Husband actually thinks he is punishing me. Ha

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Had a row this morning. Normal row that all couples have re our daughter whereas I think he expects to much of her husband thinks she is not pulling her weight bla bla bla.

anyway he has stormed off upstairs in a huff. He is now lead in bed with no phone (left it downstairs) no tv. He will be lead there determined not to come down board out of his mind.

where am stretched out on the sofa with a coffee and a bar of choc with the telly to myself with the sun streaming through the window. Thinking what a prat he can be

😂😂😂 what?

Yes op chocolate and tv to yourself, result!

Sounds horrible. And not a normal row at all.

Did she know he was doing it?

How much does she know about it all?

She should have come but wasting a gum shield is a ridiculous punishment that is inappropriate

So the row is a complete non-event about a gumshield in the lives of two people who have an awful lot going on in terms of significant longterm illness and recent diagnosis, and a child who is presumably coming to terms with her father's diagnosis, too?

Presumably some of this is because your DH is still processing a distressing diagnosis, and you're both negotiating spending large amounts of time together at home if you're at home FT and he's now only working PT?

He sounds absolutely awful. What an insane overreaction to a total non event. Child doesn’t come immediately when called as she’s talking with friends, totally natural. And then he’s sulking. Terrible example to give to a child. Emotionally immature parenting.

I know. People are actually bonkers.. Mind blowing really. Husband was a bellend, argument was had. But of immature argy bargy.

LTB!!! (Joking)

Does it matter? DH is retired and I was made redundant in September so we're making the most of not working and being able to relax.

It sounds as though OP and her family have got a lot to come to terms with. I sympathise with their daughter as my Dad was diagnosed with MS when I was young. With both parents being ill there's a lot to process

Ha ha lovely! I can see why you are smug. I more often find myself in your DH's position, wondering why I couldn't have had the presence of mind to collect my phone as I stalk off to have a sulk 😂😂

Why would any loving wife gloat that their husband is upset?

Bizarre behaviour and doesn't indicate a healthy relationship at all.

It’s a normal everyday row but his reaction to storm off and you being happy that he’s upstairs fuming and bored- not so normal or healthy op

Agreed. I’ve had to do gum shields for both my DC more than once and each and every time I’ve waited until they are present and ready before preparing it. It doesn’t need to sit in the boiling water long at all.

It’s his fault for starting the process without her there. You can’t just summon your child and expect them to be ready to do anything at a seconds notice. It’s unkind and will get you nowhere. The job at hand doesn’t even take 3 minutes to do. What a load of drama over nothing, and to blame the child too. He needs to give his head a good wobble

Is lead … laid …. as in he’s laid now?

Don’t be ridiculous

You go girl enjoy the peace!

I just wanted to say OP it sounds very normal to me, the usual DD issues, all relationships are different and your DH sounds like he's usually supportive and both of you are human beings with their own challenges.

Here for a picture of the cross stitch OP, please! I’ve never seen one based on a Lowry before. I wish I was able to do things like that.

Thanks Wherewhathow I was beginning to wonder if I had grounds for divorce from some comments

my bestmates husband goes to the shed!!! Spent a whole night in it once

Sounds like you are stressed, he’s stressed about his diagnosis, and it can’t be much fun for your DC either. It sounds like this small issue just tipped him over the edge whereas he’s usually a decent bloke.

With all this going on I think I’d go upstairs with a cup of tea, tell my DH that we are all a bit edgy and ask him to come down stairs and watch TV with me. With everything that has happened in my life I don’t waste time on petty disputes.

I think your OP is hilarious. It’ll inspire me for next time 😂

Come on. Everyone has different norms. My DH and I are mostly very happy but we row a few times a year. It's not enjoyable, but it happens, because we are both stubborn and opinionated. Obviously I'd far rather we didn't, I'm sure he'd say the same, but people are flawed and these things happen.

Could be a Saturday? Your allowed to be at home..you don't have to leave the house. It's not compulsory.

🙄

Yes, OP, how very slack of you. Brisk outdoor walk this minute, come on, step to it! Hup! Hup! Then drop and give me 10 followed by a cold shower.

This is one of the best replies I've seen 😂

It's Wednesday. Even at the OP's house!

(She has explained that both of them have serious health conditions.)

Ah fair enough that makes more sense then. Sounds like you both just need time to cool off.

Actually yes it is. Most couples row at some point, just because you don’t.