Hairdressers. Why do you do it? Anyone else?

[theworriermum]

I don't know if it's all hairdressers or just my hair type (long, thick, coarse) but unless I'm absolutely prescriptive and borderline stern, they go to town.

Right now, I'm 4 months postpartum, heavier than I usually am and looking tired but my long brunette hair was my saving grace! I walked around with a birds nest in 4th Trimester to give it a break from heat. I straightened it before the cut for the first time and it was gorgeous and healthy. So long, long feathering across my jawline and neck.

I took my eye off the ball not saying 'trim only, no thinning, and please NO dramatic diagonal scissors for feathering'. I did say keep the length and that I liked the existing cut but it wasn't stern enough.

I couldn't see what she was doing at the back but it's clear to me now that she has thinned it without asking. A lot of them do this as I have thick hair but I hate it. At the front I asked for shorter parts to frame my face, which I already had but she has taken it way too far back, I look like a Shetland pony and the most infuriating part.... when she went to feather my hair, rather than trim the existing feathers she angled her scissors away from my face at a drastic angle and before I could say anything she slid them down. I asked her to stop but she said 'it's not even' and kept going, so now between the Shetland pony style side fringe, and OTT angle feathering, my actual hair only starts behind my shoulders. It's so ugly.

I'm devastated tbh. 2.5 weeks on and I still hate it. It's going to take months to grow this out. Last time this happened it took 10 months and I've been growing it and protecting it since.

Why? Why do you do it hairdressers? Anyone else?

I wouldn't mind the Edward scissors hands approach if they knew what they were doing. It's a shame the only person I trust to cut my hair is fully booked for weeks and I only know my window of free time a day or two before being mum of 2.

get a pair of hairdressing scissors.
They're about £20 on amazon and makes all the difference to the cut

Nellieinthebarn I have cut my own hair for 20 years! I dont have a special u tube video.However I have a very sharp pair of scissors (Japanese steel) Amazon about 15 quid or so.Never let them be used by anyone else.My hair longer at the back ,make a pony tail and snip .Look in mirror ,dont go mad all at once .I usually do a second go the next day.Using said scissors style as required around face. I also colour my own hair using loreal 3 step colours .In the pandemic my NDN asked where I went during lockdown that was open ! Aghast when I told her she was lookiing at "hairdresser" Me!

Skimming the thread

no hairdressers to answer the question?

I cut my own hair. Sadly I'm not near a cheap dry trim place now. Those are the best!

absolutely bewildered to hear of hairdressers who are straightening and then putting curls in!

came on to say same thing..9 pages on and I only see a comment from one or maybe two hairdresers 🤷‍♀️

I have had dozen of hairdressers and I think only really old school ones can do decent haircuts, the rest are good at styling but that's it

I also have thick hair and it was a perpetual challenge to find a hairdresser who could cut it- get the weight off listen to my instructions but also a bit of flair. Find one, then they leave. Luckily I found one accidentally a few years back and stuck with her and will do till it’s all fallen out.

Change hairdressers. I was with a nasty bully for so long who lied to me about what he was doing to my hair. I said no bleach and I was blonder than an albino. After many insults over the years I changed to a lovely woman and my hair has never looked better. Don’t tolerate BS from hairdressers.

Every single time. It happens to me every single time. I had layers for ten years despite saying I didn’t like them. No advice. Just sympathy x

I have hair that is curly on one side and straight on the other, resulting in reality in a mess of curls. In all my days I have only ever trusted 2 hairdressers enough to say' do what you want with it', one several years ago and my current one. The one I left last was because whatever I said I always looked the same at the end as when I went in🙄

sorry about your hair OP I feel your pain. I think most of them are not very good at cutting hair - I think it’s that simple. Took me years to find one that understands the word trim.

I feel your pain. For years I would ask for no layers and the hairdresser would ignore my request and put layers in. I found that when you've got wet hair after them having washed it, it's harder to see what they're doing. In the very few times I've been to the hairdressers in the last few years, I've had a dry cut and it's easier to see what's happening and to stop anyone wanting to do the Rod Stewart look. I mostly do my own now though.

