Would you go ahead with birthday party today ? DD vomited

[cameheredor]

It's my DD 5th bday party today.

Huge party- 30 kids. It's at a venue with entertainers etc.

Last night she threw up at around 6pm and then again at 10pm. No fever and has been sleeping soundly since.

Would you cancel the party ?

I'm thinking to see how the morning goes, as the party isn't until 2 and then, go from there.

Why ask here then?

Yes! I was thinking the same! Julia was just being her usual self and the party went ahead.... very funny!

It's a kind offer but please don't waste your time updating us on your decision and whether anyone gets sick, OP. You do you.

As someone with a phobia of vomiting, I would appreciate the heads up (my dc would definitely not attend).

Also very confused as to why you've posted here as you've already made up your mind.

Secret reasons, apparently. Everyone criticising is wrong and anxiety driven. She says.

I think to most people OP's "reasons" for posting should be that crystal clear...

To be fair if my kid woke up okay and showed no other signs of being sick (lethargy, temp etc) then I’d crack on with the party.

But I have a couple of kids with mild lactose intolerance so I’m used to this shizzle.

I have 4 DC and sickness bugs do tend to come with other symptoms in my experience. Isolated vomiting with no other outward symptoms in a 4 year old could be over excitement about the upcoming party.

The problem is, the op has no way of knowing if her kid is contagiously ill or not.

She is just presuming it is because they ate a big lunch. It could be that.

It could also be a bug.

Both my kids have had times when younger that they vomited, only once and then were fine. I'd have thought it was excitement or something they ate untill the next person in the family then started vomiting (not eaten the same thing) and it is clear it was a contagious illness

I dont think informing people of a possibly contagious ill child is over cautious before a party.

Let the party go ahead. But without your DD there. You won't get your money back anyway and the other children might as well enjoy it. We had to do that one year. One parent stayed with DS, the other supervised the party.

Our daughter was due at a party last saturday, saturdsy morning we were told the birthday boy had been sick on Friday, but they were perfectly fine they had just eaten too much during their birthday tea. We decided not to send our daughter, on Monday morning the only children in her pre-school class were the children who hadn’t attended the party.

Ok, so just let everyone know who is invited, and they'll all say they don't care, and then it's fine.

But do let everyone know, just in case someone does need to be particularly "anxious" about catching a stomach bug.

I dont think informing people of a possibly contagious ill child is over cautious before a party

I agree with that, there's no harm to inform, but to just cancel is a bit silly at this stage.

She's up now and eating and drinking, happily.

If you think cancelling is "silly", then that's your decision and your choice.
Why start the thread though?

You don't want me to prove you wrong, that's all.

Great news that she's feeling better. So now 48 hours from her last bout of vomiting and you're all good OP. Which you know, but don't care about because of your sixth sense.

I would see how she is after she's been up for a few hours. If she's jumping around all excited still and seems happy enough in herself then I wouldn't cancel. Children get bugs and viruses from all sorts of places. My son went to a party last week and one of the children caught chicken pox. My son hasn't got it. Fingers crossed for you

How do you guys go through life and get anything done with so much anxiety ? I don't get it. Relax.

Things are going to be OK.

Op my older Ds has a severe autoimmune disease. I have 3 autoimmune diseases. You would not know this if you were a parent of a kid in his class because oddly enough we don't go around telling people unless we have to. Such as last week when I cancelled lunch with an aunt i have not seen for 5 years because she had a bad cold and cough.

A minor illness or vomiting bug may be a few days of discomfort for most- for me or my son it could be so much worse. My mother is immunocompromised - she ended up in hospital just after Christmas with this flu thing that is going around and although she is out now it has affected her heart so badly that she very nearly died. She got it from my father who had two days of sniffles only.

But you do you, hun. At the very least tell the invitees so they cna make their own decisions. Most will probably come. Some like us, would not. Because no goddam party with an entertainer is worth what could be the outcome for us.

I also think it's impressive that she can predict that no-one will get ill! 😉

This isn't your personal blog where we're all craving updates on your life.

You've asked AIBU? Clear consensus is your being v unreasonable. Whether you're right or wrong in the end is utterly irrelevant. The point is at this stage it's a gamble, even for you and you're not even conceding that you'll let everyone make their own minds up about whether to attend.

I'm also really ill and immunocompromised. It's not only you, who has issues.

Well, none of us started a thread about our chundering child and a party.

I know. It's crazy isn't it! When I was growing up no-one wore seatbelts and all the adults smoked around us. Today's kids are spoiled, eh?

It's not about anxiety. It's meeting a very low bar for being a decent, considerate human being. Was it your anxiety that caused you to start the thread in the first place?

Then you should well know not to be so foolish and careless with the health of others.