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to be fed up with some pregnant women collapsing into a heap of uselessness?

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ILIketoMarmiteMarmite · 08/05/2008 11:53

OK this is not going to go down well BUT I wish some pregnant women would not act as if they were Jane Austen women lying on chaise longues with the blinds drawn (and MN open) waiting for their confinement.

On a thread yesterday or the day before there was a mention of respect for women who give birth and so on, and as a mother myself (and heavily pregnant again now) I appreciate what a big deal giving birth is, and what a big deal raising children is. But pregnancy is not an illness. You can still mow the grass, get the required amount or more done at work, act in a reasonable manner, carry your shopping etc etc. Women who are strong and healthy should not turn into delicate little flowers who cannot be disturbed or asked to do anything in case they are upset. Nor is pregnancy a get out of jail free card for being a horror to your dh or dp.

I think I am annoyed by woman at work who has nothing wrong with her (as she delightedly reported over coffee) but takes at least one sick day a week off work because she finds it hard to get out of bed!! She's also always moaning that her dh doesn't do everything for her.

OK now come to think of it I can't actually think of any Jane Austen women who were preg. And I DO realise that some people have difficult pregnancies, but most don't.

OK maybe IABU but hey, indulge me cos I'm pregnant!

OP posts:
EBenes · 09/05/2008 23:44

Tired, puking, looking after a 17 month old, and knowing that last time the vomiting lasted right up to the delivery, and that this time the symphysis pubis dysfunction will probably start earlier than it did last time, and a return to being barely able to get out of bed with the pain. It must be great to be healthy and bouncy during your pregnancies, or just even good at coping with a bit of discomfort. For some women it's really hard, comparable to illnesses that one is allowed to be wimpy and useless with.

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