Husband actually thinks he is punishing me. Ha

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Had a row this morning. Normal row that all couples have re our daughter whereas I think he expects to much of her husband thinks she is not pulling her weight bla bla bla.

anyway he has stormed off upstairs in a huff. He is now lead in bed with no phone (left it downstairs) no tv. He will be lead there determined not to come down board out of his mind.

where am stretched out on the sofa with a coffee and a bar of choc with the telly to myself with the sun streaming through the window. Thinking what a prat he can be

This is far from normal OP

Is this a regular thing?

Having the telly to yourself is a reward.

Normal?

How old is yiur daughtrr

That doesn't sound remotely 'normal' to me. Why are you both at home lying down during the day, anyway?

Do neither of you work?

Are you in the uk? Haven’t you both got something productive to do?

No not a regular thing at all. I would say he does it a couple of times a year. He has just got me through a really nasty kidney infection by waiting on me hand and foot so normally he is great.

How rude! Could be any number of reasons!

It's not normal to row tbh. I can count on one hand the amount of rows I've had with my DH in 25 years. Disagree and talk it through sometimes yes, but no need to row.

Can’t you talk it out ? Come o an agreement

also curious why your not working ?

Yeah, how old is Dd?
If he’s got a point, and he’s gone because he can’t bear to look at you/be in the same room as you when you’re so unreasonable, then lying on the sofa feeling smug about having the tv to yourself isn’t something to feel glad about.
Be careful what you wish for!

I have epilepsy and narcilepsy to 20 seizures a week so no I don’t work and my husband has just been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis (please check out my other threads for clarification). So he works part time at the moment as that’s all he can manage.

so I know we are benefit creeps and I know we are hated the world over before someone chips in with that

Oh and I am currently working on a needle point so not totally wasting my life.

as I said we row about twice a year if that. I honestly think DH is struggling with his diagnoses so is a bit more volatile than usual.

OP I’m glad you have the tv to yourself for a bit and yes it is a bit funny. Maybe he just needed a bit of space too. Enjoy. What is your needlepoint of?

so with those diagnosis he thinks that your daughter should step up and help and what be more of a young carer and you want to protect her from that and not put pressure on her to step up?

I can understand a life changing diagnosis having an effect, but is volatile used incorrectly here? I’d not live with someone who was volatile, snappier than usually would be understandable. How old is your daughter and what is he expecting of her? Bringing down dirty cups, putting on a load of washing etc is completely normal where age appropriate. Expecting her to be another carer/parentfacation would be a whole other problem.

thanks Soft and Quiet. i think he just needs his space at times. I certainly am not going to go running for the divorce courts like some on here would have me do.

it’s a LS lowery cross stitch as my DH loves his paintings and I quite like them too. I have just started it after completing one for my mum and dad which is a map of the Lake District. I can pm you a pic if you like next time I am at my mum and dads

Yeah I’d love to see it. I’m so impressed by people who have the concentration to complete art/ crafts!

well it all kicked off this morning because DD needed to have her gumsheild fitted to her mouth for a hockey match for school. It only came yesterday.

So you do that by putting it in boiling water, moulding it to the teeth and then rinsing it in cold water. DH was doing this and called DD in (I have only just come downstairs). DD was on the phone to her mates so did not hear him. I told her to get off the phone and get in the kitchen but DH kicked off because DD knew what he was doing and should have been ready without me telling her again. He then walked out the kitchen and I fitted the gumshield.

DH said I should have left the gum-shield in the boiling water and let it be ruined as it would serves DD right if she could not play.
its DDs first match for the school since starting and I was also of the opinion I was not going to waste a perfectly good gum sheild that she will need for PE anyway.

so I get told I am too soft on her

I make jewellery too. I managed to run a very small business around my seizures basically. Never knew I had the crafty touch till a few years ago. At school I was useless

Ok reading the back I am prob too soft on her. But I didn’t want her to miss her first match and I was not going to waste a gum shield when we are struggling at the moment for money anyway

In no way are we expecting her to be a carer. Me and DH her by but she does have her list of jobs for screen time.

So you undermined his parenting and are now gloating? Lovely.

Jesus some of the replies! All couples row at times, and it's nobody's fucking business why op is at home. Yanbu