To think this isn't a funny joke and be disappointed in DD

[jbirdy]

DD1 (24) and DD2 (22) were sitting on the sofa together and DD1 showed DD2 her phone and they both burst out laughing. I asked why they were laughing and DD1 said just a message she had sent a guy she was talking to. They were talking about some celebrity and he said she was a 10/10 which led to this

DD - what am I then
Guy - 11
DD - You're a 9
DD - And together we are a fucking disaster
Guy - That might be the sexiest thing I've ever heard, well done
DD - Thank you

AIBU to think it wasn't a funny joking and this guys reaction was weird or is this just what young people are like now?

Someone with a weak sense of humour?

If you think that's witty, there is a definite dumbing down these days.

It’s a crap joke but I wouldn’t think any more of it if I were you

Oh leave off. Nothing to do with you. Weird you’re even posting about it or giving it the time of day.

She's certainly quite quick, your daughter, I didn't get it until It was explained.

9/11 was 24 years ago and is just something she heard about and saw on YoutTube.

That's humanity for you, you won't ever stop young people making jokes about anything and everything.

This level of controlling interference in your daughter's perfectly normal, casual conversations is really really strange though and will not end well.

I bet the lad didn't really get it!

I remember holocaust jokes. I have not heard any recently but yes they exist.

It's weird that he finds the joke sexy. He probably just wants to get in her pants.

Anyway, maybe next 9/11 you could put the videos from the day on the screen and light a candle for the victims. If she's never been shown it she won't realise how horrific it was

Yeah l expect he was thinking of "911" or something or even "20" and then just thought he better laugh and tell her she's funny.

Of course there are, I can think of one I heard years ago right now, but as I personally find them deeply offensive wouldn't share that.

Up to other people what they laugh at though.

You, like most people, can't differentiate between the subject of a joke and the target of a joke.

And nothing is off limits in comedy. If it's funny, it's funny.

Its a joke between two adults in the privacy of their texts, they're not on stage at the O2 FFS

It kinda works on two levels as well. At first I thought they meant 9+11 = 20 so together they are 20/20 i.e the pandemic / a disaster of a year.

It's not even that dark of a joke really, it only references the date and not the events or people involved. A dark joke to me would be more direct like "I'm falling for you faster than the towers fell" or something.

who makes you in charge?

Of course nothing should be off limits, people are free to joke about anything they want, and you are free to be offended, but again, it doesn't matter.

People are already joking about Grenfeld. As long as they keep it private, what's the problem

Sometimes people also make awful jokes to cope with tragedies and to accept impossible events.

Who wants to live in a world where someone dictate what you are allowed to joke about? It's not North Korea.

why wouldn't she realise today? The joke wasn't even offensive.

Even A dark joke to me would be more direct like "I'm falling for you faster than the towers fell" or something. would be fine in the privacy of an adult conversation

It doesn't take anything away from the tragedy.

I have to say if I ever made my adult child watch an upsetting on the back of a joke they made to someone else that I didn’t like, I’d fully expect them to never visit me again and keep occasions like birthdays and Christmas to card exchanges. What is wrong with some people?!

It's a joke you don't get, that's fine. Why disappointed in your DD? It wasn't aimed at you.
Stay out of their business in future.

Also there’s a real serious conversation to be had about why, when we boil it down, all humour should be acceptable - even jokes that make us feel uncomfortable. Any other world and then you’re flirting with freedom of speech being taken away and nobody wants that. I’d rather other people made jokes I didn’t like than have any form of an Orwellian society

Right. I genuinely find the OPs post offensive. Not being sarcastic, I find the fact that she thinks she has the right to butt into her adult daughter's conversations and harass them over a nothing joke genuinely offensive.

I certainly wouldn't insist she take the post down though. She's allowed her opinions, however ridiculous I find them.

It's the quick wit thats sexy.

Is 9/11 any more horrific than anything else? America has killed a lot more than 3,000 people. Maybe show yourself some videos of those?

Valid point. I sometimes wonder about this, too.

It kinda works on two levels as well. At first I thought they meant 9+11 = 20 so together they are 20/20 i.e the pandemic / a disaster of a year.

Spot on tbh.

People always have and always will joke about tragedies.

9/11 jokes have been a thing, including in America, ever since it happened.

The OP's daughters joke was far milder than many televised jokes on the same subject.

@jbirdy in which case, it seems pretty harmless. If it wasn't then they wouldn't be laughing about it?

Wouldn’t have been funny on 12th Sep 2001 but now quite a clever joke.

Well hopefully the ones joking about it can at least spell it 🙄and there clearly are things off limits, no one will be joking about Southport.