Annoyed at being told to drive safe

[Tillybud81]

So I've got a male freind who I've only known a few months, we message a bit but nothing more than freinds. I've just been away on a bit of a trip in my car to visit family and he's sent messages telling me to drive safe, asking if I've arrived safely, telling me about the state of the roads, etc. He checked in asking if I had a nice day, and if I was ok, I messaged him to say I had a lovely time visiting my family and I'm heading back now, all he said was 'drive safe please'

Now I don't know if he's a worrier (doesn't seem to be in person), or if he's just being nice but it's starting to grate on me. I hate being told to 'drive safe' or 'be safe' as if I'm just driving around like a lunatic all the time. My mum has always said similar to me whenever I went out, but thats different, mums worry. Plus I've known this man all of 5 minutes really, it just seems OTT

Anyway does if grate on anyone else being told to be careful/safe when just goin about normal daily life?

I say drive safe to my husband on a long journey. I am concerned about idiots on the road not him. I will go ask if it annoys him.

No it doesn't bother me.

It just sounds like he cares about your safety. It might not be YOU driving recklessly, it's other drivers who might put you in danger and just to be aware of what's going on around you.

Jeez, they're just being nice. Fuck,.you can't say anything now without folk getting offended.

It's just a saying.

Like 'Have a nice day'. We know you won't have a deliberately horrible day but it's just a saying!

Isn't it like saying "take care" at the end of a social interaction? But more activity specific.

If you're a grammar pedant I can see how the use of safe rather than safely would piss you off.

You probably couldn't be more unreasonable if you tried OP. I mean seriously he obviously cares. It's just a nice thing to say. You don't need to be offended at every little thing.

I say this to anyone I care about as they leave.

I also say 'watch the roads' to my pedestrian kids when they leave the house.

It's very generic and caring phrase.

It just means “have a safe journey”.

If he said make sure you drive better than you usually do then you can be offended!

My family all say this to each other all the time! All excellent drivers, no accidents … it’s just a ‘take care’ really…

I say this to my husband and my DS, or variations of it as appropriate.

Drive safe
Walk safe
Be safe
Keep yourself safe.

The last two are usually addressed to DS who can get himself embroiled in lunacy 100 yards from the house.

OP, your guy is being nice, it's just a saying.

I thought you were going to say it irritates you because he should say drive safely. He's just being nice but I would correct his grammar.

I often say 'take care' to people I'm interacting with when I say goodbye to them.

There's no particular meaning behind it. It's just a final remark that I've got into the habit of using.

It certainly doesn't mean I think they're going off and running in the traffic or jumping off tall building and being generally reckless. It's never occurred to me that it might be annoying or I might be infuriating those around me on a regular basis.

I think you're over thinking his remarks OP. It seems like a very little thing to get annoyed about.

The fact you mention he’s male you’ve jumped straight to the man V woman

the reality is it’s a common fraise like someone saying take care

your overthinking he’s being nice

I find “take care” vaguely threatening 😂

I think he fancies you, but that’s not what you asked 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s just an every day phrase that people say without any underlying thought. Like “have a nice day” or “see you soon” or the all time Mumsnet one “you look well”, which I now know is code for “you’re as fat as a walrus”- except it really doesn’t.

@SmileEachDay I wondered that too. But in general, no someone saying drive safe(ly) is not a big deal.

Yup. This

It's a perfectly normal thing to say, wouldn't bother me in the slightest.
Why does it annoy you so much?

Ermm, he’s being nice?

YABU

Bye, drive like an absolute idiot, hope you fuck your tyre in a pothole.

Not quite got the same ring to it does it 😁

I think some people dig really hard to find something to be offended about.

He obviously likes you as more than a friend but hopefully he'll move on because you sound a bit mean.

People today seem unable to cope with any human interaction - what on Earth is offensive about his comments?

I say it all the time to people I care about if we're chatting right before they're about to drive.. can't see what's wrong with it! It's not a criticism of your driving, it's just a thoughtful term in my opinion...