If you were meeting someone in a cafe and your baby was asleep…

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And the relative wanted a cuddle, would you get a sleeping baby out of the pram and risk waking them up for this- they’re in a bit of a phase of fighting daytime naps and rarely have a non contact nap, but the family member hasn’t seen baby in a few weeks and is sad about it

We have different opinions so I’d just be interested to know what the consensus is!

I would wake them up, 5 daughters and often did wake them up as needed to be honest. But they did all sleep through the might from quite young so maybe I was lucky.

Never. Wake. A. Sleeping. Baby.

Never.

Don’t even risk it!

Thats the actual law!

Depends how old the baby is - under 3 months probably, they tend to stay asleep better while being transferred.

As you've said you're well out of that stage then no I wouldn't want a grumpy baby for the rest of the day. I'd explain it though, I'd say sorry it will just ruin the rest of the day I can't face 4 hours of whinging.

Absolutely not. If relative is disappointed, tough. You don't wake a sleeping baby!

No. Not a chance would I move a sleeping baby in a pram unless it was essential.
They can be disappointed all they like. I take it the relative is an adult.
My ds would never sleep in the pram so on the rare occasion he did wherever I was would have to be on fire before I would move him.
I'm sure if you did move your baby and they woke and started screaming the place down baby would be handed back quick smart for you to settle.
Your relative will get over it. Plenty of opportunities for cuddles when baby is awake at another time

Is your relative my mother in law? She’d asked to hold the baby when they were sleeping, I’d say no, then she’d put her head over their crib and shriek and talk loudly on purpose so they’d wake up and it would completely fuck her sleep routine. Because of this she will never spend anytime alone with my daughter because I know she can’t put a child’s needs before her own wants.

As a mother of 4....no way! Enjoy the peace while little one sleeps!

Never wake a sleeping baby, wait until the baby wakes and then after mum has sorted the baby and baby is awake - then a cuddle is permissible with mums consent

No

Chance

What Mike said

I would never pick up a baby, that wasn't my own, if they were asleep UNLESS the parent was happy with it. As an aside, and missing the point, I always woke my babies to feed them 🤣

This!!

No way. Wake a sleeping baby just so someone can have a go at holding them? No.

Baby is a human being, not a toy.

It depends how old the baby is for me. Under 3/4 months. I'd say just to lift them.

There isn't a hope I'd wake a sleeping 9 month old.

I'd turn up at their house in the middle of the night and get into bed with them asking for a cuddle.

Babies need more sleep than adults or older children, for a reason! No, I'd not wake them. And I've never even had a baby! Common sense surely. Relative can hold them next time.

Absolutely not

You just say, 'Yes, if she wakes up. But if we disturb her she will scream for hours. Hope you understand.'

There will be other opportunities to cuddle the baby.

Yes of course.

Hell no. It would have left me with a grumpy baby all afternoon and then a difficult night. I would also never ever expect a friend or relative to wake their baby so I could have a cuddle

No. I wouldn't ever wake a sleeping baby

No I wouldn't expect that. Id enjoy seeing the baby and use the time to catch up with mum and help her relax. I can understand why someone would feel a bit sad they never got baby cuddles though but there's always other times .

Absolutely not. I had a baby who fought naps. Nope!

No , chat while baby sleeps

No way ever. The baby is a person not a cuddly toy.