To not give her a lift?

[DreamingOfHotPotatoes]

My child does an activity, once a week, that's roughly a 30 minute drive from my house, so an hour long round trip.

However, one of the parents, who I have never spoken to, has asked other parents where I live, and on discovering that I drive past her house, has decided that I will be taking her child to and from the activity from now on. She has not asked me this! Last week she just left the child at the activity and told the child I would be giving them a ride home. I gave the child a ride home, but not willingly! This child shoved my child out of the way and demanded the front seat, then kicked the back of my seat the whole way home. My child has autism and really needs a quiet car on the way home to decompress, this was quite an ordeal for her.

I'm taking my daughter to her activity later and I'm having anxiety over it happening again. Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to give this child a ride home?!

Don’t take this kid home. The activity leader is responsible for making sure they’re collected and if you refuse to take the extra child the activity people will call the parent to pick her up. Stick to your guns.

"Hi all,

I'm afraid there's been a miscommunication. Whilst I have no issue with being asked ahead of time occasionally, I'm really not comfortable with arriving for pick up to be told - by the child - that I'm taking them home, without being asked by an adult. There was also no one home that I knew when dropping off - just a lodger(?) which I'm sure you can understand makes me feel very uncomfortable from a safeguarding perspective.

We have a regular routine in place to support DC needs and whilst I appreciate that it does take a village, I'm a little baffled that this seems to be coming back on me. Perhaps those saying that it takes a village could put up their hands to be part of it.

Thanks,

Just read the other updates... never mind 😂

So, you've never met the Mother, Dawn. She's having an affair (or affaire) with Brown Owl. She then gets together with Brown Owl when you take her daughter Wren home, and deliver her to Dean, who is a lodger. The other mums think you had an affair with Dawn's husband, Darren. This is a fiendish plot devised by Dawn and Brown Owl. Wren is just a convenient device to enable the affaire.
My suggestion: you gather them all in the Church Hall, and Agatha Christie style, reveal the whole sordid plot!

Oooh, I've just had a thought, OP! Check that your husband isn't getting together with Dean 😲!

This!!

Edit - sorry, seen updates. Did this actually happen?

A post? Grow a pair! Do what people have said and leave the other child with the group leader before you get accused of abduction!

You're not being unreasonable. They've not even asked you. Say sorry I'm not taking you, we're going somewhere after this and if I'd of been asked would of told your parents no. The child is the responsibility of the person in charge of the activity. They have the responsibility of staying with the child until their parents collect them and if they don't then it's a police, social services matter. My children are autistic and I don't drive, having to catch multiple buses to activities they do and this is absolutely ridiculous. Leaving them with someone they don't know and travelling with them would be a huge no. Can you imagine the implications for yourself, of taking a child you do not know home in the car. They can accuse you of anything and I'm not being silly here I know a couple of kids that lie about things that are very serious and I wouldn't be in a situation where they're alone with me without other adults around. You don't have any emergency details what if something happened and an idiot driver went into you and had to all go to hospital. Way too many risks, don't leave yourself open to anything of this sort. Think safeguarding constantly, safeguard yourself and your child and most importantly the vulnerable child left alone to travel with people they barely know.

For goodness sake. Grow a pair. Weak people moan but do nothing. You know what you have to do.

Or perhaps just read the update…

Just read your update. Whaaaaat?!

Ah OP the Mumsnet oldie but goodie springs to mind - "no is a whole sentence"

OMG now people are randomly responding to the bit about the grocery shopping - as thought THAT is actually the current update.

Bonkers

Sorry SlightlyJaded but you made me laugh with your frustration- because I completely get it!! And I was feeling that way too 😖

Hmmmmm.

How did you find out about the affair if the other mums didn’t know about it?

If the CF thought you were the "other woman", why did she want you to take charge of her daughter?

It all sounds very, very, very … unusual.

😂😂😂😂

I mean, you could….

I don't think the CF thought that as she was the one having the affair but CF had made it seem like this to make others shame OP into helping. Which is still weird as you'd think they would also think why would you ask the other woman. It's all...odd.

If this group is part of a wider organization, you should report the leader for his behaviour. He absolutely failed in his duty of care for that child by throwing her at you (who had never met the mum) and forcing you to drop kid home knowing mum wasn’t going to be there.

FUR FUCK SAKE READ THE OPs UPDATES

😂

Well well well this thread has more turns than the airwrap and the allotment

It's pointless saying that as people would have to have read the whole thread to get to your post then they would have seen the OPs update..

Ah. Both of them turned into sagas

I know but I feel better now 😂