Does anyone else not like using names much?

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I don't know why but I feel quite embarrassed about this and wonder if it's normal.
I'll use their name if I have to, such as to gain their attention but I've never been the sort of person to say, Hi Sarah, how are you Sarah, etc .. even with my own parents and partner.
However I feel like people use my name all the time, every time they speak to me. Maybe as it's short?

My husband never says my name. I joke that he forgot it just after our wedding and since it's now been nearly 30 years, its just too embarrassing to ask me.

The examples people are using here aren't how I'd use peoples names btw.

It would be more like when you're egging them on, or joking e.g. "Lorna, you didn't!" Or "Oh my God, Grace, I'd never have had the balls to do that. "

my husband only ever uses pet names for me.

I think I feel conflicted on this one - I would like to hear my name too.

I’ve known my husband since I was 14 (I’m 72 now) and I’ve never called him by his name. I can’t explain why, it just feels wrong. He thinks I’m weird but when I come to think of it maybe it’s because we’ve both got the same name - think Leslie and Lesley although that’s not it. I don’t think that’s the problem though, it’s more like it’s not intimate enough for our relationship? Or alternatively I’m just a weirdo 🤔

I think it must be cultural as I have colleagues in India who constantly use my name, even in a private Teams chat. It’s a lot of “Hi @ Livpool” then “so, @ Livpool…”. I have gotten used to it but it did jar a lot at first. They might think I, and the ones on the Uk, are rude 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yep me too! Since a kid it has felt too intrusive to use people's names and even their gendered titles like Mr, Miss etc. I used to get told off for writing gender as neutral in my school work. For me using someone's name feels so unnatural, like I'm shouting at them. And I hate it when people use my name, I feel like I'm being told off 🤣

Yes, I find salesmen use my name a lot.

it must be be in sales 101.

it’s horrible and immediately puts my back up.

Apparently people who don’t use names it is because it feels TOO intimate

I’m the same. I rarely say someone’s name. I never called my ex by his name, I had a nick name but only used that when I had to. I thought it odd. I usually say someone’s name when saying goodbye, nice to see you Sarah etc, but not usually any other time. Even teen DD I call her sissy (that’s her name for the dog!)!

I have a strong aversion to names. Fine when I'm talking about someone of course, but when they're present? Noooo. It makes me feel so uncomfortable - it almost feels like I'm trying to wield power over them when I do it, which I'm not. I'm a big nickname person with family and friends because of this.

A pp mentioned autism and social awkwardness, both of which apply to me, so maybe that's part of why?

Overuse of someone’s first name is cringey and can make you sound weak. My DH does it and I hate it. Eg he does it with our NDN. Morning, John/ How’s it going, John/see you later, John/Thanks, John.
FFS I hate it!
On the receiving end of it, it can sound like you’re being patronised.

Oops! Just noticed - old thread 😊

I avoid using names, as it’s what salesmen do. However, I am very bad at learning people’s names, so I try to use them occasionally, to help me learn them.

Sometimes I give advice to netball teams. When I demonstrate something, I often ask what one player’s name is, so I can say “pass the ball to Jane”, instead of “pass the ball to that girl”. Sometimes, they seem surprised to be asked.