Can your husband cook without a big fuss?

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For example could he make a roast dinner and sticky toffee puddding without trashing the kitchen, pestering you for help/asking where things were and without losing his cool?

Husband can sort of cook. He has a few recipes which are excellent. Well 2 or 3. But it just takes him soo bloody long. And the kitchen is always a mess after. So it makes me not bother getting him to do his fair share.

We stayed with my cousin this weekend. Her husband whipped us up a roast dinner with sticky toffee puddings whilst the rest of us watched a movie and drank wine.

I’m so jealous. My husband made a curry for the same cousins when they stayed with us and we ate at 10:30 and there were about 3 tablespoons of rice each. Don’t even get me started on the tomato sauce splashes.

BF not DH but yes, he cooks much more adventurous things than me and enjoys it e.g. I'd use curry powder but he'd make his own spice mix.

I do the majority of the cooking but DH can cook, not sure he'd be able to make a sticky toffee pudding though! He does make more mess than me, he hasn't mastered the art of clearing up as you go!

Yes, he can do a roast dinner easily. He’s never done a sticky toffee pudding but it wouldn’t faze him to look up a recipe if he fancied making one. He does the BEST steak pie on the planet.

Happily single now but I’d find it incredibly unattractive in a partner if they were unable to cook at least basic dishes.

Yes can cook and bake does all the fancier cooking in the house .Also when we were younger and skint could rattle up some amazing meals from odd ingredients in the house.
Does use way more dishes than I do but then will spend hours making a stock which I've never done .
My ds also has great skills in the kitchen .

Same here.

I tend to think (and willing to be shot down here!) that GENERALLY (!) men prefer cooking as they can just throw stuff together and women prefer baking as it's more structured?!

If I'm cooking I tend to use a recipe / cookbook as I like to follow instructions, whereas DH will just do whatever comes into his head (occasionally he'll glance at the basics if he's doing something new). And annoyingly it always turns out really well! Whereas if I get one teaspoon of an ingredient wrong I start to panic 😂

Happy to be proven wrong and know that won't apply to all men and women before anyone comes for me! Just something I've observed 😊

Roast dinner and sticky toffee budding? No way. Some chicken and rice? Yes.

A roast, certainly, and most other things, and he makes almost all our bread. He cooks more often than I do. He doesn't make desserts, but then he wouldn't care if he never ate one, and I enjoy baking, so that seems reasonable. Of course, he could follow a recipe for sticky toffee pudding if necessary.

He also gives the lie to the nonsense that I often hear, that men not cooking is a generational thing, as he's in his late 70s.

My exH and I used to share cooking fairly equally. He was quite happy to spend hours grinding spices for a curry. We had a pretty equal relationship around housework etc. I did more when I was a SAHM as I had the time but back to 50/50 when I went back to work. Still surprised he fucked off with a woman from work!

If he struggles, then clearly he needs a lot of practice. He should take over cooking and cleaning up for at least a month.

DH used to ask me over and over how long it took to boil potatoes. I knew he did it because he didn't like boiling potatoes and didn't especially like eating them either. So I wrote POTATOES TAKE ABOUT 20 MINUTES TO BOIL BUT KEEP AN EYE ON THEM on paper in huge writing and put it on the wall. He got the message. You have to fight these stupid behaviours with other stupid behaviours IMO.

He also used to ask me where his passport was. That's why his folder in the filing cabinet says DH YOUR PASSPORT IS IN HERE.

I would have to argue that my DH does the best steak pie on the planet!!! But happy to have a pie tasting competition just to be sure 😉

DHs is a steak and ale pie but uses a strong dark coffee stout. It is AMAZING. We had it at weekend with a puff pastry lid, cheese and chive mash and green beans 😍

Yes dh cooks 3-4 times a week. He also makes soups to freeze, cleans the bathroom and loves cleaning ovens and windows 😅

Yes - everyone should be able to cook and clean up after themselves.

He could but doesn't often.

Yes. He’s a fully fledged grown up.

My dh cooks, he's never baked so I don't think he'd give that a go. We pretty much share cooking and cleaning now we're both retired, although he tends to cook more than me. But he cannot serve up whether there's 2 or 5 of us he leaves it to me. I don't know if he's unsure how to make it fair, even fish and chips he leaves to me to portion out. It's a quirk but I can live with it.

Agree. If someone says 'I can't cook' then I immediately think they're a lazy dope. I know some people have totally legit reasons but most of the time it's men who are perfectly capable in other aspects of their life, they just can't be bothered to make the effort.

Agreed, this.

Yes, hubby can cook if he has a recipe to follow. I only have to point out where some things are, because if something doesn't jump out of the fridge or cupboard and into his hands, it isn't there, apparently!

He does all the washing up too. I clean the sides and table because he doesn't do it properly 😂

We rarely make desserts, but he can bake a cake by himself... Once I show him where the cake pans are lol.

We've had words about silly questions and using his initiative, so he's better than he used to be.

He can get a bit stressy when cooking by himself (as can I!), but I do most of the cooking (because I'm home) or we cook together when he gets home from work ❤️

Late DH could cook and occasionally made sweet puddings. Fairly tidy.

i wish he could cook, his idea of cooking jarred sauce ,mince and pasta .Stuff like that .Hes to lazy to learn any more and when i work evenings the kids have such limited choice =/

A roast, yes, sticky toffee pudding, he would buy but then so would I.

Dh is good at following recipes to a tee whereas I can cook without recipes.

His new year resolution is to cook more as he does enjoy it so he's been doing Saturdays.

My partner does 100% of the cooking for us. I'm on maternity leave so obviously I do my own breakfast and lunch, but he cooks everything in an evening and on the weekend. The kitchen can be a mess during, but he always cleans up after himself.

Yes he meal plans, shops and cooks.