To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

[jd206]

Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

Is there a diagram on one of these 22 pages?

The only way this makes sense is if op/her dh or her dcs have a health condition or something that requires a quiet place to rest or sleep and she wants the box room kept free for that reason.
Or she doesn't want her kids sleeping in the same room.
But why doesn't she just say that!?

Unless its Schrödingers bedroom 🫥

I see you're screaming in frustration too!!

Aaaaaaaarrrrrrrrgggggghhhhĥhh!!!!!!!

This is abso bonkers ( yes I'm place marking !)

OP you are clearly a troll who loves confusing people

Clear as mud. Wtf?

Forgetting the rest of the madness and yes I know there is enough bedrooms, why would the first solution be for child to sleep with siblings partner and not their parents. Oh, if only there was a spare room that could solve this!

I think I actually understand what OP means ...

She is assuming/insisting that there has to ALWAYS be a spare room.

Say Sister and BIL in a double room. Leaving box room spare

So by sister moving into single room, this means that BIL "obviously" has to move out of the double room, to ensure a spare room.

So he has no bed. Hence sharing.

So he would only have the option to share OPs room OR the kids room, naturally (?) OP is assuming he has to share with her kids 🤷‍♀️

i know, there's no need for the spare room

Damn you, that was my line 😂

Maybe she has had a major falling out with her husband and no longer wants to sleep with him

Confused.com

I'm glad I'm late to the thread. If I had been early I would have been driven mad.

My head hurts!

Or maybe he has read this and no longer wants to sleep with her. Due to the MADNESS

Yes, what we should all have realised is that there must always be a spare room.

I sussed it out...

But why MUST there be an empty room? If it’s empty why can’t dsis be the one who needs a break and therefore uses it?

I think the op means that there isn't a spare BED, hence the sisters partner sharing a bed/bedroom with one of the children!?

If this is correct, do I get a prize?

Or did you want a room each for your children?

Clearly, this is what @jd206 wants but doesn’t want to pay for it.

Are you on glue? are you insisting the box room stays empty and the other dp sleeps in with your 6yo. They should all cancel the holiday if you’re literally crazy.

I think... There just must and we should have all taken this as a given

🤔 ummm nope I STILL DON’T GET IT !!
22 pages of complete madness and we’re none the wiser

But she says the box room has a single bed...

No. She is under the impression that 1 room should always be empty, hence spare. So by sister moving into single room, the BIL must also vacate (in her mind) to ensure the sister's and BILs original room is spare.

I'm doing a diagram @HebeMumsnet ...!