Husband actually thinks he is punishing me. Ha

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Had a row this morning. Normal row that all couples have re our daughter whereas I think he expects to much of her husband thinks she is not pulling her weight bla bla bla.

anyway he has stormed off upstairs in a huff. He is now lead in bed with no phone (left it downstairs) no tv. He will be lead there determined not to come down board out of his mind.

where am stretched out on the sofa with a coffee and a bar of choc with the telly to myself with the sun streaming through the window. Thinking what a prat he can be

I know! Not everyone works M-F, 9-5, ffs! And people are allowed days off!

(I know OP has since queried that she can't work but it wouldn't have even been something that I thought to query!)

I swear that some people have a shit day and think, I know - I'll go on mumsnet and rip someone to shreds becayse their life and values are not mine, and it will make me feel so much better knowing I've made someone's day worse. And it's fine because it's AIBU.

I genuinely think people on the the Internet have forgotten how to be human at times.

I'm sure some people live a fantasy life through MN. Never row with their husbands, never raise there voice or swear, never disagree on parenting, always working hard so can't comprehend someone being at home on a Wednesday morning even though they themselves are on here to comment.
OP, I hope you enjoyed a relaxing morning, I don't think you were to soft, I would've done the same as you. I also don't think your DH is nasty for considering using natural consequences. Disagreements and arguments are normal. No LTB from me.

Agree!

I would take peverse pleasure in my DH stomping off to a tv and phone free room too.

I haven’t read the whole thread but your DD has 2 disabled parents which is going to be hard for her (even if she doesn’t do any of the care) so your DH needs to give her a break. Plus presuming she’s a teen, they rarely do things straightaway!

Oh, and today I’m on the sofa on mumsnet and my husband is watching Stranger Things on the other sofa. We both work full time but it’s my mum’s funeral this afternoon so we’re all off today. There’s lots of reasons why the OP and her husband might not be at work.

I agree.
Life's too short.

"He then walked out the kitchen and I fitted the gumshield.
DH said I should have left the gum-shield in the boiling water and let it be ruined as it would serves DD right if she could not play."

undermined his parenting?
Doesn't even sound like great adult behaviour. OP's reaction was positive and sensible one. A discussion can always be had with DD afterwards about turning up on time. The DH option of walking out, ruining the gumshield, stopping DD doing her sport - was a bad example of how to deal with a problem and counterproductive on all fronts, and would only add to all round resentment.
Having said that, the whole household is under stress. If he wants to take himself off to have alone time, its understandable.

Some of these posters really need to get a sense of humour!

Yes.. I wasn’t being funny but trying to understand if that’s what she meant… he laid in bed . Or was lying in the bed. Or if ‘she did indeed mean lead’ like a dog lead / phone lead and it was a different act that didn’t mean he was laying in bed..: aka he was getting laid 😂😂 type thing as that changed the whole meaning of this post and why her DH was quite happy upstairs 😂

It's Wednesday. HTH.

First rule of an argument: if you're going to flounce out of a room take what you need with you! Enjoy your sofatime OP 😀

Enjoy your chocolate OP and the sunshine. Ignore the baiters on here.

OP you don't have to beg for validation on here...if you don't work, that's no-one's business.

I don't work either....I'm on the sofa cuddling my dog and having a nice cup of tea and looking at the blue sky. I don't have my own business. I might spend the afternoon reading a book and doing some knitting. It really is shameful!! :)

The replies on here make me realise how much I hate this site.

you all say it’s not normal to row but honestly it’s not normal to rip people apart and give the replies you do. Jesus Christ. I’m outta here!

I’m new to this forum and based on the replies in general it sadly seems to be full of deeply unhappy people as a majority… I wonder if there are other more normal platforms for mums out there!

Of course all the perfect ‘vipers’ have to flood the thread that it’s not normal to argue/row. They never argue with anyone ever. Would never be at home sat on a couch in the daytime even if you are chronically ill. Perfect children always do everything right. Perfect husbands who never do anything wrong despite the site flooded with ‘Dh’ problems every day.

What happened to people reassuring and replying like a human being instead of posting to make the op feel bad . Feels like it’s on every post/issue/problem these days to rush and be as negative as possible regardless.

I truly believe some people never row but the kind of person who posts things like “we never row” as a smug criticism is probably not really one of them 😳 your true character always shows up at home!

My DH has a habit of issuing an 'immediate summons' to our teens, not checking if they are even in the house sometimes, let alone if they are busy or in the middle of something, just yelling up the stairs and being irritated/cross if they don't instantly appear. And he doesn't have any health conditions or anything serious troubling him, he just does this 'Victorian dad/sergeant major' thing, rather than having a quick and calm conversation about how he would like to/has time to do this task soon (or would like them to do a task) and please can they make themselves available in five minutes or whatever. It's very wearing and far more disruptive and stressful for everyone than these small things should be.

Enjoy the chocolate and the peace, and best wishes to you both, things sound challenging for both of you at the moment. xx

Unfortunately AIBU tends to be a snake pit and not very constructive/supportive a lot of the time. Other boards around MN tend to be better on the whole, I wouldn't let AIBU push you out if I were you.

Haha what a dickhead! Talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face.

Don’t blame you OP, you enjoy your chocolate and TV. Hope you and DH can laugh about this later, sounds like you have a lot to deal with at the moment. Agree with you about the gum shield - what’s the point of ruining it and then your DD can’t play?

I think the thought process is more subconscious but yes. It’s part of the culture of this website really and I’ve left snarky replies on here before simply because it’s almost just seen as the done thing. We all forget there’s a real person reading what we say though because it’s a dopamine rush to snark someone when you’re having a shitty day. Anyway…

Sounds a non-event. You'll both relax - he's probably snoozing by now - and come back together by the time your daughter is home.

Look after each other, as things sound difficult enough 🍫☕️.

Such a strange post.. so he moans about DD not pulling her weight yet is happy to lay about in bed all day just to prove a point. Bizarre.

Make him a cup of tea OP, give him a route to climb down from his huff. I don’t think either of you were in the wrong actually, just one of those tipping points. I don’t suppose either of you are enjoying the atmosphere (even if you have the telly!).