I've been to the hairdressers about 4 times in my life (I'm 63) and was profoundly unhappy every time- so I just avoid it- I have long fine hair and no fringe- so I just avoid them, why pay to be tortured.
My mother nagged me to have my hair cut/dyed/permed anything as long as it wasn't natural or what I wanted every day of my childhood teenage years- I only gave in 4 times and hated it every time- she still nags me to have it cut, and I still ignore her. Just let nature have her way-easier , cheaper and usually more attractive.

Why do you keep going back? I wouldn’t 🤷🏼‍♀️

As an adult I’ve had one awful cut and one colour disaster!
But quite a few poor finishes .
I have shoulder length hair , fine texture but plenty of it and it’s very wavy .
They seem to dry it stick straight despite me asking for it bouncy , then they take hair straighteners to it to give it a “ curl “ when in fact all that is doing is pulling the curl + wave out

I haven't used a hairdresser for about 12 years now. I cut my own hair and always get compliments. Was sick to death of them doing what they wanted! I go from long to shoulder, to long bobs and they always cut too much off and made my fringe too short too!

I despair going to the hairdresser - they never get the cut right. I ask for a layered angled bob - that’s up at the back with longer lengths at the front. Do I get that? Absolutely not. I find that when the stylist talks too much that’s when they mess up more. I keep changing my hairdresser hoping to find one that will listen and cut my hair how I want it to be cut.

Before they start, ask them if he can have that style or not

If yes and it isn't, kick off and ask for a refund

If no - ask why not. His hair may not be suitable

Years ago my boyfriend carried out half of a hairdressing course and then left. He was pretty good at a basic trim and blow dry,and I often let him trim my hair. Once I wanted a fringe and trusted him enough to do it for me,however he'd just smoke a bloody spliff and got completely carried away cutting it, I ended up with a fringe around an inch long that wouldn't lie flat and stretched from ear to ear even cutting into my sideburns I was mortified! and had to wear a hat to work for months (luckily I could). Years later I can laugh about it,but at the time I was sooo upset, especially when he kept telling me it looked fine,and that it would grow back!

I've just had that. Razor feathering. It now looks like split end city. All I wanted was shaped round my face and a fringe.

I often find the hairdressers very stressful. Got very frizzy wiry naturally wavy hair. Not nice curls. Firstly I find if I’m old enough to be their mum that’s the first red flag. Next they always want to layer my hair which just makes the shorter areas harder to control. Then they feather the front which I always ask them NOT to as it just breaks and splits and lastly they never know how to blow dry with a round brush. They just want to blast it with the hair dryer and then use GHDs so it’s all flat to my head! I could do that at home for free! If a hairdresser is good they will always have a long waiting list!

This is exactly why I’ve only had two hairdressers in 30 years. 5 years ago I moved house 50 miles away, but I still drive back to see my old hairdresser every two months. Tried a local one and they butchered my hair. Never again!

Oh I’ve had many feathering disasters - love my hairdresser now she knows I like a blunt cut with zero layers! X

I always get 'your hair is a totally different texture from the woman in the photo and therefore I can't do what you ask'. Have worked my way through most of the hairdressers in the town. The last but one seemed to have a hangover, was huffing and puffing and refused to do what I asked. He was rude, petulant and unprofessional. The latest one, a v nice woman, so far seems good. Please let it last.

My hair is long, all the same length, with a fringe. Tried a few times to grow out my fringe but l do not suit it...Been to same hairdresser for years, she knows l like a straight blunt cut, but for some reason the last time l visited the salon, she began to feather down the side of my hair...l shouted, no, what are you doing,?She said my hair is so thick, it could do with thining out....her opinion.....l was so mad, she didn't bother to ask, so glad l stopped her when l did....l was so mad, cannot begin to tell you, so totally understand how mad you are....These hairdressers probably do know best, l am not a hairdresser, but they should do what we want.....Hope your hair grows quickly

It's lucky you can't see my cut. I look like a coconut there's so little hair left. We got chatting and that was my mistake.