Do you get your children anything for Valentines day

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Or do any activities with them?

I’m seeing it more and more as a thing for kids to be involved in, as in crafts or getting heart cupcakes..do you do things like that?

Bloody hell not another commercially driven load of crap that's suddenly become a thing!
Of course I'm not buying/doing anything with my children on this already ridiculously commercial event which is supposed to be about romantic love.

Sure but most of us would find it weird if a couple spent Christmas night having a romantic candle lit Italian meal. Or decided to exchange gifts with their family underneath a fur tree at Halloween. We all know that Valentine’s Day is about romantic love.

"We all know that Valentine’s Day is about romantic love"

We don't though. As has been clearly pointed out by many of us. It's a fun cheesy excuse to do something nice. That might be cake, maybe a teddy for the kids, a bunch of hideous overpriced roses for a wife that would honestly prefer a Magnum or even some sexy times in a fetching naughty nurse outfit...we all do it differently and nobody can say it's wrong.

(Just don't mix up the kid's teddy with the naughty nurse 😀)

But this hasn't suddenly become "a thing". People have been celebrating Valentine's Day (in whatever ever way they want) for donkeys years.

I've always seen it as a day for couples to celebrate romantic love, have dinner and have sex. So no I wouldn't include my kids in that. But I also find it very commercial and I have a lot of dates with my partner anyway so I don't see it as an important event. Even if was a day for platonic or family love, I wouldn't really feel the need to show my family more love on 14th Feb than on other days

I do (don't shoot me down, each to their own and its my choice).
I know it isn't norm but I like doing it for her. what I buy DD isn't expensive, just little thoughtful things I thought she'd like (like a candle with a funny slogan on it). I come From a family that doesn't do gifts of any kind so I like to do this. Its a little baskets with a pink theme of sweets, little candle, and some bits and bobs.

She works hard, doesn't expect anything, isn't spoilt and I definitely feel she deserves little treats. I enjoy doing it.

St valentines isn't a sexual love thing to me. Never seen it like that.

I see no harm In it. Shes only one of her friends that doesnt have a boyfriend so I also think its stops her feeling out.

I'm excited to give it to her tomorrow.

How’s it about sex? Not today but just curious.

Oh cripes. Dont tell me we have to have SEX! Way too much pressure.

When I was growing up (Anglo culture but not in the UK) my parents would give me and my sister a little card and maybe some chocolates. I do the same with mine. TBH I am not Christian either but love Christmas day. And enjoy easter as well. Plus a few celebrations that are fairly mainstream in the religion I was brought up in. I just like celebrating things (although I'm not that fond of my birthday- feels embarrassing to have people pay me attention on my birthday). I like other people's birthdays though. My dad who IS very religious in my birth religion always says 'Life is short and often nasty- let's take the chance to enjoy it when we can' and I think that is a good approach.

There is so much commercialised crap out there, granted. But a card and a chocolate on a day celebrating love I cant get too bah humbug about.

Do what!!!? No, too silly to consider, lost all relevance and just a big old marketing exercise. The furbabies
🤮 will be getting something next....🙄

Money making exercise.... too silly, get the furbabies and chickens something as well while you're at it 🙄😬

I suppose my thinking is romantic love usually involves sex and therefore is for adults

My DM still gets my sisters and I a card. I'm 44.

She's done this since we were all children. We'd also get something like a chocolate lolly and we'd laugh together at the silly verse.

Roses are Red
I'll Grant your wishes
Now finish your dinner
It's your turn for the dishes

I have the fondest memories of those verses and the laughing that we would do.

I have got my nephew (2) some cupid PJs.

I feel like this is another live and let live thread 🤣

Couldn't have put it better myself!

Nope. But then me and DH don't get each other anything either. We have actual important memories to mark such as birthdays anniversary etc. don't see the need to buy into a marketing ploy.

No.

I sometimes get her a bar of chocolate
A mini token

Unfortunately now we're back to the shitty behaviour so I won't be going out of my way to get her something ☹️

There are a lot of people lacking love on this thread! The joy on my boy's faces tomorrow when they open their little valentine's gifts is the only confirmation I need that I'm doing the right thing celebrating Valentine's with them as a family. 💌

Mumsnet has been divided on this issue for ages! I don't understand the faux concern about it! Everyone needs to calm down and grow up imho.

If I chose to make my dds, when they were primary school age, chocolate heart-shaped pancakes on Valentine's day that didn't make me a paedo thank you very much. Just as me and their dad buying them each a heart-shaped chocolate bar doesn't now that they are young adults.

The world would be a much happier place frankly if people stopped making a fuss about non-issues and seeing problems where there are none!

Some of the comments on here are really weird. I'm well into my 40s and my parents used to get me a card and a small gift on Valentine's Day (heart lolly chocolates etc). When I got home from school, my Dad and I would cook some sort of ridiculous Valentine's meal together that usually involved red food colouring in everything. I have very fond memories of pink mash and bright red broccoli.

I've always got my own DCs a card and token gift too. It's just a sweet thing to do. It makes them feel loved. Why wouldn't anyone grasp at any opportunity to make their children feel loved? Why does everything have to be about sex? You all need your hard drives checking.

Yep. My dogs have heart shaped biscuits for tomorrow. Bite me.

A chocolate lollipop or heart shaped sweets yes. Nothing more. My mum used to do it for us and it was nice to feel included and loved.

We bake biscuits quite regularly and i'll often do a seasonal theme so if i was doing some in the days around valentines day they would be heart shaped but its not a given.

We do not make any sort of fuss about valentines for kids or adults. No cards or presents.

I'm more shocked at the amount of people saying that it's about sex!!!!!!!!!!

Yes..... it's like asexual people who are in commited relationships don't exist.

I have a 7 month old and 2.5 year old. Me and toddler made heart cupcakes and made a card for each of his Grandparents. Just coloured paper with love heart stickers. Very easy and simple and kept him entertained for all of 20 mins but was a nice thing to receive for grandparents. I've got one card for both boys from mummy and daddy