume you hate me. And I will act accordingly". No smile, no little laugh, no words that minimise or excuse.

I love this advice 🩷 thank you

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