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Do you get your children anything for Valentines day

282 replies

Thatsthesoundofthepolice · 12/02/2025 22:16

Or do any activities with them?

I’m seeing it more and more as a thing for kids to be involved in, as in crafts or getting heart cupcakes..do you do things like that?

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skyana · 12/02/2025 22:43

No. Fed up with everything being so commercialised that it forces us to buy. Valentine is traditionally for couples and just so they can make more and more money, it's for everyone now.

As if we all don't have our hands full with every other celebration.

Halycon · 12/02/2025 22:43

RE the romantic vs parental love thing.

Maybe Valentine’s Day has evolved a bit in the same way that Christmas Eve boxes, North Pole breakfasts and the Elf on the Shelf have become a part of Christmas.

BeaAndBen · 12/02/2025 22:44

No, although I have made heart shaped biscuits for the class when they were doing a themed activity in primary school.

When I was in high school (in the dark ages) you could pay 50p to have a carnation delivered to someone in their form room on Valentines Day. (5th form and 6th form) It was an annual fundraiser.

I thought it was the most amazing thing at the time, but as an adult looking back - oh god, the potential for bullying and heartbreak. What we’re they thinking?!

LordBuckley · 12/02/2025 22:45

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 12/02/2025 22:31

No, but I may get them a helium balloon for Ascension Day.

Brilliant!😂

Fidgety31 · 12/02/2025 22:49

No. That would be weird .Valentines day is for romantic love / sex - not appropriate to relate to kids surely ?

MissMoan · 12/02/2025 22:50

I don't, although I do buy a nice card for my mum as my elderly dad isn't the least bit romantic, so he doesn't even think about buying one for her.

StrawberryWater · 12/02/2025 22:51

I got him some Valentines macaroons.

He's not into Valentines but saw them and changed his mind lol.

DappledThings · 12/02/2025 22:57

Nope. Never heard of anyone doing anything for Valentine's except for their partner. Really bizarre to me to mark it for children.

CatamaranViper · 12/02/2025 23:00

Fidgety31 · 12/02/2025 22:49

No. That would be weird .Valentines day is for romantic love / sex - not appropriate to relate to kids surely ?

Not necessarily. In Norfolk, jack valentine comes knocking on doors delivering chocolates to kids.

CarpetKnees · 12/02/2025 23:02

No.
Valentine's Day is about romance, and love of a sexual nature.
Should be nothing to do with children.

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 12/02/2025 23:03

Caerulea · 12/02/2025 22:38

Absolutely not! In fact, this is the first year I've bought DH a card in the 21 we've been together.

And I only got that cos it sings a song about bums & has a spaceman inside with a gold vibrating bottom & I know it will make him laugh

Oh how I wish I had seen that! It sounds fab

AliceMcK · 12/02/2025 23:03

No, but neither do DH and I do anything either.

Hdjdb42 · 12/02/2025 23:04

I bought my husband and children small boxes of chocolates.

Trainstrike · 12/02/2025 23:07

Whatnowthenfordone · 12/02/2025 22:29

It’s for romantic love. How could it be for kids?

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I've never known any adults who celebrate it. It always been very much a primary/secondary school thing so I see it as childish. Therefore I don't think it's that weird for parents to do something like a special breakfast or give heart shaped lollies.

I've never associated it with "romantic" love, I always assume that's what anniversaries are for.

tobee · 12/02/2025 23:07

No. But my dm has kept one I handmade for her from when I was about 5. It said with love from Big Ted and the Milkman 😳😬🤔😁

doyouknowthemuffinman42 · 12/02/2025 23:08

Yes, cupcakes and a card

Wordau · 12/02/2025 23:08

I wouldn't normally buy I feel my kids need some extra love so I'll make them heart shaped pancakes for breakfast

crackadawn · 12/02/2025 23:09

No!! I think that behaviour is very odd indeed. Valentines is an adult thing ffs dreading see what this next generation grow up like

mdinbc · 12/02/2025 23:10

In Canada it is seen as a children's holiday as well. Kids give out little cards to their classmates, and mothers generally give children small treats. Couples may or may not recognize it.

Stripesarethethingforme · 12/02/2025 23:10

I bought some heart shaped chocolates and am planning to pop one each by my kids breakfast bowls. I'm going to try making heart shaped biscuits with my youngest tomorrow. On one hand yes it's commercial rubbish but on the other February is grey and cold and it will make them smile.

Goldenbear · 12/02/2025 23:10

Yes for my teen DD but only because adult teen DS has a girlfriend and will be receiving something as will DH and I soni didn't want to leave her out.

When I was a little child in the late 80s my Dad bought my a small bear magnet thing alongside my Mum's flowers etc. They would have been in late 30s and my Dad still wrote a card to my Mum and gave her flowers. They divorced a few years late but still....

Wordau · 12/02/2025 23:11

My sister's teen BF gave me and my mum a small bunch of flowers on Valentines day, I was probably about 10. (He lavished gifts my my sister too)

We still talk about it 40 years later 😂

Goldenbear · 12/02/2025 23:11

Not '30s' 1980s

teenmum13 · 12/02/2025 23:12

I never have but the youngest actually asked the other day why I wasn't getting her anything because X from school was getting chocolates, Y was having a nice tea and Z wasn't sure what she will be getting but usually gets, body spray/perfume, cupcakes, biscuits, sweets, chocolate and lots of other little things.
I told her that we don't need a commercialised day to let them know we love them but now I'm feeling guilty.

Floralnomad · 12/02/2025 23:15

No , but my husband and I don’t celebrate it either .