To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

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Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

Sorry but you tell your sibling that they or their DP can go in the box room that's up to them to decide but your DC will not be sharing with their DP - it's really not appropriate for your DC to share with an adult they barely know.

Did I miss anything? Just had to remove one of my children from their rooms so we had a spare.

Lol... Next thought.... I bet there's a gif for that 😆

Come on people I SOLVED THE MYSTERY.

(OP is still mad as a box of frogs, but it does "make sense" now)

I still don't understand and I've read your replies. The dp stays in the room they were in originally (just your sibling has left that room). Your sibling is in the box room (that was being held as a spare, but is now occupied). Your six year old stays in the room they were meant to go in (which wasn't with your sibling originally, so why would it be now). All that has happened is that the spare room is now occupied. No emergency spare room available now. Why would your 6 year old have to share with your siblings partner? What are we missing here? Or are you still trying to hold an emergency spare room?

I get it's a bit annoying for a last minute change of plans, but your sibling sees there's a spare room to use it. Doesn't seem a big deal to me. I guess if a kid starts puking or something some room changing may need to happen, but that's quite unlikely

You are making no sense. I don’t understand why your child would need to share if they weren’t anyway.
you sister is going into the empty room, everyone else stays where they were originally going to be. No issue.

I’ve read all your updates and it still makes NO FUCKING SENSE.

Their DP sleeps in the original bedroom and your sibling sleeps in the box room. I reealllly don’t understand why you’ve got such a huge issue with this.

And by the way, if I was your sister and found out there would be a spare room of bagsy it too because me and my husband can’t sleep well together. Lots of people have that issue.

I have an idea. If she books a second Airbnb she could then have an entire spare Airbnb ?

Read my updates, and it will.

How the fuck has this thread lasted 27 pages.

Why is having your sibling -in-law room with your child the only option - just don't have a room spare!

No-one is this ridiculous? I must be misunderstanding.

I hope you haven't put them in with your BIL...

How the fuck have they missed the glorious explanation that should have stopped the Cancel The Cheques 😭

I thought so but then what about the weird comment about op and DH splitting up? What does that mean???

Did you take them to their uncles house and said they'll be sharing from now on?

What the actual problem?!

No one is being left without a bed. There's a spare room that was empty and now is being used. Big deal if they want to use the box room. It wasn't allocated to begin with. Nothing for you, your partner or kids has actually changed.

Its threads like these where the OP should be forced to come back and explain 😂

(she’s never coming back, btw…we all know this deep down!)

But you don't.NEED the spare box.room. Let them have that?! No.need for him to.share with your child?!

I definitely need a lie down to try and keep up with this, but where am I going to sleep...?

I don't see that there would be any other option

Can I humbly suggest another solution?

Sister shares with one DC and the other DC goes in the box-room.

The tigers sorry children are separated and it makes marginally more sense for a child to share with their aunt than an unrelated (I'm assuming) male. Of course it would make yet more sense for a child to share with their parents but I'm assuming the OP doesn't want that.

Same as Sister and BIl.

Op is saying she won't move out of her room in order to give BIL their bed. So like maybe DH and BIL share, and OP moves into kids room.

I think I've got it! The bed hasn't magically disappeared. It's just that 1 bed must remain unoccupied. If the sister moves to the spare room their original bed must be vacated leaving partner with no bed.

Also I think there might be only 1 child. She's said "one of my DCs" but maybe the other is staying with Granny and not coming!

because the kids can't sleep in the same room together (OPs secret plan all along for them to have a bedroom each).

OP wants to be with DH
TWO kids but they can't sleep in the same room together
SIS snores like a bastard so needs a room all to herself
BIL can't sleep unless there is someone else in the room with him

It's definitely a conundrum.

Well, it makes perfect sense.