To be annoyed with DP for being sick on the floor?

[Bubble77bee]

On the way home tonight my DP said he was feeling a bit sick. I sorted dinner for our DC then took them upstairs to do bedtime while he lay on the sofa. I have no problem with doing this when he is feeling ill. Just finishing bath time and I hear him retching downstairs. He’s being sick on the dining room floor. Thankfully it’s a hard floor, but I can’t believe he didn’t make it another couple of metres to a sink or toilet. He continued to be sick on the floor while I was shouting down the stairs to him to get to the downstairs bathroom. Now it’s all gone quiet downstairs so I’m guessing he is back on the sofa and there is still sick on the floor. There is no way I am cleaning this up. Am I being unsympathetic? Or AIBU to be annoyed at him for being sick on the floor?

So you are upstairs, you haven't been downstairs at all yet somehow figured out exactly where he vomited and that he is now ok lying on a couch...

People here are so insensitive! I have been in this position where I vomitted on the floor before I got get anywhere near the toilet. It was uncontrollable. My mom offered to clean it because I was so tired and pale but I told her I'd do it. She got me the rag cloths and a bag to clean it up. Perhaps you can help your husband, rather than being such a judgemental partner.

Thanks for the replies. I have checked on him - he’s on the sofa watching tv. And I take it back…. He did manage to grab the washing up bowl so thankfully it is contained.

Given she was only listening upstairs she has no idea what he attempted to do.

Not always possible to get to the bathroom or sink in time! I had HG and one evening I knew it was coming but as I moved to go to the toilet it just came out, there was nothing I could do to stop it- luckily my husband grabbed an empty laundry bag and cleaned up where I’d missed (it went In my hands). It’s horrible but when you’re that poorly I think a little sympathy is needed tbh

So you started the thread before even going to check on him?

So instead of going down and checking he is ok and seeing where he had been sick, you've stayed upstairs, assumed what's happened and logged onto a parenting forum to create a post about it?

Then gone downstairs and found out he's actually been sick in a bowl and all is good?

Ok.

If I heard my DP vomiting, I would be checking he is ok... not posting on MN and moaning about him. And if he has suddenly gone quiet, that does not mean he is ok.
I remember in school when one of my class mates just vomited out of nowhere. No warning.. it just came up. You can't always make it to a loo/sink on time. If it needs to come up, it will.

I once vomited on the floor of a taverna in Greece. I was rushing to the bathroom, holding my hands to my mouth, but I just couldn't stop it in time.

I never ever took a doxyclene antibiotic again on an empty stomach.

Luckily for me, the taverna owner knew me, and was much more worried about how I was, than what I had inadvertently done.

If I were you, i😉I'd take the same approach as that tervena owner

This is absolutely mental, aren’t you supposed to care about the person you chose to spend your life with?

I should add that if I hadn’t been bathing two small children at the time I would have gone down to see him. Was keen to keep the DC out of the way. Good to hear other people’s perspectives on this though and I will try to be more sympathetic (still not clearing it up though). And yes, he has form for being generally not very helpful and not being particularly supportive when I’ve been unwell.

Well, he must have attempted to make it to a toilet or sink as he was on the sofa in the living room, started a dash and the vomit appeared once he was in the dining room. If he had made no attempt, he would have vomited on the floor by the sofa he was lying on.

The state of this thread. You people do make me sick! If you can make it to the loo or sink does t mean every person can.
i didn't realise you have so many gastrointestinal specialists on here, telling us exactly what a person should or shouldn't be able to do.

Sometimes it's too quick, some people really don't know that they're seconds away from vomiting.

Tbh, if he's already been sick on the floor, it's better that it's in one spot rather than him being sick again half a meter away.

OP is all out of fucks to give. Not only did she not bother to he was ok…she sat upstairs and started a thread while he was throwing up 😂😂😂

I know a couple who lost their 19 year old son who choked on his own vomit.

A few weeks ago my baby granddaughter choked whilst vomiting;I dislodged it but she then lost consciousness in my arms;it was one of the most frightening moments of my life.

I'd rather clean vomit off the floor than deal with a dead teenager or unconscious baby.

God I have had episodes of sickness where I haven't made it to the bathroom or managed to grab a suitable receptacle on time. TBH my DH would clean it up, although I would not be happy to let him. I think you are being harsh and I can't believe the attitude of some posters.

Even my dc have made it to the loo. Most people wait in the bathroom by the loo if they feel very sick.

DO NOT clear it up!!!!!! Jesus.

You should add that if you hadn't been posting on Mumsnet, you could have checked how your poorly husband was.

Why can’t you clean it up? Assuming you haven’t lost your arms and legs.

Your original post suggests otherwise.

@Devon24

Why can’t you clean it up? Assuming you haven’t lost your arms and legs.

I said he would, as in he would be willing, but I would not be happy to let him, as in, I would do it myself. Sorry for not being clear enough.

Yes, and I bet if it had been the other way around.... OP was sick and her DP shouted at her from upstairs... people would be telling her to LTB.

Then why start your post saying 'this is ridiculous'?

I had hyperemesis during both my pregnancies, and frequently was very sick without any warning at all, and would never have been sick on the floor / etc if I could help it. On the other hand I always cleaned up every inch myself and refused to let DH anywhere near until I'd done it, because cleaning up someone else's vomit is disgusting.