A man called me stupid in front of my daughter

[Springsunshine28]

As I was exiting the lift with my two-year-old in the pram, another pram went out ahead of us. Since I was backing out, I didn’t realize they were still near the elevator entrance, and I accidentally bumped into the woman with the other pram. I was looking at my phone while maneuvering, but I immediately apologized. However, her husband deliberately said, "She’s on her phone, she’s stupid." My little girl heard it and repeated, "Mum, are you stupid." I was absolutely fuming and really wanted to retaliate. I was so angry and told him that I already apologized and I think you're stupid and rude. I know I should have just ignored it but it really made me so angry.

.I was looking at my phone while maneuvering, but I immediately apologized. However, her husband deliberately said, "She’s on her phone, she’s stupid."

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don't act like this if you aren't prepared to hear the truth.

Fgs why are these phones so important? You were travelling with kids!

Because its MN and all men are evil and bullies and women are all angels that the men hate...

It wasn't her husband.

Can people not read?

All the replies saying ‘yeah well you were being stupid to be fair actually, so you deserved it, smirk smirk’ are completely missing the point. People make mistakes and do ill-judged things in public. That doesn’t give others the right to insult them outright, out loud and especially in front of their children.
This man could have chosen lots of ways to tell you that he wasn’t happy - most people even if they’re really annoyed will respond to a ‘sorry’ with ‘that’s ok’ but sound a bit annoyed, and that’s enough for most people to think about what they’ve done. He could have added ‘but please look where you’re going next time’ but that’s as far as any decent person needs to go. Calling you stupid in front of your daughter showed a total lack of social skills and an aggressive nature which, as pp have said, he wouldn’t have used towards a big burly man. Nor would he have used it towards you, I bet, if you’d been on the arm of a big burly man.
And the posters smirking at you wouldn’t do it if they weren’t behind a screen.

@InSearchOfMartin She wasn't with her husband. It was a random stranger who called her stupid.

Honestly, there was a thread yesterday commenting on the poor levels of reading and comprehension skills on here and there are several glaring cases in point on this thread.

I can certainly read, @AliceSpringsEverywhere. I copied part of the OP's post. "Her husband" means the husband of the woman who she bumped into, and then apologised to. And @Topseyt123 the answer is for you, too. Perhaps I didn't quote enough of the post for readers to get the gist, but they could always check the OP ....

You didn’t deserve to be called stupid and I bet he wouldn’t have said that to another man. I would have said (very loudly) to my daughter “I’m not stupid at all! But that man was very rude to say that!”

No, they can't read, and many are hard of comprehension too.

Aren't there just?! 🙄

Was a bit stupid tho wasn’t it

It's not right to call someone out for their selfishly entitled and inconsiderate behaviour but it is right ram someone else with a pram because you have to take an important phone call and you don't give a shit about them? OK...

Think you got what you deserved OP. If you'd done it to me I'd have shouted OUCH loudly to embarrass you. I see this kind of attitude in London a lot, poor manners. Out of my way, me first, I'm more important, me me me me me. He just countered your bad manners with his own bad manners, I think it is amusing you are shocked someone shamed you for your rubbish behaviour. Saying sorry does not excuse you for deliberately ramming a pram into someone because you are more interested in your phone.

pretty mad you’re on your phone in charge of a pram and a year old

Honestly if this had happened to me I would have said to my daughter,

"Well I'm not stupid but I did do a kind of stupid thing. I shouldn't have been looking at my phone and pushing the pram because it was dangerous and I could've hurt someone. That man wasn't kind when he shouted at me and that's not ok either." Then I'd have just got on with my day. We are always modelling behaviour in front of our kids. You had a chance here to show that 1. Looking at a phone whilst walking about is potentially dangerous. 2. That people can say unkind things sometimes but you don't need to react negatively to it. 3. That mums aren't perfect and when we make mistakes it's ok to own up to and learn from it then move on.

So a couple exit a lift with their pram and then stay so close to the lift so that another person accidentally knocks into them, and then they call you stupid? and most of these comments seem to blame you for it??? wow the audacity. I think they were stupid for not getting the hell out of the way.

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@Springsunshine28 ignore op.
We’ve all been distracted and bumping slowly into someone isn’t a big deal.
He wouldn’t have called a man stupid.
Pity his dp being with a passive aggressive twat.

what a stupid comment.

He should never have called you stupid. That’s horrible. And he’s a shitty little coward for being so passive aggressive so just be glad he isn’t the father of your children. We all get frazzled and I think people jump to conclusions as to why people are on their phone etc and think that they’re playing bloody candy crush or something. I remeber being on my phone once being told my mother had had a heart attack and I was bawled it for not watching where I was going. I guess we all need to try and give each other a litre more grace sometimes but we don’t. X

You weren’t looking where your going on the phone and bumped into a pram

people are fiercely protective over there pram with there babies in

no one died suck it up and move on

Glad you agree.

Why are the OP's actions a mistake or "ill judged" but the man's aren't?

This whole incident should be filed under "shit happens" but OP is here hoping we'll all tell her he was more in the wrong than she was.

I'm fairly confident that the MN consensus of opinion is that people who bump into others because they're too busy phone-gazing to look where they're going are indeed stupid.

Some say it, most think it.

People who don't watch what they're doing (especially when doing something important like maneuvering a pram...) get my back up so I'd be inclined to agree with him.

Yabu. You were being silly on your phone whilst exiting a tight spot.

Would you say it to someone though even after they've apologised?