A man called me stupid in front of my daughter

[Springsunshine28]

As I was exiting the lift with my two-year-old in the pram, another pram went out ahead of us. Since I was backing out, I didn’t realize they were still near the elevator entrance, and I accidentally bumped into the woman with the other pram. I was looking at my phone while maneuvering, but I immediately apologized. However, her husband deliberately said, "She’s on her phone, she’s stupid." My little girl heard it and repeated, "Mum, are you stupid." I was absolutely fuming and really wanted to retaliate. I was so angry and told him that I already apologized and I think you're stupid and rude. I know I should have just ignored it but it really made me so angry.

It’s proof you accused her of lying.

Why on earth do you want proof?!

Given your propensity to misread words I’m not sure proof would do you any good, you’d only read it as something else entirely

Fairly sure that was about two different parts of the post, no?

Whoppee doo for you. So she bumped backs. So what. Kind of shoots your “waaaaah heavy prams hurt sooooo much” theory in the face doesn’t it

Yes, you have a habit of latching on to parts of the posts you can kick OP for and then not apologising when you get it wrong.

Prams being heavy isn't really a 'theory', more of a fact.

I dont know, would you like to be bumped in the back while pushing you kid in a pram, just because someone couldn't be bothered to look up from their phone screen? I guess you'd be AOK unless it was a man, right?

@namechangetheworld do you REALLY think there’s ’little Difference’ between being hit with a pram and banging into someone the way the OP did?

I wouldn’t love it but like I said earlier I’d get over it in about 0.2 seconds if they apologised. And have done when many people have bumped into me in the past. Life is short, it’s not worth worrying about.

Why does it make a difference if it was a body or a pram? Would you be more inclined to think the man was justified if it HAD been a pram? Because either way, she was too busy looking at her phone to actually look where she was going, and then got offended when she was called out.

I think the man would have done just that, if she hadn't been looking at her phone. It wasn't the bumping that was the issue, it was the fact it was completely unavoidable.

It’s just that you said this earlier in the thread:

I don't know if you've ever had your legs hit by a buggy, but it bloody hurts. Hardly the same as accidentally knocking someone's shoulder in the street.

Youve changed your tune very quickly. Earlier it was “hardly the same” and now it “makes no difference”

You’ve been insisting for pages that OP ‘rammed’ the woman with her push chair and that she ‘hurled’ insults at the man.

Suddenly the so called ramming is not important eh?

So was him insulting her but he still did it.

Im pretty horrified people agree with men verbally abusing women under certain entirely innocuous circumstances like “she was holding a phone”

She’s directly contradicted herself in less than 2 hours. Hilarious. Some people REALLY can’t cope when the thread doesn’t go their way

OMG! Your memory is amazing! And very inconvenient for @namechangetheworld

<takes bow>

Basically, I think moral of the story is to concentrate on what you are doing rather than your phone.

Surely this is the best practice. What he said what you said is all superficial to the point. There are just too many people focusing on their phones these days. In your situation you bumped into someone. The husband reprimanded you for doing so and called you stupid for being on your phone whilst not concentrating on what you were doing. Ok he was right. You didn’t like being called stupid. Then you called him stupid for calling you stupid.

Grow up.

Yeah, this. ^

If a man had bumped into a woman, because he was so ignorant that he was on his phone, whilst not looking where he was going - he would have been called a rude, aggressive, ignorant twat on here by some. And some posters would have said that he should have apologised to her immediately, because he's a big, bad man, and she is a poor iccle woman. 😆

Meh I’m not convinced that true. A while ago there was a thread on a woman who was pregnant and her DH’s friend was punching the back of her car headrest. A scary amount of posters told her to get a grip and ask how she would ever cope with a child if she couldn’t cope with her headrest being hit

Man calls woman who wasn't paying attention and backed into his wife "stupid' to his wife not her: Bully, big baby, aggressive man...

Woman gets her feelings hurt and calls him "stupid and rude" to his face: Strong woman, standing up for herself, doing the right thing

I do find it odd that posters are claiming that the OP is being given the arrange because she’s a woman - whilst sticking the boot in because she’s not a man

Embarrassing

*advantage

I do find it funny some posters can't recognise their own words...

Be made an accurate comment about your behaviour. Put your phone away!

Thanks for that. As a cycling, dog owning, child free, 4x4 driving, stove owning pescatarian I am often “spawn of the devil” on MN, but all advice (even if it’s the sort imbibed at my dear Mum’s breast) is taken on board.

I still maintain there are some truly thick humans out there though, and will continue to do my utmost to avoid. The common factor in both the OPs post and mine was inattention because of being on a phone, not the fact that I was on a bicycle. I would have bumped into her had I been walking.

A woman bumped into me this morning, whilst walking and reading a book, she apologised, i smiled and said no problem. No drama.