Can your husband cook without a big fuss?

[Oyoh]

For example could he make a roast dinner and sticky toffee puddding without trashing the kitchen, pestering you for help/asking where things were and without losing his cool?

DH is a competent cook, but with a limited repertoire. DS or I cook more, but we have a rule that the cook gets assistance with the clear up.

Nope. His specialities are beans on toast, pizza and oven chips.

He’s a great cleaner though and does a lot around the house in all other ways so I forgive him!

Yes, he enjoys cooking and makes our children's birthday cakes so he would be able to do both no bother.

There are some dishes I normally cook and others that he does. If we have to cook “each other’s” recipes we often ask each other for instructions! He’s a much messier cook than me but he doesn’t expect me to clean up after him so I don’t really mind.

He always does the roast dinners - I cab with them. He doesn't tend to do desserts but he can whip up a hollandaise sauce from scratch in minutes and always cleans the kitchen when he's finished.

Where do people find these incompetent men? My sons can all cook and clean up after themselves, as could my brothers.

This male partner can and does cook. I don't eat pudding so that might baffle me but I'm perfectly capable of a roast.

DP is vegan and I'm not so I do quite a bit of batch cooking for the freezer too.

I also do a mean kedgeree.

Yes, I can. I'm probably not as good or inventive as my DW - but no one will starve, smoke detectors won't go off, dishwasher loaded, kitchen will be cleaned afterwards.

My late Dad on the other hand. I always it was more stressful when he cooked. It involved my Mum is more work than if she'd done the whole meal.

He often used to reminisce about him making soup when my Mum was in hospital after having my youngest sibling. That was 1963.

I started cooking in about 2009. Love my wife dearly but I may have said something about her Yorkshire puddings. Not a metaphor, so don't go there.
She challenged me to make them the next week, so I spent the week mugging up on it and nailed them first time out. They were MASSIVE! Next challenge was Sunday lunch. Got there too.
Then I got to enjoy it, although it did take me 6 hours and the use of every pan and pot to make fish cakes the first time I tried to be a bit clever.. Rustic. Tasted ace though.
The kitchen's been 'mine' since about 2010 now, and I love it, baking too.

@Starlight1984 Not coming for you but I think it's more experienced cooks vs more novice or basic cooks re: being able to throw things together.

Baking is too precise for me so I much prefer cooking as it's more forgiving! But I think being able to cook from a set of random ingredients is more something you can do when you're a very experienced cook who has followed loads of recipes, and therefore gained knowledge about what flavours work together, the right type of seasonings, how to lift a dish with acid, fat, etc.

Not without following a recipe. He really enjoys it though, he just has no confidence in getting things right so constantly asks me to check and i end up taking over so it's my fault (i actually enjoy cooking and there's only the 2 of us to cook for)

We recently had HelloFresh for a few weeks which was great for him. He had a lovely time prepping everything and following the recipe card. Now it's finished, he wants to choose something to cook a couple of times a week which is lovely.
I know I've made him sound like a 10 year old 😂but he joined the forces at 16 so it isn't something that he's grown up getting involved in, and I've always turned down his offers to help as it's quicker to do it myself in the week. He's great at clearing up after.

My husband can't even cook 'beige' oven food without double checking with me which temperature he should put it on, setting a timer on his phone for the exact time stated on the box, then asking me to check it 'looks ok' before plating it up.

We've all got different talents and passions haha

No.

If he opens the fridge and everything is right in front of him he would ask what to cook.

I have to give the ingredients and ideally with instructions. Unless it is spag Bol.

Yes he can. But it would take approximately 647 hours because he is anal methodical.

Yes to all except he does occasionally loses his cool if he is cooking several things at once or it goes wrong. Expects no help though.

Yes he can and does.

But it has taken YEARS to get to this stage. And I had to teach him how to cook from scratch.

I will raise my son to cook and clean.

Roast - yes he will ask me a few questions and will do notes.
He will buy a sticky toffee pudding but if it’s absolutely necessary he will do it. It will takes time though as he never does baking - it’s my hobby.
He will do cleaning without any fuss.

Not

A

Chance

My DH can't make a sandwich without using half the knives in the kitchen, which he then leaves lying around on the work surfaces or drops in the sink. He never puts them in the dishwasher even if it is empty. He has many redeeming features but his knife use makes me want to...well, knife him sometimes.

Yes he can cook but rarely does. When he does it's always lovely, he doesn't make a mess, and certainly doesn't shout or have a tantrum. He does ask me, every few minutes, where things are which is super irritating

Hmmm I do agree partially... 🤔I'm not great at cooking and don't have much confidence in the kitchen (unless I know a recipe inside out in which case it gets hammered to death 😂).

But DH isn't any more experienced / trained than I am?! He's just taught himself over the years.

However, he is far more confident and chilled out than I am and by default, is less bothered about getting it wrong so has probably learnt that way - trial and error?! I wouldn't dream of "experimenting" and I'm definitely the worrier in the relationship whereas he is completely laid back so that could be part of it too?!

Absolutely not at all. I have tried to teach some basic skills but he got so anxious. Basically he can manage pasta with premade sauce.

My DH eats different food to DD and I so he has to cook his own dishes. They take 3-4h to make (his native dishes) and the kitchen looks a mess but he cleans afterwards.

My husband does 95% of the cooking in our house sooo yes lol
He's not as clean during the process as I would be but I get distracted by cleaning up and that's normally what ends up ruining my cooking attempts!

Yes but it took multiple years of training.
now he can rock up a roast and a fry up with no fuss! He was totally hopeless as
well so there is hope for anyone.

No - nothing bar toast or perhaps a jacket potato, maybe oven chips and chicken nuggets at a push.

He is an excellent washer upper and dishwasher stacker though.