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If you buy a massive 4×4 SUV...

518 replies

bravefox · 15/02/2025 14:34

... to ask you to practise parking it in a single space? Saturday afternoon in the town multistorey and the number of huge cars parked half in a second space is 🤯

OP posts:
Plantatreetoday · 16/02/2025 00:03
snow white and the seven dwarfs GIF

and Luckily they all arrived on foot 😁 @AnSolas
although I do have a very large glove compartment if the need arises 🤣

Whammyyammy · 16/02/2025 00:07

Lemsipper · 15/02/2025 14:35

Thats why I normally just park in the adult & child bays! (Despite no child) its not easy parking this beast 😜

And me. We have a huge pick up for husbands moto cross bikes. Only fit in parent and child bays.

Plantatreetoday · 16/02/2025 00:13

I think given the issue with

  • bad parking, across drivers irrespective of vehicle choice
  • larger vehicles
  • larger people
  • increased mobility issues
We should just enlarge all parking bays. They did it when building Bluewater shopping centre…….of course that’s a lot more tarmac 🤢
JJZ · 16/02/2025 00:15

Wordau · 15/02/2025 14:46

They're too big for single spaces a lot of the time.

They're too big full stop.

Fucking ridiculous for city dwellers to have these wanky child killing machines.

If you have one, I judge you.

And what if you live rurally, own livestock etc, use the SUV to do the school run…

JJZ · 16/02/2025 00:17

I love my 4x4. I park very considerately though, always in the lines and always reverse park because it’s safer, especially with such a huge vehicle.

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 16/02/2025 00:22

bravefox · 15/02/2025 14:53

I'm sorry I simply don't accept this. There are more, smaller, cars available then every before. If you purchase a giant car that's your choice. None of the cars I saw today was out the space on both sides.

Mine is an suv but not a 4x4.

Thise smaller cars are no good for getting wheelchairs in, I bought my car deliberately so I could help care for a dear friend who unfortunately died recently. Her chair would not go in anything smaller, believe me I tried.

However, I can park it.

Those posters saying spaces aren't bug enough are correct though.it is a well known fact that the car parks are designed with 1980'scars in mind and not current ones. There are some multistorey near me where you would be hard pushed to get a mini in the spaces as they are so bloody narrow

Plantatreetoday · 16/02/2025 00:29

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 16/02/2025 00:22

Mine is an suv but not a 4x4.

Thise smaller cars are no good for getting wheelchairs in, I bought my car deliberately so I could help care for a dear friend who unfortunately died recently. Her chair would not go in anything smaller, believe me I tried.

However, I can park it.

Those posters saying spaces aren't bug enough are correct though.it is a well known fact that the car parks are designed with 1980'scars in mind and not current ones. There are some multistorey near me where you would be hard pushed to get a mini in the spaces as they are so bloody narrow

Even worse.
The parking standards date back to the 1970s

OonaStubbs · 16/02/2025 00:44

SUVs should be banned outright. There is no reason for them to exist.

OonaStubbs · 16/02/2025 00:46

JJZ · 16/02/2025 00:15

And what if you live rurally, own livestock etc, use the SUV to do the school run…

How did people who lived rurally cope in the past, before SUVs?

People had larger families back then too.

And you can't fit put cows and sheep into an SUV.

Plantatreetoday · 16/02/2025 00:56

OonaStubbs · 16/02/2025 00:46

How did people who lived rurally cope in the past, before SUVs?

People had larger families back then too.

And you can't fit put cows and sheep into an SUV.

4 wheel drives were introduced in 1949 .( military vehicles before then )
A lot of People couldn’t afford them of course so walked everywhere. There would have been more local village shops and schools though.
As pp have noted SUVs are needed to pull horse boxes and around here they also pull hay carts ( tractors as well ) and sheep carts.

Im guessing prior to cars they used horse and carts,

theprincessthepea · 16/02/2025 01:18

I’m actually very good at parking, and driving in general if I do say so myself. I always parked in the line when I had my mini car, and when I got a family car I do the same! Even if it means I have to hop out and check then hop back in again. Then again I’ve driven vans in the past so I have practice.

Sorry but if you struggle to drive a big car (and I see it so much) - then downsize - get a car that you can park and that you can drive. Stop being a nuisance.

MissTrip82 · 16/02/2025 01:21

TagSplashMaverick · 15/02/2025 15:08

These threads always trigger bonkers generalisations like this 😂 is it jealousy? Insecurity? Not sure. Funny though.

Surely nobody thinks anyone is jealous of their car? What an utterly bizarre thing to think. You can’t possibly belive that, surely.

mathanxiety · 16/02/2025 03:08

OonaStubbs · 16/02/2025 00:46

How did people who lived rurally cope in the past, before SUVs?

People had larger families back then too.

And you can't fit put cows and sheep into an SUV.

