To think this isn't a funny joke and be disappointed in DD

[jbirdy]

DD1 (24) and DD2 (22) were sitting on the sofa together and DD1 showed DD2 her phone and they both burst out laughing. I asked why they were laughing and DD1 said just a message she had sent a guy she was talking to. They were talking about some celebrity and he said she was a 10/10 which led to this

DD - what am I then
Guy - 11
DD - You're a 9
DD - And together we are a fucking disaster
Guy - That might be the sexiest thing I've ever heard, well done
DD - Thank you

AIBU to think it wasn't a funny joking and this guys reaction was weird or is this just what young people are like now?

That's really in poor taste. Huge lack of empathy.

Your daughter made the joke, why are you focusing on the guys reaction?
I didn't find it funny but each to their own. I wouldn't be taking to mumsnet over every joke made that I didn't find funny.

I still laugh at " Don't mention the war!" from Faulty Towers.

I'm not clenched. I have standards and respect.

You are sanctimonious and judgemental I give you that.

You don't have to find a joke funny, but it's a step too far to expect people not to joke about whatever they like, especially IN PRIVATE.

It's not the content that matters, its' the time and place to deliver it.

Poor taste joke. Most of people would not think it is funny. But hardly something I would disinherit my daughter for.

No it isn't and what has empathy got to do with anything?

There is no such thing as a off limits with a joke - and who would even police that? I feel like the OPs sense of humour would be horribly dreary to me and many others, and she might find my sense of humour offensive - but so what?

If find your choice to be offended really offensive, we can play offended one upmanship all day.

Loads of people would have found this funny, I found it quite clever and quick, and to young people it was just another disaster that happened when they were too young to remember and is very definitely something they can and do joke about.

Not the OPs job, or anybody else's to police other people's humour, and trying to do so makes you sound controlling, fragile and overbearing.

And stop prying into your adult daughter's chats to other people, particularly if you get this triggered by a nothing joke.

It's not a joke to you. No one is forcing you to be amused or to like it. You don't get to dictate what other people make jokes about. You can feel superior all you want, it has NOTHING to do with you.

In a remembrance ceremony, it would be highly inappropriate.

In a private discussion between 2 adults? They can say whatever they like, they could have made jokes so much darker. They are just as entitled to make inappropriate jokes (this one wasn't even bad) as you are entitled to feel offended when it's none of your business.

OP asked for opinions, that's entirely the point of Mumsnet. Or are opinions only allowed when they are inline with yours? And by your rationale exactly what business is it of yours what jokes they make? Why are you so hell bent on protecting their jokes when it's none of your business?

Took me a second to get it but when I did I guffawed out loud. One of the best jokes I've ever seen on MN. Your daughters and their friend sound like a hoot to hang out with.

Also that's not really a joke you can engineer or rehearse, that's pure spur-of-the-moment wit based on the ongoing conversation. Kudos to her!

Because protecting people's rights to joke about anything they like is important .
You can have whatever opinion you like, we can tell you how stupid that opinion is. That's how it works

I defend the right of ANYONE to make jokes about anything they like.

I don't like censorship and the idea of a thought police. I did say you are absolutely entitled to your opinion, but calling people stupid or sociopath? Sounds more like an insult don't you think?

It's not a joke. well, it is actually. You just don't find it funny.

You're rude.

It's a joke about the numbers, you loon. It's not actually a joke about what happened on that date, it's a joke about the date. So, what empathy is needed for date humour?

Jokes about literally anything can be hilarious. But you don't appear to understand humour and I'd guess you have the sense of humour of a potato.

I also watched it all on rolling news pretty much from the moment it happened, and was in floods of tears. Some of the images and audio from that day will probably haunt me to the end of my days, frankly.

I also saw Ground Zero when it was still an empty hole and I've been to the current memorial and found it very moving.

I still found the OP's daughter's joke funny, though. It's literally a joke about the numbers 9 and 11 being synonymous with a famous disaster, nothing more. It's not mocking the disaster itself or anyone who suffered in it.

I don't think you understand the definition of either 'joke' or 'sociopath'.

"You started it"....😆

Or do you generally find mass murder funny?

It takes some real mental gymnastics to think that joke was laughing at mass murder.

Pete Davidson makes lots of 9/11 jokes and his dad who was a firefighter died there.

Humour is different to different people.

'Young people make edgy joke about something that happened before they were born and have no emotional connection to as a way to make someone they fancy laugh' shocker...