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I have called the social services and they are going to put him in a children’s home

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ByArtfulBird · 10/02/2025 20:23

If you have not seen the first thread about it don’t reply you will get confused. I have called them up and they said we are going to put him in a children’s home but not until Wednesday so he will be staying at mine till then just thought I would let you know how it’s going.

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its not her child, hence the if you haven't read the other thread bit

Glitterybee · 10/02/2025 20:37

I remember your original thread

SmileEachDay · 10/02/2025 20:39

This is bs. The legal process for removal is long and has many, many points at which it is possible to turn back.

This sort of post makes parents scared to reach out for support.

LittleRedRidingHoody · 10/02/2025 20:40

SmileEachDay · 10/02/2025 20:39

This is bs. The legal process for removal is long and has many, many points at which it is possible to turn back.

This sort of post makes parents scared to reach out for support.

Not her child. Going by the first thread, it's OPs daughters boyfriend who's been kicked out, OP is putting him up whilst SS get involved.

Kinneddar · 10/02/2025 20:42

ByArtfulBird · 10/02/2025 20:23

If you have not seen the first thread about it don’t reply you will get confused. I have called them up and they said we are going to put him in a children’s home but not until Wednesday so he will be staying at mine till then just thought I would let you know how it’s going.

So why not update that thread rather than start a new one that most folk have no.clue about what's going on 🙄

OKNerd · 10/02/2025 20:42

I’d this the thread of the DD’s boyfriend??

LittleRedRidingHoody · 10/02/2025 20:42

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Maybe read the comment about not commenting unless you've seen the thread, before calling someone a liar?

RatedDoingMagic · 10/02/2025 20:42

Link to previous thread www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5271181-would-this-be-lilegel-by-chance www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5271181-would-this-be-lilegel-by-chance]]]]
my 14 year old DDs boyfriend’s parents are kicking her boyfriend out of there house tomorrowAnd I do want to help him not be homeless. would this be lillegel if he lived at my house with my kids and me for a bit until I can get the government to get him somewhere to live

Disneytips4 · 10/02/2025 20:43

SmileEachDay · 10/02/2025 20:39

This is bs. The legal process for removal is long and has many, many points at which it is possible to turn back.

This sort of post makes parents scared to reach out for support.

That’s not true. If can be very straight away if the parent or parents agree for the child
to be voluntary accommodated

OKNerd · 10/02/2025 20:43

Why on earth would they share this highly confidential information with you OP?

Disneytips4 · 10/02/2025 20:43

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You actually can though. Although I think this thread is about her daughter’s boyfriend. But you can ring social services and say you aren’t having your child stay here anymore and they do have to place them somewhere

Tangelablue · 10/02/2025 20:46

SmileEachDay · 10/02/2025 20:39

This is bs. The legal process for removal is long and has many, many points at which it is possible to turn back.

This sort of post makes parents scared to reach out for support.

It's likely they have spoken to the parents and will place him under section 20.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 10/02/2025 20:46

This whole thing has been so odd.

LawrenceSMarlowforPresident · 10/02/2025 20:50

Your daughter's boyfriend? How exactly did this happen?

Binglebong · 10/02/2025 20:52

Well done for helping him.

OKNerd · 10/02/2025 20:53

Seriously though I doubt SS tell any old rando about a vulnerable child’s situation

Viviennemary · 10/02/2025 20:54

LittleRedRidingHoody · 10/02/2025 20:42

Maybe read the comment about not commenting unless you've seen the thread, before calling someone a liar?

Everyone has the right to comment on a thread. OP needs to update if she is starting a new thread. Or it's a thread about a thread.

Disneytips4 · 10/02/2025 20:55

OKNerd · 10/02/2025 20:53

Seriously though I doubt SS tell any old rando about a vulnerable child’s situation

of course she would know what’s happening if he has been staying there and SS were then taking him to a foster placement. They’re hardly going to just wisk him again in the dead of night

yourmaw · 10/02/2025 20:55

Glad you updated. circumstances for him sound pretty grim at home. How is he with all this going on?

OKNerd · 10/02/2025 20:56

Disneytips4 · 10/02/2025 20:55

of course she would know what’s happening if he has been staying there and SS were then taking him to a foster placement. They’re hardly going to just wisk him again in the dead of night

She said she called them up and they told her on the phone

Disneytips4 · 10/02/2025 20:57

OKNerd · 10/02/2025 20:56

She said she called them up and they told her on the phone

Yeah it’s not unusual for them to tell her that. Im sure they said something like- he can’t stay with you, we will find him a placement but it’ll be a few days

OKNerd · 10/02/2025 20:59

Disneytips4 · 10/02/2025 20:57

Yeah it’s not unusual for them to tell her that. Im sure they said something like- he can’t stay with you, we will find him a placement but it’ll be a few days

Wrong. I doubt they would ever engage with anyone but a very strict list of people over this child. You REALLY think people can “call up social services” and access very confidential information over a legal process?

Disneytips4 · 10/02/2025 21:00

OKNerd · 10/02/2025 20:59

Wrong. I doubt they would ever engage with anyone but a very strict list of people over this child. You REALLY think people can “call up social services” and access very confidential information over a legal process?

I literally do the job