Who is the poorest person in your family and why?

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Just being nosy?
Whose the poorest and Why?

🤣 I was just about to reply my cat, but he struts about like he’s the richest!

My relative.

It’s an MN post. I don’t think they are required to enrich anyone’s life or be edifying. Posters or commenters. I certainly don’t log on thinking ‘how is Mumsnet going to improve my life, today’. Do you?

Depends how it’s defined. I have the least income, because I’m retired, and my kids earn shedloads. But i also have by far the lowest essential outgoings - the tooth fairy doesn’t call here - so possibly the most disposable income.

Send me her CV and I’ll see if I can help 😂

Jobs where you have a high level of influence over large numbers of people.
Perhaps those which are not accessible if you don't have the right network.

I think I would describe jobs in the arts as creative and would actually associate people who have pursued that over wealth/influence as quite humble rather than prestigious.

I would associate the use of the adjective prestigious with famous public schools, Oxbridge, top tier law firms etc.

How on earth have I put a random GIF on there 😂...

Probably my sibling who is single, was married but didn't do 'well' in divorce and still needing to bail their adult kids out sometimes. Of my DC, the one who is single is 'poorest' - struggling to buy a home on one salary and the married DC have wealthy in-laws.

It depends how far you extend my family.
Among siblings: the one who is a teacher is the poorest.

Wider family: i have a cousin with mental health problems who is unemployed.

Me. It's a mixture of cripplingly low self esteem, depression and poor planning. Do you consider yourself poor or well off op? Why is it interesting to you?

Me. I am the youngest out of my siblings by 10 years so I think that plays into it. They’re all also a lot more money focused than me. We just have what we need and don’t bother with fancy stuff (apart from food, I love to go to a nice restaurant, but that doesn’t always have to be expensive it just often is). When I chose my career I knew I’d be the poorest, but I do think on some levels I am the happiest.

I think the reason I’m not as money focused as my siblings is because by the time I was born, my parents were financially secure. We had very different experiences growing up in that respect. For example when I was born my parents owned the home, had savings, I didn’t have to have hand me downs (I still did have some hand me downs though, no point buying new if you’ve got perfectly good).

My niece, after my sister divorced her husband she went off the rails and had a child with a 23yo at 15. She went on to have another with him not long after the first while he was cheating on her, then had another baby with another man all before 19. I tried to help but she didn't want to hear it. She was going to be a law student until she met him, now she's on benefits with 3 kids at 21 living above a pizza shop.

My brother.

He spent his twenties living abroad doing TEFL, and was paid a pittance above accommodation and lavish gifts from students.

The rest of us built our careers and settled into relationships. It's horses for courses, but he WILL act as if we have somehow cheated our ways to secure incomes.

Same with us. Except I think the big kitten sized 7 year old owes us a bit more than her sister as she goes on nighttime hunts for them if we don’t lock them in a cupboard.

Us, absolutely. We prioritised family and took in siblings who weren't ours. I'm sure other family look down on us, but actually I don't care about material stuff.

MIL or SIL, probably both about the same, pair of them are pathetic.

Kids these days

I think this is a really interesting question. From the people I know, extended families tend to be roughly similar in financial terms and it does fascinate me. Of course, there will always be an exception.
In my family, it would be my siblings, although there wouldn't be much to choose between them, I don't think.

It's quite sad my cats have never made anything of their lives. If they hadn't spent 20 out of 24 hours of their daily lives year after year lazing around surgically attached to my duvet, they could be paying a mortgage right now. Neither of them have made any plans for their retirement, either. When will these workshy scroungers step up and take some responsibility?

My oldest sister, many years ago sold a house for an enormous amount of money, moved cross country to run a pub with her alcoholic husband (you couldn’t make it up) he sat in the bar every night whilst she worked her butt off. The brewery drained them of all the money they put in, she left him and the pub eventually and has since worked in minimum paid jobs, lives in rented accommodation and still works in her early 70s to keep the wolf from the door.

I have fuck all so me then lol.

My cat is so poor that she has to steal elastic bands when the postman drops them in the street. She also steals our socks to hide behind the sofa. So far, it’s her only career plan and I’m somewhat disappointed with her choices.

I need staff, can she do Saturday 10.00-16.00 if so send a CV please

Are their no chimneys near you that need sweeping?

Me. 3 out of 4 of us severely disabled. Times are hard.