Worst thing your in-laws have ever said or done to you?

[Springsunshine123]

Whats the worst thing your in-laws have ever said/done to you? Long list of mine include:
MIL telling me on our wedding day “Did not expect this to be this nice from you”
MIL asking me how much my jacket was and when replying £50 she said (god are you sure, wouldn’t expect you to fork out that much!)
trying to feed my 9mo lucozade
wanting someone to blow smoke into my 7yo’s ear to cure his earache
telling me it was my fault her husband was coughing…. The list of gems is endless…GO!

Do you think their Catholicism might have anything to do with brining up such a good man, who sticks up for you?

Told me PND was all in the mind and a sign of being weak.

I hear this excuse so much. Imagine your friend, partner or even your child behaved that way? Would you excuse this behaviour?

My son has ASD but MIL has never accepted the diagnosis - apparently ASD isn't a thing and his behaviour is all down to shit parenting. Anyway one time she said that his autism was all because of me and that was what I had done to him and I make him cry, and he doesn't need me, he just needs his dad.

I haven't spoken to her since.

Blamed me for all the dysfunctional crap in their own family (amazingly enough I didn’t know my DH when he was packed off to boarding school aged 8!)

Accused me of doing and saying stuff I never did (luckily I haven’t spoken to them in over 10 years now, so don’t have to deal with their nonsense).

Like a lot of posters, snide remarks about weight post partum - I imagine it’s probably rooted in jealousy over being young and fertile! 😂

Ex in-laws: generally controlling behaviour; opening my post, telling me I was a shit mum for not taking care of my children the way they took care of theirs etc. I pushed back every single time. The worst stuff though was after I left their abusive son. My children still had to have contact with their dad and by extension his family. The way they treated my children especially the younger one who has SEN is despicable. Making fun of how he talks, his looks, everything he’s interested in. They told him “he’s like this because his mother (me) made him this way”. There’s more but it upsets me to talk about too much. I didn’t find this out until after he refused to go anymore. I don’t care that they hate me and slag me off I can laugh about most of their pathetic shit now. But don’t upset my kids. They didn’t do anything to deserve that. I would never wish death on anyone, including them. But I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t going to toast with my husband when they finally fuck off to hell where they belong.

Current in-laws are breath of fresh air! Don’t always agree with them about everything but that’s not an issue. We can talk about stuff we need to without anyone shouting and being a dick,

Sorry, what's wrong with that? It sounds quite thoughtful, they wanted you to be comfortable? Or do you think of size 20 as grotesque?

I'll preface this by saying MIL has alcohol dependency issues and is generally not a nice person, the reason we had her stay with us is because she has a young daughter, DH's half sister, whom DH worried about and loves very much.

They were staying with us after some sort of crisis. MIL had a blazing row with DH over the way she let her DD hit our son and laughed about it. She left in a massive temper with her DD and went to stay with other family in London.

While there she badmouthed us in general, but she also told DH's family that I physically abuse my children; went into great detail about how I slap them, kick them, starve them. Said I emotionally abuse DH and have probably cheated on him. They didn't all believe her but she is a very skilled liar and most people tend to think there's no smoke without fire, so that's how we found out, when someone messaged DH asking if he was ok.

I haven't spoken to her since. I was so fucking nice to this woman despite how DH grew up, ACTUALLY abused and neglected. I convinced DH to have pity on her when she'd fuck up her own life again and again and endanger her DD, putting her boyfriends first and neglecting her needs. DH is now friendly with her for his sister's sake, she lives with us full time now thank god. I don't think I'll ever forgive her for lying about me, I can't bring myself to be in the same room as her.

How long have you got?

Cried when we got engaged and said to DH “why did you do that?”

Announced to a group of people at a party that she wanted nothing to do with our wedding. Then said she was broke and couldn’t contribute, but then gave her DD 20k for her wedding.

Brought party favours, cigars for her side and handed them out to them.

Told everyone who’d listen that I don’t look like this normally, and that I was anorexic because I dropped a dress size for my wedding.

Told me on numerous occasions that I’m not family, that she’s sorry for me because DC look nothing like me, they get all their brains from her side, that I should consult them before I do anything because they have better taste. That her family don’t even know who I am as I am nobody, nothing to do with them.

And more recently;

What have we done to upset Bouncer? Why doesn’t she want to know us? Why aren’t we included? We don’t understand what her problem is?

Thing is, she didn’t break me, and I lost many battles, but won the war. I feel sorry for her other offspring. They are all deeply insecure and vain. They are like Cinderella’s step mum and his siblings the ugly sisters.

My MIL told DH that he couldn't marry me as I was a "scarlet woman" ,this was the 1970's and I had been married before. We married in a registry office, neither she or FIL attended. When we had our first DC she declared he was a "bastard" as we weren't (in her eyes) properly married. DH never took any notice of her, neither did I, as I told myself she was barking!
The gorgeous grandchildren softened her over the years
After her death FIL was changed man and we became quite close.
DH has been married to his scarlett woman. for 47years!

MIL on meeting her newborn baby grandson for the first time.

