Does anyone else not like using names much?

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I don't know why but I feel quite embarrassed about this and wonder if it's normal.
I'll use their name if I have to, such as to gain their attention but I've never been the sort of person to say, Hi Sarah, how are you Sarah, etc .. even with my own parents and partner.
However I feel like people use my name all the time, every time they speak to me. Maybe as it's short?

Waiting to be told I'm weird 😂

It's very normal in conversation not to use a person's name much - you'll notice it happens much more frequently in things like TV soaps (to remind viewers who the characters are). Once you've greeted someone you wouldn't usually repeat a person's name unless you were inviting them to comment or asking their opinion, especially in a group. Maybe you don't say much and they are trying to put you at ease/inviting you to comment?

I don't like using names much because I have a constant low level fear that I'll use the wrong name and embarrass myself. I've always been really bad at remembering names and faces.

People who over use names are weird.

I'm the same it's very strange I get so embarrassed if I have to say people's names. I'm ok with close family. If I have to get someone's attention that is ok but otherwise I don't.

I don't think I had ever used my partner's name in three years we've been together. After the split, I dated someone briefly and he used my name every single time he sent me the first message of the day. Cringed every time I read it and binned him after 6 weeks. Honestly, it felt like getting an email from my boss every morning.

Yep, I avoid using names.

Yes, it always makes me suspicious, that they're trying to 'butter me up'.

Not weird at all. I don't use people's names in conversation and find it a bit uncomfortable when people do it to me.

I don't avoid using names or dislike it, but every time I do say someone's name out loud in conversation I feel a tiny frisson of weirdness because I suddenly realise how little one ever has to do it. It's almost always when you have to get someone's attention.

I think this is different in different cultures. On another forum I have seen people asking if it is rude not to use someone's name in every sentence and they usually turn out to be from India. This would be consistent with people in Indian call centres using your name in every sentence (they usually can't pronounce mine either, which makes it all the more noticeable). In the UK I think using someone's name unless you are specifically trying to attract their attention sounds a bit unnatural.

As a kid I had a weird hangup about using someone's name unless they had told me it themselves, as if I might get told off for getting it wrong. That was not normal. But not using people's names all the time in every conversation is perfectly normal.

Agree!

The only person I know who uses my name multiple times in a conversation is my financial advisor. I'm never quite sure whether it's because he's trying to make me feel important (presumably so that I follow his advice) or because he can't remember who I am and needs to remind himself! But either way I agree it sounds a bit weird.

I agree😁

It’s a sales tactic to seem familiar.

I used to absolutely hate to use names and didn’t until I was well into my 20s. I still do sparingly because it feels over familiar. I wonder how many of you are socially awkward or have autistic tendencies?

Names are to be used sparingly, then use pronouns as intended.

Most people don't use people's names a lot in conversation, unless they're actively trying to get people's attention. When someone repeatedly addresses another person by their name in normal chat, it can actually seem a bit creepy.

I managed to rename someone in my head that I'd worked with on and off for a few years. The name I've given them suits them so much better 😂. Yes OP, best to avoid using names especially if you're anything like me.

This is me exactly 💯 🤣

The only time I use names is when the meaning may be unclear if I don't. In a busy office it makes sense to start with "Hi XYZ" because if I just say "Hi" either half a dozen people will look up or nobody will. If there's nobody else around, it's obvious who I'm talking to though.

Me! I hate using names. It makes me cringe inside. Especially if it’s full names. I don’t know why!

I'm the same. Fine with family, apart from in laws.

I use peoples names its normal.
However in my family we dont use names only if we have to.
We are given a name at birth the norm then our parents give us a nick name thats what we use and our nick names stick for life its normal for us odd for outsiders.
Even our kids call us by our nick names no mum or dad.

I don’t like using people’s names. My dad taught me for 5 years and my mum for 2 of those years and I don’t think I ever called either of them anything in that time!

Yes yes yes!
I have a memory of being about 7 and not knowing what to call my friends mum - Mrs A? Her first name? B's mum? I have had a fear ever since and have to make a conscious effort to use names