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To ask the hardest thing you have ever been through

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Youngishh · 02/02/2025 20:49

Currently going through a divorce and it’s got me thinking about things that people go through in life. Although I am struggling with it, the hardest things I have ever been through was an abortion. I have still never got over it tbh.

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problembottom · 02/02/2025 20:51

My cyclist brother was killed by a drugged up driver. I don't think I'll ever get over the shock.

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Youngishh · 02/02/2025 20:53

problembottom · 02/02/2025 20:51

My cyclist brother was killed by a drugged up driver. I don't think I'll ever get over the shock.

I am so so sorry that is awful

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mbosnz · 02/02/2025 20:53

When we were going through the quakes, something DH said that really resonated with me, is, 'the worst quake is the one you've been through'. So, your current worst quake is going through this divorce.

I'm really sorry that you're going through such a tough time and process, and hope that you may travel over such difficult terrain as lightly, and swiftly, as possible.

orangetriangle · 02/02/2025 20:55

my dd was very ill after a vaccination and was not expected to recover fortunately she did thank god

creamsnugjumper · 02/02/2025 20:55

Youngishh · 02/02/2025 20:49

Currently going through a divorce and it’s got me thinking about things that people go through in life. Although I am struggling with it, the hardest things I have ever been through was an abortion. I have still never got over it tbh.

Sorry to hear this OP, hope you are OK.

For me my battle to be taken seriously with stage 4 endometriosis for most of my life, the wide excision surgery I had to pay for and the 12 month painful recovery. Also the fear of it coming back and the lack of knowledge around HRT snd Endo. It's an utter shit show of a disease and it's defined my entire life choices.

I feel so so lucky though to have option of paying and think about the millions of women who don't have access to a credit card, healthcare or the ability to recover safely.

My dad's death was emotionally hard, and I've lost many friends way too young. But I think in the whole scheme of things I'm OK.

Grievingmum123 · 02/02/2025 20:55

Getting fat shamed in front of the whole classroom when I was 8. Gave me a lifelong battle with eating disorders.
Witnessing my dad waste into nothing with depression and dementia.

Rainbowgrey · 02/02/2025 20:55

Finding my little boy dead in his cot, he was 12 months old.

Noshowlomo · 02/02/2025 20:56

My daughter was stillborn in 2017. Her brother was born safely 18 months later but I catastrophize so much about his health even now I’ve had to have therapy on and off for years. Changed me completely

MorrisZapp · 02/02/2025 20:56

Post natal depression which I can now admit bordered on psychosis. The laddie is now a gorgeous 14 year old and I'm absolutely fine. Still on the blimmin tablets mind.

HelloDaisy · 02/02/2025 20:56

My mum died in an accident on holiday which completely traumatised me. The shock was too much for me to deal with and took me a long time before I could smile again.

Noshowlomo · 02/02/2025 20:57

Rainbowgrey · 02/02/2025 20:55

Finding my little boy dead in his cot, he was 12 months old.

I’m so so sorry x

CrowsInMyGarden · 02/02/2025 20:57

My son being depressed and wishing he wasn't alive, when he was a teenager.

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Youngishh · 02/02/2025 20:58

MorrisZapp · 02/02/2025 20:56

Post natal depression which I can now admit bordered on psychosis. The laddie is now a gorgeous 14 year old and I'm absolutely fine. Still on the blimmin tablets mind.

I had this when my DS was born, after the abortion, a lot of guilt came and I nearly ended it all. I was very unwell. It was such a scary time I completely lost my mind.

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MyProudHare · 02/02/2025 20:58

@Noshowlomo @Rainbowgrey

Sincere condolences to you both 💐💐

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Youngishh · 02/02/2025 20:58

Rainbowgrey · 02/02/2025 20:55

Finding my little boy dead in his cot, he was 12 months old.

So sorry.

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MyProudHare · 02/02/2025 21:00

I was widowed a decade ago - nursed him through having a brain tumour. 15 months of illness during which I lost all sight of the man I loved, as he became confused, agitated and violent. We had two toddlers (now teen/pre teen) and in the end he had to be put under a deprivation of liberty order (sort of like being sectioned, but it wasn't a mental illness). Then he died.

It has changed me forever. Even though I look like I have rebuilt my life now.

Pennyplant19 · 02/02/2025 21:00

Finding my beloved brother dead last summer. It's changed me as a person and I'll never get over it.

Member984815 · 02/02/2025 21:01

Bil killed in accident otherside of the world. Just a year after fil had passed suddenly. It followed a string of other deaths . We did get through it but it was hard. Sometimes life just sucks but many other times make up for it

rainythursdayontheavenue · 02/02/2025 21:02

My Son being stillborn

My Dad dying from liver cancer (brutally) - his liver failed and the pain meds didn't work at the end. I'm not sure I'll ever recover from his last week of life.

My Mum trying to take her own life when I was 13. She came downstairs, sat at the kitchen table and said I've taken an overdose. Fortunately she survived.

Pennyplant19 · 02/02/2025 21:02

Rainbowgrey · 02/02/2025 20:55

Finding my little boy dead in his cot, he was 12 months old.

Im so so sorry 💔

Member984815 · 02/02/2025 21:03

These stories are incredibly sad , so sorry for everyone's losses

iamjustlurking · 02/02/2025 21:03

Telling my children we had lost our home completely out of the blue due to their fathers addictions and becoming instantly homeless
Then having to collect them early from respective friends houses 8 years later to tell them he had passed away suddenly again due to his addictions.
Holding them together as the impact has affected them for the rest of their lives

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Youngishh · 02/02/2025 21:04

My goodness, my problems seem so irrelevant now

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PrawnofthePatriarchy · 02/02/2025 21:04

DH developed cancer and died when our sons were still at primary school. It's a long time ago - my DC are grown men, but I still miss him. He was my great love and we were very happy.

Yiayoula · 02/02/2025 21:05

@Rainbowgrey @Noshowlomo @rainythursdayontheavenue

All deaths are painful , but I cannot imagine anything worse than the loss of a child . xxx