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To be annoyed with DP for being sick on the floor?

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Bubble77bee · 03/02/2025 20:56

On the way home tonight my DP said he was feeling a bit sick. I sorted dinner for our DC then took them upstairs to do bedtime while he lay on the sofa. I have no problem with doing this when he is feeling ill. Just finishing bath time and I hear him retching downstairs. He’s being sick on the dining room floor. Thankfully it’s a hard floor, but I can’t believe he didn’t make it another couple of metres to a sink or toilet. He continued to be sick on the floor while I was shouting down the stairs to him to get to the downstairs bathroom. Now it’s all gone quiet downstairs so I’m guessing he is back on the sofa and there is still sick on the floor. There is no way I am cleaning this up. Am I being unsympathetic? Or AIBU to be annoyed at him for being sick on the floor?

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Whotenanny · 03/02/2025 21:57

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 03/02/2025 21:44

Not my experience
I've just suddenly felt sick rise

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Oh wow, I've never known this happen! Whaddaya know, we are all different.

Also, love that OP started this thread and completely assumed everything.

He was sick in a bowl. Not a big deal, unless he hasn't poured it away and washed it out?

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 03/02/2025 21:57

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 03/02/2025 21:54

No way! I have been sick A LOT. I’m prone to food poisoning (just have to look at a dodgy prawn). I’ve had two pregnancies with terrible sickness. I’ve been sick on trains, on an escalator, at a train station, in a car. Do you know what I’ve never done?! Been sick on a floor. Because I’m an adult who will a) make sure I have some kind of vomit receptacle at close hand if I’m feeling poorly. And b) if I didn’t I would do my damndest to make it to the nearest sink. Which isn’t hard downstairs with a kitchen and downstairs loo that you have. It’s a joke.

So on the escalator you had a receptacle?

And he wasn't sick in the floor anyway. OP didn't bother checking on him before coming online to bash him

BeLilacSloth · 03/02/2025 21:58

When very very ill you just can’t help it. He’s probably mortified. Give him a bowl, blanket and some paracetamol OP.

Coconutter24 · 03/02/2025 21:58

angelikacpickles · 03/02/2025 21:09

Did you miss the bit where I said "at least attempt to"?

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But he did attempt to get somewhere and failed

Bramblecrumb · 03/02/2025 21:58

I would have said you were not being YANBU but while having hyperemesis there has been a few times where it's unfortunately been more sick than I was expecting and I have vommed on that spot 😬

BatchCookBabe · 03/02/2025 22:03

YABVU. Do you seriously think he puked on the floor purely to piss you off, and cause you extra work and stress?! Confused

Ridiculous. Clearly he couldn't make it to the loo!

I have had tummy bugs so violent that I have puked all over the bed. (And bedroom carpet.) Went to get up to puke in the loo, and fell faint, and keeled over, and puked anywhere I was facing.

People don't do it over the carpet or floor (or bed) deliberately FGS. Hmm

oakleaffy · 03/02/2025 22:11

SpinningTops · 03/02/2025 21:00

Not OK! I'd be cross too. I've found it can be difficult to reach the toilet on time but guess what - I have a sick bowl next to me and 9/10 times would make it anyway.

I feel no matter how sick you are you can clean up after yourself so I'd leave him to it and isolate yourself - you don't want to go down too.

If I feel nauseous {I don't drink alcohol} I always take a bucket to the bedroom just in case- as my bedroom is a couple of turns from the loo- and Norovirus can hit hard and fast.

Nerdynerdynerd · 03/02/2025 22:12

If he had been sick on the floor what do you think his motivation would have been? To spite you?

Otherwise he was too sick to make it on time. Do you really think your husband would boke on the floor to spite you?

BobbyBiscuits · 03/02/2025 22:13

@TwentyTwentyFive ah ok, in which case he wasn't sick on the floor then? Or most of it went in the bowl? I'd say that's definitely not a punishable offence as long as he cleans up.

Bunnycat101 · 03/02/2025 22:14

I think that was pretty cold. I’ve certainly had times where I’ve not made it when I’ve been very ill. Once I projectile vomited over our bedroom carpet when I woke suddenly at night- couldn’t have done anything about that one.

I also didn’t realise how far gone I was with one of my labours, hit transition at home, vomited everywhere and then thought ‘oh fuck I need go to hospital now’ and left a big pile of vomit everywhere… not a recommended approach to childbirth.

rosemarycait96 · 03/02/2025 22:14

Poor guy! I'm emetophobic and when the feeling comes I become rooted to the spot and too scared to move - a la vomit on the floor/bed/carpet/wherever I am. I am becoming better at making it to a toilet. Luckily my husband is an absolute saint and helps me with the sick and the panic.

There was one time he threw up in the bathroom and did in fact lose consciousness. I heard a huge thump and assumed he'd dropped something heavy. I still feel guilty to this day for assuming he was fine and not checking on him! He's got form for passing out in many types of situation, but still.

Your husband at least made it to a bowl! Totally understand your approach even if it lacked sympathy!

oakleaffy · 03/02/2025 22:14

BatchCookBabe · 03/02/2025 22:03

YABVU. Do you seriously think he puked on the floor purely to piss you off, and cause you extra work and stress?! Confused

Ridiculous. Clearly he couldn't make it to the loo!

I have had tummy bugs so violent that I have puked all over the bed. (And bedroom carpet.) Went to get up to puke in the loo, and fell faint, and keeled over, and puked anywhere I was facing.

People don't do it over the carpet or floor (or bed) deliberately FGS. Hmm

Your friend here is a 2 gallon bucket.
When you begin to feel nauseated.

