If you’re vegetarian but DH isn’t, do you cook him meat?

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I’ve been vege since I was a child. DH isn’t and there is nothing I can do or say to persuade him that dinner doesn’t need meet.
I will put chicken kievs, and the like in the oven, and even pan fry a steak, but anything more that I just don’t like labouring over a hot stove and my hair smelling of meat when I don’t like it. So it’s basically ready made meals, anything I can put in the oven and he doesn’t like it (married 10 years, DC won’t eat meat, and DH works and I don’t so by agreement I do all the cooking).

YABU- if you’ve both agreed that you’ll do the cooking, cook him what he wants.

YANBU - you shouldn’t have to cook things you don’t like the taste or smell of, I wouldn’t.

My DH is vegetarian and he cooks meat for the rest of the family. Probably 3 or 4 meals a week will contain meat for the meat eaters. He does most of the cooking as he enjoys it

Also, I couldn’t stomach the smell of it in my house, and in the oven and dishwasher etc.

it makes me smile when people are cooking meat and ask if I’m not tempted by the smell.
it smells of old blood and rancid fat to me now, so….no.

Veggie for more than 20 years now and my DH LOVES all things meat. Luckily in our house he does the majority of the cooking but when I am cooking, like you I am happy to throw say a chicken burger in the oven but that’s about it. Other reasons aside, I don’t know how to cook meat - I was a young kid when I went veggie - so there’s not much I can cook that isn’t easy! If your DH is unhappy with your efforts (and you’re trying here, you’ve not refused to touch meat) then I’d tell him to sort himself out and you just do you because he’s being bloody ungrateful.

Veggie since a young age, DP isn't. I cook mostly but not exclusively. He has really taken to veggie food, which is lovely. I cook him meat occasionally, if he sees something great at the butchers or reduced but I wouldn't agree to this habitually, certainly not every day. It's against my principles and I don't want to do it. Happy to do so occasionally. If he wanted meat more often, he can do it himself but I would ask for high welfare standards. He does cook fish himself (he's much better at cooking it). Eats what he likes when out, all fine.

I'm veggie and my husband is not. We agreed at the beginning of our relationship that we would eat veggie at home. We raise our children veggie and the only time he eats meat is occasionally when we eat out, and he has a pork pie at christmas. There is never meat in the house otherwise.

I'm an omnivore, my husband is a pescatarian. I would never dream of cooking meat for him and I wouldn't expect him to cook meat for me. When we cook at home we have vegetarian meals or meals that only contain fish, not other meat. If I was desperate for a steak or something (which doesn't happen) I would cook it for myself at a time when we weren't sharing a meal. When we eat out we each order what we want to, which will sometimes be something with meat for me. It's not complicated!

I’m veggie, DP isn’t. I do all the cooking and I usually cook him meat. He will eat veggie but he prefers meat and it’s about choice. It doesn’t bother me though, perhaps if it did then I might object.

I’m a vegetarian, DH isn’t. I do all the cooking and I won’t cook meat, he respects that. He likes having healthier, veg-packed meals though!

We don’t have meat in the house unless it’s a takeaway that he’s ordered, which is almost never because he mostly orders vegetarian food the few times we order in.

Really ?
DH and DD are vege, I am not we do not jave meat in the house, I do 50% of the cooking. I occasionally eat meat out. I find the less I have the less I miss it TBH.

I used to object to cooking meat because of the smells, but I got better at dealing with it. It was hard to get one of DC to eat enough protein so I girded my loins and learnt to cook with meat and fish.

I do have to call DC or DH in to check the seasoning for me sometimes.

DH doesn’t expect me to cook meat but is very pleased when I do.

I’ll do a curry base sauce then divide it into different pans - one gets meat, the other aubergine or pulses or tofu (as appropriate) for example.

I dont tend to cook for my partner, he does the cooking - however I would be happy to cook him frozen meats like the kievs you mention, meat pizza, hamburgers, etc. I wouldnt prepare and cook fresh meat, for no other reason than I dont trust it (myself) to be safe.

DH is vegetarian and me and DC are not. I cook meat for me and DC and he cooks his own meals. Sometimes we all eat the same meal eg. homemade vegetable soup, cheesy pasta bake or an omelette and DH tends to cook those as he's very good at cooking. Sometimes of I'm cooking toad in the hole I'll make one for D's and me and use veggie sausages to make DH an individual one. I wouldn't expect him to handle or cook meat and more than he would expect ds or me to go without meat. We have separate microwaves, separate ovens, DH has his own utensils and he has his own shelf in the fridge and freezer for non meat. It is not difficult to manage.

