To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

[jd206]

Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

This thread is like an 11+ question and is hurting my head.

I wonder if OP has had her "oh" moment yet?

Because op wants there to be an empty room ...

Not her kids, just one kid. But let's not get into the mystery of what happened to the other as it requires another large glass of wine.

So she wants to leave a double room as a spare ? That’s actual nuts

I don’t get it! There’s 4 bedrooms why does partner have to shear with child????

bedroom 1 - OP/DH
bedroom 2 - child
bedroom 3 - sisters partner
bedroom 4 (the spare box room) - sister

i don’t really understand what the issue is.

Oh yes, I'd forgot. :!

This! I was thinking exactly the same.

What happened to the original bedroom your DS and her partner were sharing?

As many have said above, you said the room allocation was one for you and DH, one for sibling and partner, one for your DCs. Small room vacant.

It sounds like you’d mentally earmarked the spare bedroom for you and your family and are now a bit peeved that your sibling has said they’d like to use it.

I’ve absolutely no idea why their DP would be expected to share a room with one of your kids! Surely if that was to come about it would be better for your sibling to share with a niece or nephew. You’ve not made that clear.

Mountains and molehills!!!

My god I skipped 23 pages and even with the most up to date posts nobody’s none the wiser 😂

Jeez. This nuts. Do you also get a spare room if you stay in a hotel?

There could be more beds in the DC room than just the bunks. There could have been a spare bed space. Although therefore aren't any other DC inconvenienced? Are we sure there are more than one DC

I think you must be right.

Your explanation makes perfect sense.

Now what obviously does not make sense is...
WHY the need for an empty bedroom at all time? This is what has been hurting my brain 😂

The OP could share with the BIL?
Her partner share with their kids?
There are ways to muddle that even more?

What about sharing with the air BnB next door?

I don’t want to believe the op is real, like how hard is it to grasp. The only person I feel sorry for is your sibling who’ll be stuck on holiday with you.

OP has just done this deliberately to cause a scene and watch it kick off. Just let the thread die..

Bedroom 1 - You and DP
Bedroom 2 - Children
Bedroom 3 - Sister and DP
Bedroom 4 box room - Either empty or your sister is in there

I really don't understand why your DP will have to share with the children if your sister has the empty bedroom??

You don't make any sense.

You sound like a control freak.

at least posters have made it really funny 😂

and politically correct, this thread is a winner

But you see they had all agreed there would be a spare room and everyone was sharing appropriately

Where is @jd206 ?

OP I really hope the diagram you're obviously working on, is really good....!

I don't...I'm only staying here just to see people trying to make logic out of somewhere that logic is never ever going to visit...unless it gets the 'spare' room of course 😂

This makes no sense! DC are sharing a room so your sister and DP sleeping separately would make no difference? Why on earth would your 6 year old have to share a room with sister's DP? That's batshit crazy!

The box room was going to be a "spare" but instead it's being slept in by someone.
Why does it mean you or your family have to swap? It just means the husband of the two of them will have a big bed to himself.

How about everyone just sleeps outside? There will be 4 spare bedrooms. Perfect 👌