Worst thing your in-laws have ever said or done to you?

[Springsunshine123]

Whats the worst thing your in-laws have ever said/done to you? Long list of mine include:
MIL telling me on our wedding day “Did not expect this to be this nice from you”
MIL asking me how much my jacket was and when replying £50 she said (god are you sure, wouldn’t expect you to fork out that much!)
trying to feed my 9mo lucozade
wanting someone to blow smoke into my 7yo’s ear to cure his earache
telling me it was my fault her husband was coughing…. The list of gems is endless…GO!

I am so sorry 💐

Accused me of trying to kill her son. Yes, really.

When DD was baby, sitting on floor, DD was sick. Where most human beings would pick up the baby, MiL pushed her with her foot so DD fell over backwards. Said it was to stop DD from putting her hand in the vomit.

So glad I have nothing to do with that family now.

PILs turned up at our house after my dad passed away very unexpectedly. On arrival they hugged DH and kids, walked past me, just said hello. Then proceeded to ramble on about their holidays, wining and dining and telling stories about what they have been up to. Didn't mention my dad once and didn't ask anything.

Nothing.

On the other hand my parents have been abusive, unsupportive, divisive, unreasonable...you name it, they've done it.

My PILs decided that I am a narcissist and that I am controlling and abusing DH. There was no rational foundation for this theory, other than their dislike for me. They didn't say anything to me, or even talk to DH about their concerns. Instead, they phoned several of DH's closest friends to say they were "worried" about him and to share their crazy theory. Thankfully, his friends disagreed and/or declined to engage. When DH eventually found out he was shocked and very angry. If he hadn't defended and supported me, it would have ended our marriage.

That's the worst thing they did to me, but they have done even worse things to BIL (well, not BIL any more, he's the ex-husband of DH's sister). Sadly for everyone involved, SIL is just as dysfunctional as her parents (MIL in particular) and everyone suffered.

I know this is mainly a light-hearted thread, and most in-laws are annoying but bearable, but deeply toxic in-laws are no joke. The pain they cause never really goes away.

Gran in law, asked me what I had done to cause her grandson to have an affair? What was I lacking that had made him turn to someone else?

Her son did the same thing to his wife, must run in the family.

Agreed, a light-hearted thread yes, but I am not joking when I tell all you lovely ladies here I needed therapy to heal from my in-laws. I do nothing with SIL now and only tolerste MIL for the sake of my kids as she is there only living grandmother.

I had two losses per child, and not early ones. "it's such a shame you can't perform". I have always been nice but have never forgiven her. It was in 1997

We are/were long term NC with DH parents (both, although they were divorced and hated each other). FIL died a while ago, MIL now lives within a ten mile range of us but we haven't seen her in twenty plus years.
Far, far too many things to write on here sadly, and most are very identifying, but one was when I worked for MIL when I was in my late teens before I met DH. I broke my nose over a weekend and she was with enraged with me when I was upset at work (I still turned up in agony but really struggled). She took me by the arm and over to the GP surgery across the road where they confirmed that yes, I had broken my nose and needed to go to have it checked at hospital and to take some time off. She'd thought I was lying and still tried to make me go straight back to work from the GP. She even tried to make the GP tell me to go back. Was incredulous when I said no.
She also turned up at my front door when I'd called in sick with horrendous flu. I couldn't even get out of bed. My dad answered and had to physically stop her from marching in to check I was actually ill. She tried to make him say when I'd be back.
She was a very difficult women who could be kind and thoughtful but also an absolute fucker. You never knew which one.
There are much worse things that I can't tell.
I met DH through her and we are still very happily married years and years on despite the difficulties!!!! I always say I must bloody love him to have put up with them!

I grew up without a mother & MIL once asked me the weirdest fucking question & I'll never forget it.
'Were you ever taught not to wipe back to front?'

She also accused me of helping myself to her alcohol cupboard, when I was 7 months pregnant.

I was in one part of the hospital miscarrying while a relative on my husbands side was also in the hospital having a baby. We didn't tell anyone until it was all over and I was home. My mother in law said to me:

'Oh to think you were in the hospital together! Did you message them and congratulate them yet?'

I will never forgive her.

2 weeks PP: "When will you start wearing make up again? People will start thinking you're ill"

On telling my MIL that I was pregnant,she said dismissively 'Oh, you'll probably have a miscarriage'.

Well MIL told me I should have an abortion when I was pregnant with DS because DP would be a shit dad and I’ll end up single and alone (they didn’t get on) funny thing is when DS came along she absolutely loved him, he was the best thing since sliced bread in her eyes 🤭

After I was widowed my in laws disappeared, to the extent my primary aged child asked me what they had done to make their GP's hate them.
When challenged GP's said they needed to be in their 'bubble'- my response, what without his children!!!
NB this was pre COVID & so not that kind of bubble

Invited SIL to our new house. Gave her a tour and she kept saying her mate's house is so much bigger and more expensive.

Also then she invited us to a pizza party to announce she's cutting us from her will, everything will go to her friend's daughter, as if we ever wanted anything from her. I still believe she takes pleasure in seeing if we felt hurt 🙄 I hope she realizes now we honestly couldn't give a shit.

Thats horrible 💐💐

They lost their child! Have a heart. I don't agree with abandoning a grandchild (like my inlaws did to my DD...) but grief does weird things and no parent should ever have to bury their own son/daughter. I wouldn't be able to go on living, I know that much.

Assume she has no kids of her own? What is it with these SIL’s unable to make a life for themselves and sticking their noses into everyone elses business (yes im talking about mine)

the evening before our wedding - having dinner in a restaurant with maid of honour, husband (to be), best man etc - MIL said “I don’t know why you two are getting married - she’s (me) only marrying you for my (her) money!”
She didn’t/doesn’t have two pennies to rub together!
It hasn’t really improved….but her self importance is still a topic of conversation

Tonight I overheard my MIL tell my stepson that she loves him and his brother (my other stepson) more than my 2 daughters, who are also her grandchildren. This has been increasingly obvious in how she treats them, taking DSSs on days out regularly, having them for sleepovers, buying them new clothes and gifts and never doing any of this for our DDs but tonight I actually heard her tell him that and I've been shaking with anger since trying to work out what I should do.

When i first got with my partner his mother and father kept calling me his ex’s name but an ex from 20 years before.
And his father said that he will never love me like he loved her
(They broke up when they were 17)

His father is a narcissist and is still trying to brake us up 10 years later

My mil asked my parents ‘when is she (me) going to stop all this nonsense - she’s damaging the children’

Referring to us marking what should have been our daughter’s first birthday but she had died at three days old. My youngest child was too little to understand but my eldest wanted to mark her sisters birthday too.

Where did she get holy water? Did she steal it from her church?

I had suffered a miscarriage and was undergoing genetic testing it turns out I am a carrier of a genetic condition. We told family and Father in law said to DH ‘you should trade her in for a younger model’