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To find ASMR really disgusting

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TemporaryPosition · 02/02/2025 20:04

And find it really off-putting when otherwise interesting and entertaining youtube videos are tagged with this. Makes me not want to watch/listen to them.

OP posts:
canyouseemyhousefromhere · 03/02/2025 22:24

Newfoundzestforlife · 03/02/2025 20:39

What's so awful about people finding something relaxing?

I didn’t say they or their reaction was awful, I said that I found it (the noise) awful.
Quite easy to understand.

Nantescalling · 03/02/2025 23:00

I'd never heard of it before but I live in France where people must be a bit more stalwart. All we have is a warnings about flashing lights. It sounds quite nice to me - the only thing that I ever came across with such effects are illegal substances!

superstar63 · 04/02/2025 06:53

I would love some recommendations for any that really help with sleep please?

1DinosaurAnd3Giraffes · 04/02/2025 13:25

OP i agree with you.
Anything I have seen tagged as ASMR has been irritating noises.
However, this is because I suffer with misphonia.
Ticking clocks, pen tapping, whispering, mouth sounds, chewing, crunching, finger tapping. Anything repetitive. All these types of sounds send my brain into an uncontrollable RAGE and I can't think of anything else until the sound stops.

In fact, thinking about it and writing that list made my skin crawl and I could feel the stress and irrational rage inside me building up.
It's literally the opposite effect to the people that enjoy the ASMR content and find it relaxing.
But I guess people that find it relaxing will never understand how the sound of someone whispering can make me want to punch them in the face😅and im not even a violent person.

I can listen to sleep music though. And the sound of the rain can put me to sleep very quickly. I guess we are all different.
Brains are a wonderful creation aren't they

ImthatBoleyngirl · 04/02/2025 14:54

Every name was invented at some point; Autonomous – spontaneous, self-governing, with or without control. Sensory – about the senses or sensation. Meridian – signifying a peak, climax, or point of highest development. Response – referring to an experience triggered by something external or internal. This pretty much describes it.

It probably didn't have a name 40 years ago when I was 5 and experienced it when I was watching my friend play with someones hair, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. It's always nice to put a name to something.

QueSyrahSyrah · 04/02/2025 14:57

YANBU. I've never been able to stand the sound of sustained whispering since I was a kid. It makes my skin creep off my bones. As for the tapping, it makes me want to snap their fingers off.

Mirabai · 04/02/2025 15:49

ImthatBoleyngirl · 04/02/2025 14:54

Every name was invented at some point; Autonomous – spontaneous, self-governing, with or without control. Sensory – about the senses or sensation. Meridian – signifying a peak, climax, or point of highest development. Response – referring to an experience triggered by something external or internal. This pretty much describes it.

It probably didn't have a name 40 years ago when I was 5 and experienced it when I was watching my friend play with someones hair, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. It's always nice to put a name to something.

You’ve just got that from wiki, which highlights that it was invented by someone on an online forum.

  • Autonomous doesn’t mean spontaneous
  • Meridian doesn’t mean climax. It is used in geography to describe a circle of longitude, in astronomy to a circle through the poles, and in Chinese medicine to describe a pathway for the flow of qi. The best you can say for it is that literally it means midday when the sun is at its highest point, but what had that got to do with tingles?

Spontaneous sensory response would be much more accurate linguistically but it doesn’t have the ring of pseudo-science to excite its fans.

Crushgrape · 04/02/2025 15:59

I personally find ASMR helps my anxiety / mental health. I went through a dark time in 2019 and watching asmr videos really “saved” me. I still watch them now.

However, of course you’re not unreasonable disliking them. I personally cannot stand some styles of asmr, they make my skin crawl, the finger tapping, a lot of eating videos and some triggers are just not for me.

Different things work for different people.

ImthatBoleyngirl · 04/02/2025 19:28

Mirabai · 04/02/2025 15:49

You’ve just got that from wiki, which highlights that it was invented by someone on an online forum.

  • Autonomous doesn’t mean spontaneous
  • Meridian doesn’t mean climax. It is used in geography to describe a circle of longitude, in astronomy to a circle through the poles, and in Chinese medicine to describe a pathway for the flow of qi. The best you can say for it is that literally it means midday when the sun is at its highest point, but what had that got to do with tingles?

Spontaneous sensory response would be much more accurate linguistically but it doesn’t have the ring of pseudo-science to excite its fans.

The following is a rather lengthy explanation of why these word were chosen:

Autonomous is most commonly used to describe the behavior of an individual or governing body as independent or self-governing. It is believed Jennifer Allen selected this term because of this common meaning. She saw the large variety of stimuli that trigger ASMR as it being “individualistic”, in the same way that we all enjoy food but we each have our individual preferences. She also selected this term for the “self-governing” meaning because it describes those individuals whom do not need any external stimuli to experience ASMR, their experience is “self-governing.”

Although autonomous is not widely used to describe biological pathways, there is a very similar word used in biology that has the same meaning because they share the same word origins. “Autonomic” is a term that describes nerve pathways that leave the brain and regulate the activity of your organs. Autonomic also means independent and self-governing because these biological processes work without you needing to think about them. When you want to pick up a pencil, that is not an autonomic signal because you have to think about it to make it happen. But when your heart rate speeds up or slows down that is considered autonomic because you do not need to think about it.

In time, I think research will show that there are some autonomic responses with ASMR. When people experience ASMR they probably have a lot of classic autonomic responses like decreased breathing rate, decreased heart rate, and increased digestive system activity. So the “autonomous” term in ASMR is an excellent descriptor for the variety of triggers, the ability of individuals to experience ASMR without any triggers, and the autonomic responses that occur in the body during ASMR.

