To be annoyed with DP for being sick on the floor?

[Bubble77bee]

On the way home tonight my DP said he was feeling a bit sick. I sorted dinner for our DC then took them upstairs to do bedtime while he lay on the sofa. I have no problem with doing this when he is feeling ill. Just finishing bath time and I hear him retching downstairs. He’s being sick on the dining room floor. Thankfully it’s a hard floor, but I can’t believe he didn’t make it another couple of metres to a sink or toilet. He continued to be sick on the floor while I was shouting down the stairs to him to get to the downstairs bathroom. Now it’s all gone quiet downstairs so I’m guessing he is back on the sofa and there is still sick on the floor. There is no way I am cleaning this up. Am I being unsympathetic? Or AIBU to be annoyed at him for being sick on the floor?

I occasionally get that, but only a little bit - fortunately. (I'm on Lansaprazole and found that once I retired, my night time reflux vomiting mostly stopped.)

Okay, so he should have made it to the toilet and should definitely be clearing up his own vomit, but sometimes these things happen.

He continued to be sick on the floor while I was shouting down the stairs to him to get to the downstairs bathroom. What good does shouting do in the middle of someone vomiting? Did you expect him to move whilst he was mid vomit? All that would achieve is vomit being spread further.

If I heard my OH being sick due to illness my first thought would be "shit, hope he's ok" and to go and check on him.

Can't imagine how little you have to care about someone to not go downstairs and see if they are ok, and instead shout at them and immediately go onto a public forum to complain about potentially having to clean it up.

I'm sometimes sick without any warning. A few days after having a new bedroom carpet fitted, I was in bed with a migraine. All I did was turn over and sick literally flew up into my mouth. By the time I'd jumped out of bed and clamped my hand to my mouth so I could to run to the toilet I retched and ended up throwing up all over the carpet and all over the rug. By that point I couldn't have moved even if I'd have wanted to because my whole body was shaking so much and just had to stand there and continue to be sick. It was the same after I'd had a lumbar puncture done. Woke up a couple of days after having it done and without any warning at all threw up from the pain in my head. I was sick that violently I lost consciousness. I ended up that dehydrated that when they tried to put a drip into my arm they couldn't find a vein. In the end after much trying they had to use a butterfly needle in the back of my hand so they could give me an anti sickness before giving me fluids I was sick without warning a lot that week I was in hospital. In fact out the many times I was sick and I was sick literally any time I moved my head. I managed to catch it in a cardboard bowl twice and that was only because I'd managed to grab one off the windowsill in the toilet before having a wee.

Theirs always enough time to get to a sink/toilet/bowl

Glad you have never had the experience of it. Doesn't mean others haven't

This has happened to me before when I was really ill, i could barely move because i was severely lethargic and it was an effort just to sit up, I'm glad my husband didn't have a go at me for not making it to the loo that would have made me feel 10 times worse, no one chooses to vomit all over the floor if they can help it

I'm not saying people are lying at all honestly, but I've genuinely never vomited without warning. When I've had a bug I've had a bad stomach ache and that oh god I need to be sick, same with the food poisoning I had last year. I had stomach ache along with waves of nausea and then when I knew I was about to be sick I had time to get to the toilet. I'm very lucky I suppose

Happened to be during pregnancy. Was sick on the kitchen floor and despite having an ensuite, on the bedroom floor.

I was the one who cleared it up I definitely didn't choose to be sick somewhere other than the toilet but these things happen.

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I’m emetophobic yet I’ve opened this thread !

Your DH comes in says he's sick. Not drunk, but actually poorly. And while you're caring for the kids he's so ill he can't make it to the loo and your first inclination is irritation?

Seems a bit inconsiderate to me. Yeah, I can understand a bit if he's too ill to clean it himself. But if he's too ill to clean it himself I'd be more worried than irritated.

And everyone saying it's disgusting and he's disgusting would be horrified if a woman was that poorly and so sick she didn't make it to the loo and then her husband took it out on her that she didn't clean up after herself.

When your spouse is poorly, you care for them. Sick is disgusting but assuming it isn't self inflicted its not for being mad at him

I once spectacularly pebble-dashed my lounge, hall, stairs, landing, and bathroom before getting the last mouthful of my vomit into the bowl of the toilet.

