Page 6 | I have called the social services and they are going to put him in a children’s home

ByArtfulBird · 2025-02-10T20:23:40+00:00

If you have not seen the first thread about it don’t reply you will get confused. I have called them up and they said we are going to put him in a children’s home but not until Wednesday so he will be staying at mine till then just thought I would let you know how it’s going.

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 13/02/2025 17:53

Kahless · 10/02/2025 21:44

Would have thought if you want people to read your previous thread (that you mention it in the op) that maybe a link to said that might be an idea....

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There is a link on page 1

Frostywinterwoods · 13/02/2025 22:01

Jen596 · 10/02/2025 21:03

Poor kid, how awful to be kicked out by your parents at 14. We know how poor outcomes are for looked after children - around half have a criminal conviction by early adulthood. Well done OP for trying to put something in place for this poor kid so they don't end up in an even worse position ie on the street.

Better still let him live there. FFS children's home, do you have any idea at all how fkd up they are? & How much neglect and abuse occurs? Crime then kicked out at 16.

Frostywinterwoods · 13/02/2025 22:08

MustDoNothing · 10/02/2025 22:12

To the people saying this process is BS, it's not. I've namechanged for this but at the age of 10, I came home from school to the bombshell that I was being took to a residential children's home there and then. For me there was no warning, no knowledge of a social worker involved, nothing. I was distraught, confused and everything else. It was the one and only time I was ever arrested by the police because i refused to go. I still 29 years later do not know why, apart my own evidenced conclusion that my mum didn't want me now she had a stable boyfriend who didn't like me and my brother. It took a lot of intervention to get over that.

My point is this is possible and DOES happen, though obviously the parents have either consented or cant be contacted.

Fkn evil! OMFG. How can you ever, ever recover from that!? You poor thing, I'm so incredibly sorry. That has broken my heart 💔, no one deserves that . Every child is a blessing, you were and are a special valuable angel.I cannot understand how anyone can give you away like this, she must be ill, or I'm sorry but evil! You are amazing, never ever ever forget that not even for a second. Children's homes in today's society should never ever exist& the whole care system needs ripped apart.

Nextdoor55 · 13/02/2025 22:48

Oh no I wouldn't call SS they're a nightmare - generally speaking I am sure they do some positive things but they aren't always helpful

KindLemur · 13/02/2025 23:54

Frostywinterwoods · 13/02/2025 22:08

Fkn evil! OMFG. How can you ever, ever recover from that!? You poor thing, I'm so incredibly sorry. That has broken my heart 💔, no one deserves that . Every child is a blessing, you were and are a special valuable angel.I cannot understand how anyone can give you away like this, she must be ill, or I'm sorry but evil! You are amazing, never ever ever forget that not even for a second. Children's homes in today's society should never ever exist& the whole care system needs ripped apart.

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Erm they don’t need ‘ripping apart’ some residential care for SEND children is a life life for families and very much needed

NorthernSarcasticandDownrightFantastic · 15/02/2025 18:58

x2boys · 10/02/2025 21:11

Children's homes don't really exist anymore is he gong into to foster care ?

Erm on what planet? I love in a smallish town (16k population) and know 7 kids homes just in the centre of town, let alone on the outskirts and surrounding villages

PMAmostofthetime · 15/02/2025 19:36

@OKNerd

The conversation probably went something like we are arranging something for ( daughters boyfriend) is it ok if he stays with you until Wednesday-
We will provide costs.

How on earth would SS work if they couldn't say anything at all to anyone. Under safeguarding which this is a 14 year old homeless child who's been abandoned by his parents they can divulge a lot of information.
Stop scaremongering and commenting on this you have obviously no idea about.

Well done OP for doing the right thing. Hope this lad gets the help he deserves.

Ponderingwindow · 15/02/2025 19:41

Why are people arguing over semantics? I would guess social services told her that they would take the boy into their provision in a few days, not that they gave her access to his entire file.

im just glad a teenage girl isn’t going to have her troubled boyfriend moved into her house. She should be free to date or not date him without any real consequences at her age. If he lives in the house, that option goes away.

Glorybox2025 · 15/02/2025 19:46

Frostywinterwoods · 13/02/2025 22:01

Better still let him live there. FFS children's home, do you have any idea at all how fkd up they are? & How much neglect and abuse occurs? Crime then kicked out at 16.

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This isn't how things are at all!

BubblePerm · 15/02/2025 19:49

You've got a good heart OP. Well done x

GrumpyUngulate · 15/02/2025 19:50

Disneytips4 · 10/02/2025 21:00

I literally do the job

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Retired children's social worker here, this is correct. If someone is the temporary carer for a kid, and they're a responsible adult, we're not going to block them out of what's going on. That doesn't mean we tell them everything of course, but they're already part of the basic care plan for the child.

mathanxiety · 15/02/2025 21:04

Well done, @ByArtfulBird

A very difficult situation for everyone. I hope there'll be a good outcome eventually.

mathanxiety · 15/02/2025 21:09

itsallabitofamystery · 11/02/2025 11:08

@littleluncheon I'm at the point now where I'm backed into a corner, so I have said to them this morning (by text, as they never call me), that he has no where to go this evening and therefore if they do not collect him from school he will be walking the streets. So far, no reply.

I'm just interested to see how OP has managed to get him a placement so quickly, as they're basically telling me they would absolutely try to avoid this at all costs. Yet they've been telling me this for 3 weeks!

Did you tell the school though?

The HT and the safeguarding lead need to be notified.

mathanxiety · 15/02/2025 21:13

Sorry, hadn't seen your update. Will you be able to keep in touch?

DenimPlayer · 16/02/2025 17:10

I did this when my daughters boyfriendsmum past away he just lived with us i never told anyone he was nearly 16

itsallabitofamystery · 18/02/2025 00:03

@mathanxiety he was taken into care the next day. He's no longer able to attend that school as he's been housed just over 80 miles away.