I am vegetarian and do cook meat for DH, but we tend to have meals where I either have a vegetarian alternative (veg sausage/burger while he has meat version) or he just throws some meat into a vegetarian dish I've made (like a curry or stir fry).

I don't usually make anything that I couldn't be a part of, so wouldn't do him a roast chicken or joint etc. But that said, we do have a child now so if she grows up eating meat then I wouldn't be against cooking them a chicken while I have some quorn or whatever.

I'm vegetarian, my husband isn't. We split the cooking 50/50, I cook veggie for both, he cooks basically the same meal (carb e.g. potatoes or pasta)/side of veg/meat) but subs the meat for a veggie (processed) alternative for me. Sometimes he moans I don't do the same for him but I absolutely will not cook meat (veggie for ethical reasons) and I cook more complicated dishes anyway.

I'm vegan and the cook of the household, so will make a main vegan meal for my partner. I'm totally cool with them e.g. putting cheese on top of their dish/having meat on the side, but that's something they have to do themselves, I won't cook meat or cheese for them (with the exception of e.g. making them a cheese sandwich or something, because that's easy and quick). Your husband can still have meat at breakfast and lunch. It's not like you're preventing him from eating meat at dinner, and in fact you even cook him meat like steak, which is really nice of you!

I'm vegetarian and do the majority of the cooking and I very rarely cook meat. The occasional straight into the oven meal but not much else. I did do a pan fried duck breast once, but generally I'm not a confident meat cook so if it's a meal like one last week where I'm having veggie sausages and he's having meat ones, he'll grill his own because he knows exactly how he likes it done and I'll prep the rest of the meal. He's not an enthusiastic cook and I am so he's happy to eat vegetarian with me most of the time, and when he cooks for us he also makes vegetarian meals. The only exception is that he doesn't like meat substitutes, which I don't cook with often anyway.

I’m very similar to you. I don’t mind cooking sausages, bacon, chicken Kievs etc. I’ll even chop up a chicken breast for a stir fry at a push. But that’s it- anything more involved he does himself. For Xmas dinner for example we had family over- DH dealt with the meat and I did the veg and sides.

I am like you op. At a push I can put a tin of chilli con carne in a pan and stir it and other similar things and I cook with dairy products even though I'm a vegan but that's it. No way could I roast a dead chicken or anything like that.

Dh is vegetarian but I do most cooking. When he does cook he's fine if the meat can just be done in the oven but I cook the meat part if it's something more involved.
I don't eat a lot of meat anyway and the other way around I wouldn't want to be touching/chopping meat as a vegetarian.

Why must those who don't eat meat be 'less rigid' but those that do eat it do not have to be 'less rigid'? Ultimately not eating meat is a life choice (be it for ethical or health reasons) and no one should be expected to be 'less rigid' unless they CHOOSE to be.

You cook all the meals but he can cook his meat the night before and add it to the dish?

I personally wouldn't tolerate this.

Absolutely not. I'm not sure I'd know what to do with some meat and he wouldn't eat anything processed anyway.
He's the cook, so int he house we are vegetarian (unless I'm away, or we're having people over in which case we'll have a veggie and a meat main), and obviously outside the house we both eat whatever we want

Yes, I've been vegetarian my entire life but my husband and kids are not. I happily cook meat for the whole family and just adapt the meal to suit myself. I have no problem handling meat though, which I know some vegetarians won't do.
Tonight for example everyone is having roast chicken breasts wrapped in bacon and topped with cheese (does that have a name?) with roasted carrots, broccoli, and roasted new potatoes. I simply swapped "my" chicken breast with a spinach and cheese pastry thingy from the freezer. Other times I will do myself a stuffed pepper.

We're the opposite. DS and I are the meat eaters and DH is a lifelong veggie.

I refuse to cook special meals just for DH so he usually sorts himself out although he NEVER actually cooks anything. It's always salad or tinned based meals. He's no idea how to use the Hob but can work the microwave, toaster and George Foreman thingy.

In this house, the person doing the actual Cooking of the food gets to choose. 🤷🏻‍♀️