A man called me stupid in front of my daughter

[Springsunshine28]

As I was exiting the lift with my two-year-old in the pram, another pram went out ahead of us. Since I was backing out, I didn’t realize they were still near the elevator entrance, and I accidentally bumped into the woman with the other pram. I was looking at my phone while maneuvering, but I immediately apologized. However, her husband deliberately said, "She’s on her phone, she’s stupid." My little girl heard it and repeated, "Mum, are you stupid." I was absolutely fuming and really wanted to retaliate. I was so angry and told him that I already apologized and I think you're stupid and rude. I know I should have just ignored it but it really made me so angry.

At what point does the escalation stop. The man could have ignored the op's lapse, the op could have ignored the man's lapse.... Someone has to be the one to step out of the conflict. It doesn't make them weak or a pushover.

She didn’t hit a woman with her pram 😂 why won’t you read the OP?

It seems I have to spell it out for you: OP was backing out. Meaning she went into the lift pram facing forward and didn’t turn it around. She was pulling (not pushing) the pram as she walked backwards. Her back bumped into the other woman’s back

Also he is pulled her first - even kids know you don’t start things and if you do you expect someone else to finish them

I I don’t think the majority is players do agree with you actually. Too many like you haven’t even bothered to read the OP

OP didn’t nudge anyone with a pram

With point 2 you are reading the OP wrong. You think the OP ran into a woman with the OPs pram. When in fact she bumped into the other woman who also had a pram (which presumably had the woman's child in it, or she could I guess be pushing around a dog or something in the pram).

I never claimed the man wasn't a bad parent. I'm pointing out the hypocrisy of the woman judging him for calling her names in front of her child, when she immedietely does the same thing right back. In front of her child. Not exactly quality parenting, is it?

Where did I say I disagree with her writing the post? I said the post clearly hasn't descended into the man hating frenzy OP was hoping for, although you're seemingly absolutely desperate for that to happen. I wonder why?

Just to be clear. I was coming out of the lift backwards and my back touch her wife. I didn't hit her with my pram. I didn't stepped on her toes or legs.

Ut

You seem to think “He hasn’t come on here to moan about it” is a reason as to why OP is worse than him. So posting on an anonymous forum is worse than insulting someone practically to their face?

You really think someone ‘crowing’ would say ‘. I know I should have just ignored it’?

If the majority of people here have the same poor comprehension as you then I’m happy to be in the minority!

@PeppyGreenFinch these posters are real drama llamas and a bit thick aren’t they. BTW they have no right to get upset about this post, I’m addressing you and I declare this to be a private exchange so if they get upset they’re just butting in 😂

Don’t worry OP those of us with a modicum of intelligence understood what you meant from the off.

I'd be well pissed off if my dh did something like that

Same. Making snarky unnecessary comments to a woman with her child over bumping backs would turn me right off

Again, no. It's hypocritical of OP to imply he's a bad person for using the word 'stupid' in front of her child, when she did exactly the same thing. He might be a bad person - but he's not the one on here trying to garner sympathy and paint OP in a bad light.

Hahaha! But this post is different because it’s man hating and therefore not allowed! 🤣

Uh-oh, you’re going to be accused of drip feeding again! 🤣

Thanks for confirming OP. Still not convinced you were in the right I'm afraid, but I appreciate the clarity.

I really felt awful after I utter those words. It's a lesson learnt for me. I was just so taken aback after hearing that when we are just literally next to each other. But yes I am learning from this experience and thank you for the advice.

She’s not saying he’s a bad person for using the word stupid in front of her child, she’s annoyed because he called HER stupid, because, as she says ‘he intentionally wanted me to hear it’.

She did hear it, as did her 2yo, who then repeated, "Mum, are you stupid."

How you can defend this scrote of a man is beyond me.

Some people really love the sound of their own voice.

Yep, this man had no reason to call OP stupid.

He could be somewhere else talking about it you will never know. It’s just odd that you are aggrieved that OP made a MN post. Why shouldn’t she?

Also it’s not hypocritical - he started the insult. So OP had two options - stand up for herself or say nothing. I’d certainly say something if anyone called me stupid in public, warranted or not. Never a need for adults to resort to petty insults.

Now that you (finally) know OP didn’t ram the woman’s legs with her ‘heavy pram’ do you feel differently? It was one back bumping into another. Has this never happened to you?

OP, you were absolutely fine. It’s good you’re teaching your daughter that women should stand up for yourself.

Don’t be taken in by some of the responses here, there are a lot of people posting in bad faith here who will always tell a woman she is in the wrong for standing up for herself.

What do you mean confirming she put it in her OP 😂😂

I am very much aware that I was in the wrong here. And I really learned from this experience. I was overtaken by my emotions at the heat of the moment and really should have handled it differently. But I still feel like he could have said it in a nicer way than just point blank "she's stupid". When he is literally right next to me and straight after I apologized.