An aunt of mine (a farmer) had an SUV in the late 70s. My grandfather drove his tractor on the country roads, sometimes pulling loads of hay or milk churns, but also just to get from point A to point B. He also had a car, but it didn't have the flexibility or clearance of the tractor. He couldn't easily check the fields as he drove past either, in the car.

People didn't have to put children in car seats up to the age of 12 back in the day. Those things take up space. I remember sitting in the boot of an estate car that was packed with ten classmates, heading to a party at about age 6. I don't remember the car having seat belts. We often gave three or four neighbourhood kids a lift to school in a car that would probably have accommodated four adults.

You can definitely put sheep in an SUV. You fold down the back seats or take them out altogether and use a couple of planks for them to walk up.

mathanxiety · 16/02/2025 03:16

Plantatreetoday · 15/02/2025 21:34

Architect here, we also develope.
None of my white van men/ women ever arrive with a full van of stuff as I supply all materials and most of their equipment too.( lots of clients supply materials ) I really don’t know why they need their vans, they could easily jump on the tube, train or bus

Tbh unless you have your van stacked to the top there’s no need for them. Haven’t you ever noticed how everything (if anything) is low level, the spaces are never filled. Well not in my too long experience.

The only tradespeople I know that need their space are gardeners and tree cutters ( ? ). They have quite big machines in the back of their vans!

So you see.
We don’t all live the same lives and
there are many many complex reasons why people make the choices they do
which is why
i prefer not to judge

live and let live.

Edited

They like to use their own tools, ime. And also, they probably don't all like traipsing from the nearest bus stop or train station to the site, perhaps having to use several buses or trains to get to work and then home again, or on to their side job.

mathanxiety · 16/02/2025 03:33

Plantatreetoday · 15/02/2025 20:09

Agree re Oklahoma et all parking. We stopped walking between the shops after a while as everything was so spread out and the roads so wide that it took ages to get a few things. We could see why those in the know car jumped.

I will have to disagree though on reversing into a parking spot. It is always safer than reversing out into oncoming cars and pedestrians walking about and is recommended.

Jaywalking is not allowed in the US, so backing into pedestrians in the road isn't likely to happen. People tend to reverse very cautiously out, and the angled parking makes seeing what's coming much easier. Plus, so many cars have cameras, it really isn't a dangerous maneuver where angled parking is concerned (though the cameras make it easier to back into perpendicular spaces too). Finally, the US is a litigious society, and failing to exercise caution when you're backing out of a parking spot can really backfire on the driver. If you drive recklessly, you also risk having to surrender your license and paying a hefty fine to get it back. The vast majority of people drive carefully and are not jerks.

Porridgeislife · 16/02/2025 06:00

mathanxiety · 16/02/2025 03:33

Jaywalking is not allowed in the US, so backing into pedestrians in the road isn't likely to happen. People tend to reverse very cautiously out, and the angled parking makes seeing what's coming much easier. Plus, so many cars have cameras, it really isn't a dangerous maneuver where angled parking is concerned (though the cameras make it easier to back into perpendicular spaces too). Finally, the US is a litigious society, and failing to exercise caution when you're backing out of a parking spot can really backfire on the driver. If you drive recklessly, you also risk having to surrender your license and paying a hefty fine to get it back. The vast majority of people drive carefully and are not jerks.

The US has a huge mortality rate per 100,000 population for car accidents though - broadly 10x that of the UK, and over double that of Canada and Australia. For a developed country it’s quite high, if not at the top.

Anecdotally, it’s also the only place I’ve ever had an Uber driver openly flicking through Instagram whilst in moving traffic 😳

Mingenious · 16/02/2025 06:01

hattie43 · 15/02/2025 22:47

40-60k does not buy you a newish RR.

Best take up 3 spaces horizontally then, just to be extra sure it’s safe.

wombat1a · 16/02/2025 06:56

LillyPJ · 15/02/2025 14:56

Living in the country is a pathetic excuse for being selfish.

Have you experienced the pot-holes in most country B roads and back lanes. Are family moved from sensible sized hatchbacks to 4x4 after destroying the engine in when it hydrolocked in a 15cm flood (doing around 10 mph) caused by the drains being blocked and the front suspension in a 2nd after hitting a water-filled pot-hole at 30 mph.

Quite frankly the two replacements are stupidly big but at least they can travel on the roads we have around here.

HelplessSoul · 16/02/2025 07:09

OonaStubbs · 16/02/2025 00:44

SUVs should be banned outright. There is no reason for them to exist.

Obviously you know nothing about free market economics.

Supply and demand.

Car manufacturers invest heavily in product research to supply vehicles that people want to buy.

And overwhelmingly its SUVs, ergo, car makers make more of them.

Its called freedom to choose. What will you ban next, peoples thoughts? They way they blink or fart?

