To be annoyed with DP for being sick on the floor?

[Bubble77bee]

On the way home tonight my DP said he was feeling a bit sick. I sorted dinner for our DC then took them upstairs to do bedtime while he lay on the sofa. I have no problem with doing this when he is feeling ill. Just finishing bath time and I hear him retching downstairs. He’s being sick on the dining room floor. Thankfully it’s a hard floor, but I can’t believe he didn’t make it another couple of metres to a sink or toilet. He continued to be sick on the floor while I was shouting down the stairs to him to get to the downstairs bathroom. Now it’s all gone quiet downstairs so I’m guessing he is back on the sofa and there is still sick on the floor. There is no way I am cleaning this up. Am I being unsympathetic? Or AIBU to be annoyed at him for being sick on the floor?

Sometimes vomit comes out before you have a chance to run.
agreed you shouldn’t have to clean it but bit of sympathy would be right

I agree with you! I find it hard enough cleaning up the kids' sick. Tbh I would expect my 9 year old to make it to a toilet!

Omg that’s pathetic! Understandable in a small child but not in a grown ass man. I wouldn’t be cleaning up after my partner if he did this.

YANBU that's vile and lazy

Hard to say, it's very hard to keep sick in sometimes so he may not have had a choice. I would clean it up if he's still unwell as I would not want to come down to the smell in the morning! Make sure he has a sick bucket near him in case he has a virus

That is ridiculous! Any adult should at least attempt to make it to the toilet (or a sink or basin at least) and should definitely be cleaning up unless they literally physically cannot do it.

For an adult to be sick like that, not make it to the loo, I would think they are really very ill (or drunk). No one would choose to be sick on their own home’s floor. Get him some water, pack him up to bed (spare room if you have one) and clear it up. Gross, but also kind.

Not OK! I'd be cross too. I've found it can be difficult to reach the toilet on time but guess what - I have a sick bowl next to me and 9/10 times would make it anyway.

I feel no matter how sick you are you can clean up after yourself so I'd leave him to it and isolate yourself - you don't want to go down too.

Am I reading this right. You’ve heard him vomiting while upstairs and now it’s gone very quiet and you are assuming he is ok? Why haven’t you gone down to check on him? He could have vomited and lost consciousness.

Are you sure he is ok? I agree if he felt so sick he should have brought a bin to have beside him but I’d be worried if all has gone quiet.

If he has form for vomiting over the floor and leaving you to clear it up while he reads the paper or has a snooze, you can certainly leave him to it. If not, I'd be quite worried about him. Better check he's still conscious and making sense.

I'm sick quite a lot - terrible gag sensitivity, almost every time I cough and acid reflux- and I have to admit a fair few times I've not got anywhere near a toilet, sink, bowl etc, especially if I'm in the (thankfully laminate) end of the living room. I don't think anyone would be sick on the floor if they could help it, because the clean up is disgusting (and often makes me even more sick, thankfully I have a partner who is brilliant with me and has a strong stomach!).

A couple of weeks ago for the first time in my 52 years I felt sick randomly and didn’t quite make it to the toilet. I almost got there but was sick just before. My DH heard I was being sick, came upstairs, got me some water and cleaned up what I hadn’t managed to. I would have much preferred to make it to the actual toilet. YABU

No, it isn't ridiculous. Sometimes you cannot make it too an appropriate recptical. I once had to vomit into my cupped hands as the urge was completely overwhelming.

Agree.
Even my young children have made it to the loo.

That's how I'm reading it too! Can you imagine if the roles were reversed!

He's obviously very unwell. No adult would vomit on the floor if they could make it to the bathroom.

Did you know vomiting can happen while people have heart attacks? I would check on my DH before I got angry at him.

Also, once I start being sick, I figure it's better to stay where I am if possible and have someone run with a bowl to me rather than me move and risk being sick on the way to the toilet and making a second mess. My partner almost always deals with it for me if he's there (although I never expect him to) so I can go and clean myself up.

Im quite suprised at youre total lack of shits to give tbh. Yes if he is remotely capable I'd expect him to at least do most the cleaning up (I'd push a mop around once the floor was mostly cleared happily ebough) but why do you act like he did this on purpose? Presumably he wasn't expecting to vomit with no warning or he would at least have had a bucket to hand.
Have you at least gone down to check he is OK?
I mean, puke is gross but if my partner heard me being violently ill and their only response was to shout down the stairs for me to do it in the bathroom I'd find it pretty shitty tbh.

I had awful food poisoning 2 weeks ago and I was sick every 40 minutes for about 12 hours - I still made it to the toilet every time. I don't think there is any excuse for standing there being sick on the floor, you surely keep running and if you've got a little on the floor it's your job to clean it up. You normally feel some relief after being sick, even if its just for 10 minutes or so, so he should be able to do it.

It's possible to choke to death on vomit if trying to hold it in so if probably give him a break about it. Wouldn't be cleaning it up myself though!!

Did you miss the bit where I said "at least attempt to"?

Unless he has form for being disgusting, I would assume that he had no control over it. No one even slightly rational just thinks "meh, can't be arsed to try and get to the bathroom, I'll just vomit on the floor".

Whenever I have been sick I rarely make it to the bathroom on time.

Lost consciousness?