If you’re vegetarian but DH isn’t, do you cook him meat?

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I’ve been vege since I was a child. DH isn’t and there is nothing I can do or say to persuade him that dinner doesn’t need meet.
I will put chicken kievs, and the like in the oven, and even pan fry a steak, but anything more that I just don’t like labouring over a hot stove and my hair smelling of meat when I don’t like it. So it’s basically ready made meals, anything I can put in the oven and he doesn’t like it (married 10 years, DC won’t eat meat, and DH works and I don’t so by agreement I do all the cooking).

YABU- if you’ve both agreed that you’ll do the cooking, cook him what he wants.

YANBU - you shouldn’t have to cook things you don’t like the taste or smell of, I wouldn’t.

I am vegetarian, partner is not. I do all the cooking, and so it is vegetarian with the exception of a couple of meat things that can just go in the oven similar to how you describe. My DP used to be vegetarian (before I met him, long time ago) though so will happily eat vegetarian things. He is happy that someone else is cooking nice food for him!

Very occasionally. About once every 3 months. He can cook or have meat when we eat out.

Ditto to all that, especially the part about DP just being happy that someone is cooking for him!
I don't really mind having meat in the house but I don't want to cook it. I don't know how for one thing, and I also don't want to smell of it. DS (17) was brought up veggie but now chooses to eat meat and he'll eat meat at home, but mainly things like ready cooked chicken or salami. DP is not bothered about eating meat at home and will just eat when he's out and about, especially when we eat out.

I’m vegetarian and DH isn’t. He eats vegetarian meals at home though because it’s just easier than having to cook two separate meals all the time. He is fine with this and just eats meat when he’s not with me. So no I don’t cook him meat.

I'm veggie, husband isn't.

I do all the cooking, I don't cook meat.

He has catered lunch at work so he has meat there if he wants it.

I'm the same I'll cook things that just need put in the oven but I'm not picking through mince or chicken bones.

He eats vegetarian fairly frequently now anyways (tacos, pasta bake, fajita etc) . Ds is a meat eater and at Uni so it's just dh, me and dd who is pescatarian so he's kind of outnumbered.

In your position I would do a big batch cook and freeze individual portions that can be added to stuff once or twice a week. So massive pot of mince, easy enough to turn into pasta ragu or chilli or cottage pie. Basic shredded chicken, fish pie base etc.

I think if your household duties are split so that you cook, it is nice to cater to his dietary preferences but equally you would only need do that every month or so. I wouldn't want to feed my other half ready meals and processed oven stuff all the time as I'd worry about long term health.

I'm vegetarian and DH isn't. I do all the cooking because I enjoy it. DH eats 90% vegetarian food and he's happy with this. Well he has to be! He's not one of those men who thinks they need to eat meat all the time. He really enjoys my vegetarian food. About once a week I'll cook him meat. I often just put some chicken thighs and drumsticks in the oven and then there's enough to last a couple of days. He'll have it on the side of whatever vegetarian dish I'm eating. I also cook a creamy pasta and chicken dish which DH and the kids enjoy. This is quick to cook and I don't feel like I smell of meat afterwards. Sometimes I'll do a roast chicken. Very occasionally I might make a moussaka or something, usually only if we have guests.
I don't really like handling meat but the stuff cook involves minimal handling.

I think you either cook the meat or he cooks for himself?

I'm lifelong veggie , DH is not. I just can't have meat in the house and DH is ok with that. He eats meat/fish at work and out. It's a big compromise for him and I appreciate that, but I would be very upset having meat our home.

I was a vegetarian when I got married. I didn't cook meat for my husband, but I didn't object to him cooking it for himself or having it in the house. He mostly ate vegetarian at home unless we got takeout.

I’ll do fish or chicken in the oven. I’ve tried stove top and beef but I can’t handle the smell or the mess. I probably wouldn’t do any, but DS1 has a soy intolerance and DS2 has a dairy issue

I'm vegetarian, husband isn't. He does all the cooking and happily makes me a meat free version of whatever we're having.

I'm vegetarian. DS and DH are not.

I will cook them meat as long as it's in something (so like a pie or a sausage roll / fish finger / nugget or a pasta or ready meal) but I draw the line at slabs of raw steak, pork and the like. DH cooks those.

Even then though I'd say they have 3 meat free meals a week on average and everyone is happy to have them.

If I was happy to have meat in the house and cook some of it, I think that I would just do it for him most days. I don't see the difference between frying a steak and frying some chicken for example. Or grilling a chop. Seems unfair that he's going to have to cook his own dinner whilst also being the only one who works.

My ex was vegetarian, we only had veggie meals at home. I didn't realise how awful it was for me until we broke up. I found it really hard never having a meal at home that was "my choice" or my preference. Yes I could have meat out of the house or for lunch, but 7 days a week to never have the dinner I enjoyed for 6 years was just shitty.

When we split up I started to enjoy food again, and cooking, and I lost weight and had more energy.

I'm not saying you should cook meat, but maybe look at where is is low imposition to include it, steak strips he can add in sir-fry, or a handful of prawns to finish a dish. Or even veggie dinners but a little parma ham to start.

For those saying veggie dinners aren't a problem, I agree on occasion, but it is bloody awful day in day out knowing you are never getting to have the meal you really enjoy.

I’m vegan and DH isn’t. He actually does all the cooking as I do everything else (I work less hours). He makes amazing vegan food that he really enjoys too. He will eat meat at a restaurant though. He def does not expect me to cook meat for him and I wouldn’t.

I am vegan and no meat is cooked in my home by me or anyone else.

My partner can cook vegetarian at home for himself, but I ask no raw meat etc in my fridge.

The only time he eats meat at home is a takeaway. That way no cooking or washing up or meat in my fridge etc.

I am a very good cook, so this genuinely works for both of us. If I cook he gets a homemade delicious vegan dinner. If he cooks for himself he gets something like pasta and pesto or a jacket and cheese which is about the extent of his cooking skills anyway!

DP moved into my home which was previously all vegan, this was the situation we designed to work for us.

I don't have a husband. But my adult DD is veggie. I cook veggie when she's with me and I cook meat when she's not. When I go out I normally go for the meatiest thing on the menu. I do miss it.

I'm veggie and I do cook meat for the rest of the family BUT by the time I turned veggie my kids were all too old to expect them to convert with me. Therefore in my particular circumstances it would feel unfair to suddenly make DH responsible for all family meals that involved meat.
In your circumstances op I don't think I'd be cooking meat either.

No. I wouldn’t even contemplate cooking meat for a non-vegetarian family member. Eating meat isn’t a matter of ‘not liking the taste’, it’s an ethical position.

No, I cook vegan. Most often we eat together, the same thing. If he wants meat he cooks for us (and does 2 versions) or cooks the meat separately and adds it to the dish I made. He wouldn't ever want me to cook meat for him and I appreciate that.

DD is but her DP is not, they take it in turns to cook and he has meat most nights and whoever is cooking that night just cooks it separately and puts it on the her DPs plate.

I'm vegetarian because I don't want to kill animals. I don't eat animal products, I don't cook animals and I don't have meat in the house.

Lifelong vegetarian here, I never discuss it, I never criticize other people's food choices.
I also never cook meat for anyone, ever.