Does anyone else not like using names much?

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I don't know why but I feel quite embarrassed about this and wonder if it's normal.
I'll use their name if I have to, such as to gain their attention but I've never been the sort of person to say, Hi Sarah, how are you Sarah, etc .. even with my own parents and partner.
However I feel like people use my name all the time, every time they speak to me. Maybe as it's short?

I don't tend to unless I'm attracting their attention or referring to them in the first person. I'm not really sure why but (as another poster mentioned) I do have some autistic traits, pointed out by the consultant when my child was diagnosed.

I have to say I really like being called by my name. Except if they get it wrong - I have a preferred diminutive and hate the more common one; I also have a surname similar to a more common one.

I'm a solicitor and I've noticed barristers address me and others by name a lot, it feels kind of flattering I suppose and makes them seem confident and aware of detail. Does that make sense?

I would like to do it more but I think deep down that (a) I've never really done it so I'd feel self conscious making the change and (b) feeling annoyed when people get my name wrong makes me paranoid I will do it myself. I remember someone correcting me quite sharply and telling me her name, Sophia, was pronounced SO-feea not so-FEE-ah (the more common way). This was several years ago and I remember clearly how bad i felt. We worked together a couple more years but I don't think I ever called her by her name again!

I've just remembered something else. In the 80s there was a playground trend that if you called out someone's name they would retort "yes that's my name, don't wear it out!"

It's fine attracting attention (Hi [name]) or giving instructions ([name] can you do this please) it's the unnecessary insertion of the name mid- sentence when someone is already talking to me I don't like. I'm struggling to think of an example though. The husband of an ex colleague used to do it a lot.

I don't mind using people's names but I don't like people using my name. I hate when my husband uses it!

I never use people's names if I'm talking to them directly. Other than to get their attention. I find it weird when people do.

No, I'm the same. Used dhs name maybe twice outside of our marriage ceremony and I have known him about 25 years! I never even say Mum or Dad to my own parents now I think about it. Using a name maes me feel oddly embarrassed.

I find it so, so bizarre when someone is talking directly to me and uses my name. Like who else are you talking to to need to make it clear that sentence is directed at me? It's fine in a group to get someone's attention or highlight them. But anyone using your name in a one on one convo is weird.

I actually get what you mean! I use peoples names if I know them well buy I never address people by their name when greeting them at work etc. I have never lived with my Dad and I always feel abit shy or embarassed calling him Dad to his face too and I don't know why. Also slightly off topic but I hate it when people start telling me stories like Mandy came round the other week and she was saying Nathan did this and I'm thinking who the f are you talking about?? I would say 'my sister' or 'my sister...followed by their name' I don't just assume people know who I am speaking about.

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Can't bear it or my name being said either, never have liked it.

Hate it. Except with DC, maybe it's different because I chose their names? Don't know. Anyone else, including DH, and it makes me cringe a little.

I also hate saying any standard seasonal greetings. Like happy birthday, or merry Christmas. I just can't make it sound natural.

It's used as a plot device in Hamlet to show how insincere and well how dodgy Hamlet's new stepfather is, he uses Hamlet's name constantly.

I'd say the same applies in real life.

Yes! I have no problem saying dds names at all, love saying their names. And say Happy Birthday to them, never said it to anyone else!

I've never ever called my PIL by their names in 11 years 😂 I never call my DH his name either

you’ve answered your own question

I hate doing it too, so we can be weird together.

I have a really bad memory and I really struggle to remember peoples names so hardly ever use them unless it’s directly to ask something .

When people approach me and say hi * I just say hi back coz my brain is scanning trying to remember who you are lol .

I’m ok with names generally but I find myself totally unable to call my husband by his name. We’ve been married twenty years and I’ve never called him by his name. I don’t know why, maybe it feels a bit impersonal? I don’t know. It’s not just him, I couldn’t call my first husband by his name or my long term boyfriend. It feels strange to do it, almost like it’s too impersonal.

Yes, I hate it too! Except my child, I feel like I say his name constantly.

I find it particularly weird to say my partner's name. Only for when I'm very cross or I really need to get his attention.

Each to their own, different from my preference which is to use names and never pronouns if at all possible.

I realised relatively recently that hardly the names. Not really sure why.

I know a lot of social advice is to use people's names in conversation a lot but I have always found it really condescending.

"Oh how interesting, Sarah. Have you seen etc etc"

"What I think people don't realise Sarah, is that blah blah blah...."

"Tell me more, Sarah about the art weekend "

I always bristle a bit when people do it to me. I don't tend to do it to others.

I had to jump on here, because I thought it was just me who did this!

Yes I thought this was just me! Using names can sometimes come off really patronising

Someone once told me that to remember someone's name you should use it straight away and this technique has rarely failed me. I make an effort to remember names and I use names quite a bit because it signals you remember that person and give a shit. However I've noticed others rarely use my name. It often comes across like they just don't care or even know who I am.