Get your head well down in the bucket and all should be ok. {Unless you are already in the loo}

Norovirus tends to make one puke with force, and is horrid.

MrDobbs · 03/02/2025 22:16

Clearly many people with different expectations of behaviour to me and my friends and family. I thought it was normal that if someone was sick on the floor, they aren't feeling well, couldn't help it and probably also feel embarrassed by what they did. Their friends or family would have some sympathy for them, and offer to clean up and get them a drink of water or something if they are really unwell but if the person who sicked was feeling well enough they would say no and clear it up themselves.

But it appears that many other people would assume the sick person just thought fuck it, can't be arsed to go to the toilet, I'm going to just puke on the floor in my own house out of choice and to hell with the clean up, you only live once. And the appropriate response would be to shout orders to someone actively in the middle of vomiting. Lovely.

ForZanyAquaViewer · 03/02/2025 22:19

Rewis · 03/02/2025 21:57

So the working theory at this moment is that he felt sick and he actively decided to vomit onto he floor cause he couldn't be asked to get up and go to the bathroom/sink?

No. People who read the OP’s comments know he was ill into a bowl.

BunnyLake · 03/02/2025 22:21

The thing is when you're feeling sick you should have a bowl wth you so things like this don’t happen.

Ok seems he did have a bowl. 🤷‍♀️

oakleaffy · 03/02/2025 22:22

bzarda · 03/02/2025 21:08

I had awful food poisoning 2 weeks ago and I was sick every 40 minutes for about 12 hours - I still made it to the toilet every time. I don't think there is any excuse for standing there being sick on the floor, you surely keep running and if you've got a little on the floor it's your job to clean it up. You normally feel some relief after being sick, even if its just for 10 minutes or so, so he should be able to do it.

This sounds like classic Norovirus , rather than food poisoning - the repeated vomiting at those intervals for around 12 hours.

Noroviris is incredibly catching- you only need to touch a few viral particles, touch your eye or mouth and that's enough to catch it.

Hand gels don;t work against the virus, only bleach or hot soapy water.

CandyCane457 · 03/02/2025 22:23

Before I read your update I was scrolling through the responses thinking- I’m so confused, how does she know he is being sick on the floor? And how does she know he’s just left it there? I think you were quite presumptuous! And after all this the poor guy didn’t throw up on the floor and he did it in a bowl and sorted it out, whilst you were upstairs fuming with him!

I wonder if your partner has form for being a bit lazy as, my partner is incredible, does loads around the house etc. And if I was upstairs and heard him vomit, I wouldn’t just assume it was all over the floor and rage about him not clearing it up without knowing what he was doing. Instead, as soon as I was finished with the kids, I’d be running downstairs to make sure he was okay and see if he needed anything.

Mrsmozza123 · 03/02/2025 22:23

@Bubble77bee You chose to slag off your sick husband on mumsnet instead of checking he's OK?

This feels really sad.

willowbrookmanor · 03/02/2025 22:26

I can genuinely say that me or my children from about 2 years old have ever been sick anywhere other than a toilet, bowl or sink.

My husband has projectile vomited all over the place THREE times. He just stands there like a bloody fool and lets it come out.

Disgusting and childish.

MillionaireCaramel · 03/02/2025 22:30

Who in their right mind would decide to puke on the floor instead of in a toilet deliberately. The clean up really isn't worth it.

The only time I would be remotely pissed off would be if the person was ridiculously drunk for the 4th time this week. But that's a bigger problem than just a bit of sick.

I'm emetophobic, so I wouldn't be thrilled about it to say the least (the sound alone would make me panic) but if someone is ill they truly wouldn't have chosen to do it. In time I have realised it's not the person's fault and I need to put my own feelings aside for a single minute to make sure they're ok.

Loki64 · 03/02/2025 22:31

I dont think anyone "decides" to be sick on the floor. Sometimes when ur ill it just comes out and u cant always make it to the toilet.

Ur husbands ill and being sick, u shout downstairs to him having a go. You then hesr it go quiet and instead of checking on him you post a thread on mumsnet. You seem great.

BatchCookBabe · 03/02/2025 22:36

oakleaffy · 03/02/2025 22:14

Your friend here is a 2 gallon bucket.
When you begin to feel nauseated.

Get your head well down in the bucket and all should be ok. {Unless you are already in the loo}

Norovirus tends to make one puke with force, and is horrid.

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No. No good. I have a bucket by the side of the bed, (in case I can't make it to the loo,) and if I go dizzy and woozy/start to pass out, the puke goes everywhere! I have no control over it! 😬

BatchCookBabe · 03/02/2025 22:37

willowbrookmanor · 03/02/2025 22:26

I can genuinely say that me or my children from about 2 years old have ever been sick anywhere other than a toilet, bowl or sink.

My husband has projectile vomited all over the place THREE times. He just stands there like a bloody fool and lets it come out.

Disgusting and childish.

What a bloody ridiculous post! 😂 As if people CHOOSE to puke on the floor.

Get a grip FFS! 😆

LillyPJ · 03/02/2025 22:44

I doubt it he WANTED to be sick on the floor! Sometimes you just can't help it. It wouldn't be nice to expect you to clean it up though, unless he's very, very ill.

willowbrookmanor · 03/02/2025 22:44

BatchCookBabe · 03/02/2025 22:37

What a bloody ridiculous post! 😂 As if people CHOOSE to puke on the floor.

Get a grip FFS! 😆

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You are very rude. I’m sorry you are having a bad day.

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