Annoyed at being told to drive safe

[Tillybud81]

So I've got a male freind who I've only known a few months, we message a bit but nothing more than freinds. I've just been away on a bit of a trip in my car to visit family and he's sent messages telling me to drive safe, asking if I've arrived safely, telling me about the state of the roads, etc. He checked in asking if I had a nice day, and if I was ok, I messaged him to say I had a lovely time visiting my family and I'm heading back now, all he said was 'drive safe please'

Now I don't know if he's a worrier (doesn't seem to be in person), or if he's just being nice but it's starting to grate on me. I hate being told to 'drive safe' or 'be safe' as if I'm just driving around like a lunatic all the time. My mum has always said similar to me whenever I went out, but thats different, mums worry. Plus I've known this man all of 5 minutes really, it just seems OTT

Anyway does if grate on anyone else being told to be careful/safe when just goin about normal daily life?

No, not sure about his family though

It's just something that people say. Maybe next time reply with 'I always do.'

But if you're feeling smothered by him generally, I can see how it would grate!

Is he freaking you out a bit by seeming kind of possessive, as though he has the right to keep an eye on you? That is weird from someone you hardly know.

Yes I think you've nailed it, it feels possessive almost

Has he always done it? If he's always done it, it might be normal for him in his life to say that.

Get where you are coming from. I do say to visitors leaving "safe home" but dh and I don't say this at all to each other. 8 times in a few days is definitely excessive and that would annoy me and would get my back up tbh.

Get yourself some shitter friends OP. Nice friends clearly irritate you 👌🏻

I would be thinking he is a bit dim and has no conversation.

He seems very keen to be on your radar, which he is now, but not in a good way! A romantic interest in you, perhaps? Would you be interested/available?

I say this to absolutely anyone I part ways with, no idea why, it's something I grew up hearing. It has absolutely no bearing on their sex, competency, perceived ownership of them.

I always tell people to "drive safe", "stay safe", "take care", "mind yourself"...

I must be so offensive.

Wishing someone a safe flight or a safe journey is not the same as instructing them to fly/drive safely!

i genuinely would stop messaging him. Getting this possessive over you after such a short time in a non-romantic relationship is never going to end well, especially when you meet a man you might actually want to get involved with in that way.