She has shared that she chose the term meridian because it meant a period of high prosperity or success. It may be serendipity that meridian has other meanings that seem to also fit well with ASMR.

Another meaning of meridian is as a term from traditional Chinese medicine to describe the pathways of life-energy flow. Many people who experience ASMR would probably agree that they feel like some kind of tingly electric feeling is flowing throughout their body.

Another meaning of meridian is a line that runs between the North Pole and the South Pole.

If you combine together some of these meanings of meridian, you sorta have a very good description of the central nervous system, which carries electrical signals between the tops of our heads and the bottoms of our spinal cords. And the tingles from ASMR are probably mediated by neurotransmitters initiating impulses along our central nervous system.

I believe that Jennifer Allen also had a broader and important reason for coining the term “ASMR.” ASMR is a term that is more likely to be taken seriously and receive the attention of researchers and funding agencies, than terms like head orgasms and brain tingles.

asmruniversity.com/2014/08/03/scientist-view-term-autonomous-sensory-meridian-response/

chargeitup · 04/02/2025 19:56

Natural ASMR is soothing and hypnotic. I've always had this but it's been unexpected and uncontrived. Like watching someone wrapping a parcel or someone baking.
This horrible whispering and finger nail tapping is awful. I instantly have to flick the page

cornflakecrunchie · 04/02/2025 20:25

? I had to google it but still not clear.. is it some new fangled tik tok thing?

peekaboopumpkin · 04/02/2025 22:11

Mirabai · 04/02/2025 15:49

You’ve just got that from wiki, which highlights that it was invented by someone on an online forum.

  • Autonomous doesn’t mean spontaneous
  • Meridian doesn’t mean climax. It is used in geography to describe a circle of longitude, in astronomy to a circle through the poles, and in Chinese medicine to describe a pathway for the flow of qi. The best you can say for it is that literally it means midday when the sun is at its highest point, but what had that got to do with tingles?

Spontaneous sensory response would be much more accurate linguistically but it doesn’t have the ring of pseudo-science to excite its fans.

Does it matter how it was made up? It's widely used to mean a specific thing that didn't have a name before.

At least they didn't go down the walkie talkie route and call it tingly wingly.

HughGrantsfurrysquirrel · 16/02/2025 01:57

Yes, i suffer from it too, so totally relate.

I love watching animals eating though!

Mirabai · 16/02/2025 10:26

ImthatBoleyngirl · 04/02/2025 19:28

The following is a rather lengthy explanation of why these word were chosen:

Autonomous is most commonly used to describe the behavior of an individual or governing body as independent or self-governing. It is believed Jennifer Allen selected this term because of this common meaning. She saw the large variety of stimuli that trigger ASMR as it being “individualistic”, in the same way that we all enjoy food but we each have our individual preferences. She also selected this term for the “self-governing” meaning because it describes those individuals whom do not need any external stimuli to experience ASMR, their experience is “self-governing.”

Although autonomous is not widely used to describe biological pathways, there is a very similar word used in biology that has the same meaning because they share the same word origins. “Autonomic” is a term that describes nerve pathways that leave the brain and regulate the activity of your organs. Autonomic also means independent and self-governing because these biological processes work without you needing to think about them. When you want to pick up a pencil, that is not an autonomic signal because you have to think about it to make it happen. But when your heart rate speeds up or slows down that is considered autonomic because you do not need to think about it.

In time, I think research will show that there are some autonomic responses with ASMR. When people experience ASMR they probably have a lot of classic autonomic responses like decreased breathing rate, decreased heart rate, and increased digestive system activity. So the “autonomous” term in ASMR is an excellent descriptor for the variety of triggers, the ability of individuals to experience ASMR without any triggers, and the autonomic responses that occur in the body during ASMR.

She has shared that she chose the term meridian because it meant a period of high prosperity or success. It may be serendipity that meridian has other meanings that seem to also fit well with ASMR.

Another meaning of meridian is as a term from traditional Chinese medicine to describe the pathways of life-energy flow. Many people who experience ASMR would probably agree that they feel like some kind of tingly electric feeling is flowing throughout their body.

Another meaning of meridian is a line that runs between the North Pole and the South Pole.

If you combine together some of these meanings of meridian, you sorta have a very good description of the central nervous system, which carries electrical signals between the tops of our heads and the bottoms of our spinal cords. And the tingles from ASMR are probably mediated by neurotransmitters initiating impulses along our central nervous system.

I believe that Jennifer Allen also had a broader and important reason for coining the term “ASMR.” ASMR is a term that is more likely to be taken seriously and receive the attention of researchers and funding agencies, than terms like head orgasms and brain tingles.

asmruniversity.com/2014/08/03/scientist-view-term-autonomous-sensory-meridian-response/

I’ve only just seen this. What a load of absolute twaddle. Autonomous sounding a bit like autonomic is peak ridiculous. Autonomic is the part of the peripheral nervous system that governs involuntary responses vs somatic which governs voluntary movement and sensory information. Somatic covers both sensory and motor nerves. So the somatic nervous system is the part affected by ASMR. The claim it might turn out that the autonomic nervous system is affected by ASMR as a justification for its name is absurd. I would strongly suggest you don’t take seriously the word of a non-medical doctor who runs a blog called “ASMR university’.

Turkeyneck101 · 14/07/2025 14:47

MyDadWasAnArse · 14/07/2025 00:44

Some of you might want to check out Barry's channel to chill out to.

Oh gawd...🤢

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