It was like a puke Jackson Pollock all through the house and all over me as well.

My husband was a total saint about the whole thing, hosed me down, mopped the walls, zoflora'd the shit out of the place and tucked me in bed with a bucket.

Norovirus is the explosive gift that keeps on giving long after you think you are empty.

So now, if vomit overcomes me, (thankfully very rare), I tend to stay in one place rather than male a run for it.

I'm also super forgiving if he ever does anything a bit disgusting by accident because I know I've been pretty gross at times myself.

I assume you had a CSF leak from the lumbar puncture procedure? I too had a severe leak following spinal surgery that went wrong. The headache (and associated vomiting) was indescribable. When the nurses came to log roll me to check the wound, or wash me etc., they would turn me, position a vomit bowl under me and run for the hills!!!

Whilst I agree that is best to head for the look if you're going to be sick

How many bathrooms do you have? If only one then maybe he didn't feel comfortable throwing up in the loo whilst the dc were in the bath a couple of feet away witnessing it.

My last sickness bug I couldn’t make it to the bathroom. I threw up all over the hall floor just outside the bathroom. I then lay on the same hall way fall for about an hour before I could drag myself up to clear it up. Sometimes you just can’t make it

YABU. I'm the sort of person who cannot move when I'm about to be sick and it's unexpected, so I do it wherever I am. I'm just considerate and make sure I move enough so that it can be easily cleaned. (floor, towel, etc.) I absolutely hate being sick and moving makes it so much worse. I don't understand how people can quickly run to the toilet or a sink

I'm not so sure. My hubby was sick up our carpeted stairs once, at the start of a vomiting bug. He tried his hardest to get to a loo/sink. He was in no fit state to clear it up but was mortified that I had to clear up after him. I did it without complaint because I love him and was worried for him. He would do the same for me too! I would be miffed it was due to being drunk though.

Winter vomiting virus, absolutely no time to get to a bathroom. No warning in my experience just full on violent vomiting, starts as feeling a bit sick and within a few minutes, gets really full on. No way to control it unfortunately.

If you are feeling unwell go to bed. If you are feeling like you will vomit you have a receptacle/basin you can vomit into.

his sick he cleans it up. He should also not pass bugs into you or kids so sleep apart.

so while he’s vomiting downstairs you just start yelling at him to make sure he doesn’t dirty the floor, you don’t go and check on him because the kids are in the bath but your head is stuck on your phone engaging with posters about the situation so obviously not 100% attention watching the kids . You just couldn’t wait to TELL on him , huh . And now it comes out that he’s not helpful or supportive of you when you are ill . So I guess this is revenge. There is definitely more to this than meets the eye .

Are you really that unsympathetic? He's ill & hasn't been able to make it to the toilet or sink & you're annoyed with him? I'm sure he hasn't intentionally not got up to go to the bathroom. No one would chose to vomit on their living room floor. It's very dangerous to try & hold vomit in as you can inhale it into your lungs & die. Sometimes it's hard to get up from lying down when you feel ill so he's obviously not been able to get up in time. I'd rather someone vomit in one place than run through the house being sick all over trying to get to the loo or sink. also the fact you didn't go check on him when it went quiet is worrying. Anything could've happened, he may have chocked or collapsed & you're busy shouting at him from upstairs & expecting him to clean up after himself whilst poorly.

Christ I'm glad I'm not in a relationship with you! Poor guy is clearly unwell, I can't imagine my DP chucking up and not looking after him. Of course I'd clean up and help, I love him and an adult throwing up is generally feeling crap!

I‘m similar and very emetophobic! My counsellor said it’s a flight/fight/freeze reaction!

@Sebsaloysius I'm 100% certain I did, but the dr that checked the lumbar puncture site said I didn't. It took the full week in hospital plus a further 8 week after being discharged for the headache to go away. Aside one dose of oromorph I was barely given any pain relief. I got more care and compassion off the poor cleaner who had to come and clean the floor beside me and the tray table. I just felt like a huge inconvenience to the drs and nurses and made to feel mega disgusting after I wet myself from vomiting so hard.