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Would you go ahead with birthday party today ? DD vomited

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cameheredor · 01/02/2025 06:07

It's my DD 5th bday party today.

Huge party- 30 kids. It's at a venue with entertainers etc.

Last night she threw up at around 6pm and then again at 10pm. No fever and has been sleeping soundly since.

Would you cancel the party ?

I'm thinking to see how the morning goes, as the party isn't until 2 and then, go from there.

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TwistedKeys · 01/02/2025 07:09

Don’t forget to let the entertainer know about the vomiting. Preferably before they leave for the party.

Calmhappyandhealthy · 01/02/2025 07:10

cameheredor · 01/02/2025 07:04

How do you guys go through life and get anything done with so much anxiety ? I don't get it. Relax.

Things are going to be OK.

Then why post about it?

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Calmhappyandhealthy · 01/02/2025 07:10

Then why post about it?

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Tisthedamnseason · 01/02/2025 07:11

Both my kids have had times when younger that they vomited, only once and then were fine. I'd have thought it was excitement or something they ate untill the next person in the family then started vomiting (not eaten the same thing) and it is clear it was a contagious illness

Yeah we've had the same. DD1 vomited once one evening, totally fine the next day. Then DD2 vomits and is fine. 48 hours later DH is vomiting.

A child throwing up twice a few hours apart is most likely to be a bug, unless you know about another cause (not lunch many hours earlier..) and I think OP would have mentioned if her child was prone to vomiting,
Maybe some people don't care about sickness bugs, but just acknowledge that rather than pretend that you know it's definitely not a bug.

BarbieGirlInABarbieWorld · 01/02/2025 07:13

No one for a second believes that someone ‘really ill and immunocompromised’ would approach this situation, in this way.

PatchworkElmer · 01/02/2025 07:13

Let everyone know, and they can make their own decision. Personally I wouldn’t risk attending.

My DS had an episode where he was sick once and then absolutely fine. I honestly thought it was a one off (although I did keep him off school). 24 hours later I was in bed vomiting and it totally floored me. I wouldn’t assume that being ‘fine’ now means that it wasn’t viral.

Romanswindowcleaner · 01/02/2025 07:13

Im glad you’re letting people know

Sugargliderwombat · 01/02/2025 07:13

cameheredor · 01/02/2025 06:16

Oh dear. She had a big lunch that sat in her stomach ( from a restaurant ) cupcake after.

I think that's the cause, not a bug.

When is anyone ever sick so many hours after eating a big lunch? Children seem fine after vomiting because they have vomited!! It's still contagious. 🙄. She's been sick twice. You obviously should cancel.

Ohwtfnow · 01/02/2025 07:14

Oh my God, this has to be a wind up! Of course you cancel the party!! There is a massive norovirus epidemic at the moment so it is far more likely that she has vomited due to this than anything else. Especially 2 pukes with a gap of a few hours in between - that is not due to a big lunch! If your daughter is lucky enough to feel ok this morning then she has likely not been affected too badly by it but that doesn’t mean that everyone else she infects won’t be. So irresponsible.

Iamoldandwearpurple · 01/02/2025 07:15

As someone who has an immunosuppressive kid who take regulat chemo you are selfish and irresponsible if you go ahead with the party.

Throwing up several hours apart is almost certainly a bug and if you were telling the truth about yourself you would absolutely not go ahead with the party.

If my dd caught something it would take her a good 2 weeks to recover fully.

Don't be so bloody inconsiderate.

Reschedule the party.

I cannot believe the self centred attitude of some parents these days.

OlympicWomen · 01/02/2025 07:15

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😂😂

pizzaHeart · 01/02/2025 07:15

I suspect that level headed people were also a bit diplomatic and their “see how it goes” was a code phrase for “ unfortunately you have to cancel” especially as judging by your answers you’re quite touchy to this prospect.
I don’t think you should cancel by the way, the party could go ahead. Just you keep your LO at home and ask a friend to collect all presents. We once went to a party when birthday child became unwell a day before and that’s what they did.. It was a soft play type venue and moving / cancelling wasn’t an option - it was fully booked for quite in advance and they didn’t refund with less than 24 hours notice.

OlympicWomen · 01/02/2025 07:16

Simonjt · 01/02/2025 07:11

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cameheredor · 01/02/2025 07:16

BarbieGirlInABarbieWorld · 01/02/2025 07:13

No one for a second believes that someone ‘really ill and immunocompromised’ would approach this situation, in this way.

But I am. I am immunocompromised and I get a lot of bugs from my kids, it goes with the territory.

Bugs are everywhere and especially when you have kids - you can't do that much about it. Immunocompromised or not.

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Han86 · 01/02/2025 07:18

Not sure why you bothered posting.
Are you just gloating about taking a sick child to a party?

Schools are rife with bugs at the moment and it's also wiping out the staff. I would be mega annoyed to take my child to a party where the child has been sick twice and the parent not to have told me. Have other children at their school been ill, as that would also be a good indicator of whether it is a bug? Remember people are different and some will be sick many times, others only once or twice.

I think you need to tell all parents, not just run it past some, and be completely honest rather than playing down like you are on here 'oh she was sick twice, must have been the cupcake but she's absolutely fine now'.

CeaseAndDessist · 01/02/2025 07:18

You ask a question and are then really defensive (and rude) with your answers when people give you their opinions 🤷‍♀️.

TheaBrandt · 01/02/2025 07:18

Gave me flashbacks to our worst birthday party ever.

Dd vomited the night before the party. It was an after school party. Texted the mums who all said they didn’t care as they had been at school together and they had cancelled their childcare. Dd was off school and quite ill. So I picked the guests up Dd went to bed and I had to run the party without her. She had also invited all boys to a craft party assuring me boys liked craft as much of girls. Wrong.

Flibberdigibbit · 01/02/2025 07:19

Most pointless post ever given your plan to disregard everyone's advice. You are very immature.

user1492757084 · 01/02/2025 07:20

I would bathe your child before the party and ask her if she feels ill at all. Be prepared to have her wear a mask or have her go home or not even attend if she were feeling in any way ill.

The party can go ahead with all of her guests (one of whom she possibly caught the bug from, if it is a bug.)

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imisscashmere · 01/02/2025 07:22

A sickness bug just went around my son’s school - he’s in reception. It was wild. My son only actually vomited once with it, but after he was plainly not right - pale, low appetite, weak, very low energy.

If your daughter has a sickness bug, she’ll be in a similar state today and it will be obvious to everyone that she’s not well. If she’s absolutely fine, then I agree she likely doesn’t have a bug and you should okay ahead with the party… letting invitees know that she vomited yesterday so they can choose what
to do.

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cameheredor · 01/02/2025 07:22

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Just because I don't agree with you ? Why can I not have my own opinion? That in general, I've noticed MN is a very anxious place.

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gilesday · 01/02/2025 07:22

Hahahahaha this is literally that motherland episode!! Except the mum actually has enough time to warn people and is choosing violence.

The fact that you have already told party goers.... this will get around & you will for sure be that mum for the rest of school life.

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