If you were meeting someone in a cafe and your baby was asleep…

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And the relative wanted a cuddle, would you get a sleeping baby out of the pram and risk waking them up for this- they’re in a bit of a phase of fighting daytime naps and rarely have a non contact nap, but the family member hasn’t seen baby in a few weeks and is sad about it

We have different opinions so I’d just be interested to know what the consensus is!

No

No no no!!!!

Not a chance!

No. Sleep is so important. Selfish if your relative insists.

Absolutely not.

The phase doesn’t matter. It’s a no

100% no. X

No way would I have woken up my children if they had finally gone to sleep (neither of them liked to nap or go to sleep at all!) just because a relative/ anyone wanted a cuddle. I don’t know why people are so obsessed with cuddling babies or feel they have a right to disturb them for their own enjoyment

I would let them have a cuddle but I wouldn’t wake the baby up. Just take the baby out whilst asleep.

Sleeping babies are like sleeping lions let them lie!

Of course it's not OK!

Ask that relative (who wants to wake up the baby and give it a 'cuddle,') how SHE would feel if someone woke her up at 3.00am, in the middle of a deep sleep, and demanded a cuddle?!

SOME people are such thundering arsehats!

Also, what's this thing about people wanting to hold other people's babies???

Unless it's the grandmother, or maybe the auntie, why does anybody want to hold anybody else's baby? Just for the sake of holding it!!!

And even then there is not really any reason to hold it unless the mother wants you to hold it for a minute while she goes to the loo. Then again, put the baby in its pram or cot or pushchair...?

Also, I actually know a few people who've had babies in the last couple of years ... As soon as I step within 8 feet of them, they're like 'here batchcookbabe. You can hold her/him!' And they shove this 14 pound baby right in my arms for me to stand there holding him. I think like, 'errr I do not want to stand here holding your baby. Thanks very much.' I usually hold them for about two minutes and give them straight back. I think some people just want to offload the babies onto anyone who will hold them, to be honest with you

This.

No.

A baby is a human being, not a toy.

Would your relative like to be woken up for another relative to cuddle?

Probably not.

"Yes absolutely... when they wake up. You never wake a sleeping baby!!! mmmmm the cake here looks good what are you having?"

They can make as many dailymail.co.uk sad faces as they want....no fucking way is the baby being woken and my alone time being disturbed.
What i dont get is most of the women who pull this selfish manipulate crap have had children themselves...

You surely aren’t seriously asking this OP?!?! Why would you be so cruel and let the desire of someone to cuddle your baby disturb their sleep? No way would I allow that to happen and the other person would just have to deal with it.

If baby is due a nap/not due to be woken from nap yet then the answer is no. I can remember my mum getting quite cross with me because I wouldn't let one of her friends get my baby out of his pram when he was asleep. We had a good routine going but he was absolutely hell on earth if he hadn't had enough daytime sleep (and also if he had too much!)

I don't agree with never wake a sleeping baby though. Mine would have happily had a five or six hour nap after lunch and then been up until midnight and then again in the night because they weren't tired and had missed daytime feeds. No fucking thanks!

Nope. Not happening. Well,not with the babies I've had experience of!

No way!

No way I would wake my baby up! I understand the relative is disappointed, but then maybe agree on a good time for a meeting with cuddle?

I’m as chilled as they come when it comes to napping and stuff but no frigging way!!!! I’d suggest going for a walk around some shops with the hope that the baby woke up but unfortunately if they don’t get to hold the baby that visit then that’s that

Your baby, your rules, simple as that x

I'd reply to that with "of course you can, as soon as she wakes up". So you're acknowledging how much she'd like a cuddle, baby bonding with family is great, but also gently but firmly stating your boundaries.