"Oh dear. You can tell he's got it!".

My youngest child has Down's Syndrome.

Well my (thankfully) ex mil decorated her spare room for my first born while I was pregnant. Lovely you might think but no, we lived 200 miles away and she'd done it so 'I could work full time and her look after her grandchild'

Apparently she'd be fine with me coming up to stay every weekend 😳

She later caused absolute carnage by suggesting she have a go at breastfeeding my sill's newborn.
The woman was an absolute nightmare!!

When we were first dating I visited DH (then bf) at his parents house and when it got time to take me home bf car wouldn't start. Was a 20 minute drive back to mine, no direct buses and it was late evening/dark. BF asked his dad if he could borrow his car (he said yes). His mum pipes up "the car is half mine and I say no".

Also during those early dating years DH took me to an expensive hotel for my birthday. His dad said "that's the most expensive shag you'll ever have" in front of me.

MIL wore a white dress to our wedding.

When we had issues conceiving she would bring me lots of articles about female infertility, even though she knew we'd found out DH had a very low sperm count.

First pregnancy ended in a MMC. The day after I'd had an op to have it removed, DH had to collect MIL and bring her over our way as she was having a make up trial before her DDs wedding. She walked in and saw all the cards and flowers (she'd arrived empty handed). On her return she thrust some flowers at me that had obviously been bought at the local garage.

Two weeks later she expected me to drive 20mins to pick her up, then drive a further 45 mins to take her to her DDs hen night, drink nothing and do the return trip in the early hours. Fortunately I could use my recent miscarriage and not feeling up to it to decline. She was furious.

Took our two DDs out for the day to a local stream with FIL on a hot day and didn't keep the youngest (2yo) topped up with sun screen. Toddler was pale skinned and came back with bright red sunburn on her back 😡

There were loads more. She hated that I'd taken her precious boy away from her.

BIL and SIL told my MIL the baby wasn't my DH when I was pregnant.

When baby was born looked exactly like DH. MIL didn't like the name we chose so called her a different name for a month 🤣.

Saw we bought a new appliance, when she found out how much it was she started crying saying she was so poor she had to get pennies together to buy milk. A total lie!

Accused me of turning DH into a white person (he isn't English, I am)

Forced me to host and cook for a religious day then refused to eat it because I didn't cook what she wanted me to.

Need I say more as to why I am NC!!

Me and DH were on a boat trip with PIL. DH gave me a hug. Someone asked MIL who I was. She said she didn't know.

In laws begged and pleaded with us to move to their city. They wanted a close relationship with their gc our dc. Both retired and wanted to give childcare to our dc while we worked to help us. Dh was keen and as i had no parents and my only family (siblings) were doing their own thing I eventually agreed to the move. We found a house, dh transfered with his job but I had to give notice, but luckily found a good job in the new city. We move and settle in. The day before I start my new job in laws inform us that actually they cannot give any childcare as sil is now pregnant and they will need to prioritise her.

I scramble to find nursery/child minder to no avail. Lose my job. We can't afford the new higher rent in this city. We have to move again. It was so stressful and nearly broke us in every way.

I learnt a lesson though.

Broadcast baby news after miscarriages when we had asked her to keep it quiet.

Broadcast a very secret promotion of mine she had been asked to keep quiet - she told friends of hers I’d never met before members of my family knew.

Told me she didn’t like DS’s name and wanted us to go with one she had chosen.

Massively outstayed her welcome the day after we got home from hospital and was sarcastic and goady when DH b politely suggested it might be time to go (about 7 hours later)

Continually rang throughout the day when DS was a newborn despite being asked not to.

Telling me that she had never considered me to be a part of her family.

Ringing throughout family holidays.

Constantly changing the landscape as to food she likes and dislikes.

Refusing invites to attend events and then asking why she wasn’t invited.

All MIL. She could try the patience of the most saintly saint.

That's insane.

This is awful story - genuinely awful in laws - am so sorry x

I’m so sorry, that’s awful

If its Catholic baptism anyone who is confirmed can perform a baptism in an emergency .

My ex in-laws ruined our wedding photos - FIL had his hands in his trousers pockets on every picture and MIL wore the same coat that she went shopping in! They weren't short of money either and she could have easily afforded something nice to wear for the only sons wedding.

To be fair that's an OK way to view the death of someone and whether or not she had a good relationship with her father lots of people react this way. And explains why she didn't want to go to the funeral. I imagine there's quite a lot more going on as well.

Telling us on the phone baby DS had bulimia because he was throwing up after meals and he would need to be sectioned when he's older because we're enabling him..
He had reflux!!
Might have said a few home truths back on the phone

I could always tell mine didnt like me but i thought in the end we got on well. I was unfailingly nice even though she used to serve us home baking full of hair, human and dog, and freely had coughing fits all over food, into the fridge etc. We shared crafting hobbies and things so i thought we were making it work. However, beford the wedding there were muttered snide remarks about sending me home and when i split from her abusive shit of a son the first thing out of her mouth was 'well, i never liked YOU anyway'.