Banned outright - LOL. Gotta be the single most stupid comment/argument on this thread, among many of the anti-SUV brigade.

Thankfully though, people that want them, will still buy them - so yeh, carry on moaning about it because your mythical ban aint happening 😂

hattie43 · 16/02/2025 07:49

To add some balance the worst parking I see is by small car owners who just swerve into a parking space making no attempt to straighten up and happy to leave the car at an angle over the side markings .

Organically · 16/02/2025 07:50

HelplessSoul · 16/02/2025 07:09

Obviously you know nothing about free market economics.

Supply and demand.

Car manufacturers invest heavily in product research to supply vehicles that people want to buy.

And overwhelmingly its SUVs, ergo, car makers make more of them.

Its called freedom to choose. What will you ban next, peoples thoughts? They way they blink or fart?

Banned outright - LOL. Gotta be the single most stupid comment/argument on this thread, among many of the anti-SUV brigade.

Thankfully though, people that want them, will still buy them - so yeh, carry on moaning about it because your mythical ban aint happening 😂

Actually that’s not the case. The real reason we have a market flooded with the SUVs is that the safety laws and taxes in the US are different for trucks - basically more lax and cheaper.

So the designers concentrate on making things that appeal to the US market - ie on truck type chassis - and slightly reskin them for Europe.

So it’s driven (excuse the pun) by legislation and tax, neither of which offer a free market.

The OEMs then spend millions on advertising, persuading us that we want them. I can see it’s worked especially well for some on this thread.

HelplessSoul · 16/02/2025 07:58

Organically · 16/02/2025 07:50

Actually that’s not the case. The real reason we have a market flooded with the SUVs is that the safety laws and taxes in the US are different for trucks - basically more lax and cheaper.

So the designers concentrate on making things that appeal to the US market - ie on truck type chassis - and slightly reskin them for Europe.

So it’s driven (excuse the pun) by legislation and tax, neither of which offer a free market.

The OEMs then spend millions on advertising, persuading us that we want them. I can see it’s worked especially well for some on this thread.

Partially agree, however the fact remains that the freedom to choose what to buy is the thrust behind the demand for SUVs.

https://www.dacemotorgroup.co.uk/blog/the-rise-of-suvs-in-the-uk-trends-and-insights

Granted this link is but one perspective, but you are sorely mistaken if you think tax and legislation alone drive this push - especially when a lot of SUVs these days fall into the higher VED bracket above £40k.

People are buying them despite that financial hit - ergo, demand is the driver for SUVs, legislation and taxation most certainly arent top dog in that race.

Organically · 16/02/2025 08:09

HelplessSoul · 16/02/2025 07:58

Partially agree, however the fact remains that the freedom to choose what to buy is the thrust behind the demand for SUVs.

https://www.dacemotorgroup.co.uk/blog/the-rise-of-suvs-in-the-uk-trends-and-insights

Granted this link is but one perspective, but you are sorely mistaken if you think tax and legislation alone drive this push - especially when a lot of SUVs these days fall into the higher VED bracket above £40k.

People are buying them despite that financial hit - ergo, demand is the driver for SUVs, legislation and taxation most certainly arent top dog in that race.

You misunderstand.

The OEMs don’t give a toss about the UK market - it’s far too small. They design for America and we get whatever they make.

Americans want trucks (which SUCs fall within) partly because of their weird ‘Murica, freedom nostalgia crap and mostly because they are much cheaper to buy than saloons or hatchbacks. They are cheaper to buy because the tax system favours them, and safety laws are less strict. That’s why the cybertruck isn’t sold in Europe - it passes US truck safety laws but not ours.

That article is copy generated by the industry as part of the millions they spend persuading the customers what they should want.

The fact that UK drivers pay a premium for SUVs is neither here nor there - OEMs do not design for us. They design for America (and to a lesser extent, Asia & Europe - tweak the skins to make them complaint).

If you think our tiny car market has any influence on the designs available, I’d like to discuss a bridge I have for sale.

Free market is something advertisers like to help us pretend we have but it’s all down to their profit margins - not our ‘choice.

HelplessSoul · 16/02/2025 08:18

@Organically

With respect, I think you're misunderstanding me.

As i said, I partially agree with what you said about US designs coming here and yes agree the UK market is small.

The fact remains, people are choosing to buy them. No marketing strategy in the world would compel me to buy a product from Apple.

Similarly, no marketing strategy can "force" or coerce people into buying SUVs.

Thats evidenced by small car purchases too.

So whatever the transatlantic sales/design virtues may be, people buying SUVs are doing so because they want to - not because they're forced to.

That is free market choice at work. If people didnt buy them, would OEMs still make and ship them to the UK? Course not - they'd be out of business.

MyPearlCrow · 16/02/2025 08:20

Lemsipper · 15/02/2025 14:39

Yes I am! I have a food baby onboard 😌

food baby?