To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

[jd206]

Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

In the OPs new scenario the kids are split up therefore one of them sleeping with her sisters partners.

to me this confirms the fact that all along the OP had planned to split her kids up with one of her kids taking the spare room.

also interestingly the OP said ‘DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue’. This implies they were considering OP with one kid and her partner with another kid. Confirming that the OP thinks her kids shouldn’t be in the same room.

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Well done OP, you sucked us all into this batshittery

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Wow this is confusing.
Am I right that its:
Bedroom 1 - op and dh
Bedroom 2 - ops dc
Bedroom 3 - ops sibling
Bedroom 4/box room - siblings partner.

If that's right then how does it effect your kids? Why does the partner need to share a room with your dc?????

Erm..

Thanks @jd206 Most enjoyable.

Is this what the op thinks she wrote rather than her op...

'Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, 1 DCs in one, my 6 yr old in another with my sibling and their DP. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?'

Where am I sleeping? This is the most confusing yet strangely interesting thread.

You sound like a nightmare
id have to have my child in with me not some uncle type, wtf should your child share a room with a grown man not their own parents and why must there be an empty bedroom just in case makes no sense at all

Rage fail!! 😖😂

My god are you always this hard work?

Or alternatively - Second post in the last day or so with a similar username that’s complete bloody nonsense.

OP you are as mad as a box of frogs.

If a room has a bed in it, it's a BEDroom.

How does a room with a bed in it differ from a main bedroom?

Why does your siblings DP need to share with your DC when he already has an assigned bedroom?

Are you missing something? Yes you are, the obvious.

this thread is completely bonkers!!

Except @jd206 quite clearly said sibling has demanded the box room. Not any of the other rooms.

I have read all the updates and still can't work out why the DP desn't sleep in the spare box room instead of one of the DC's?

Surely spare means it is spare and no one is using it therefore DP can have it??

Yabu and bonkers.

"The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third."

OP, you need to explain why your sibling's DP cannot sleep in the third room as originally planned.

So, this is mad.

Why can't you and your sibling's DP sleep in a triangular tent at the western end of the garden? Then the living room will be free to be used as a living room, except you can't sit on the sofa.

What the fuck is going on?

Oh no, not the western end! The western end is a spare!

This thread is bonkers. OP, tell your sibling that you'll bunk in with her DP so problem solved.

Is the OP Joey?

Do it

Totally confused.
A holiday home with 4 bedrooms.
Originally one room for you and DP, one for DC and one for sister. Leaving a spare room which there are no plans for.
Now same house. One room for you, one for DC, one for sisters partner and one for sister. No-one is losing their room or has to share.
Did you have some secret plans for the extra room? Did you secretly want to use it?
I really don't see any issues, reason to be upset or plans that need to be changed.