Grandparents “Names”… do we get a choice?

[JTyler25]

Okay relatively lighthearted. I’m just wondering if anyone else has been in this situation.

My husband and I are expecting our first baby. Both sets of parents are very excited- this will be the first grandchild on both sides.

My parents have said they’d love to be called Granny and Grandad.

We we’re with my husbands parents earlier and it came up, and his mum said they want to be known as Nana and Grumpy.

Grumpy? I…hate that 🤣🙈

So not Grandad, or Gramps, or Pops… Grumpy. GRUMPY.

So our child (in a few years of course- not expecting a speaking baby!) will literally be saying “Hi Grumpy, can we go play?” And “Grumpy can I have a snack?”

And are we meant to say “right come on, we’re going to Nana and Grumpys!”

Argh I just really hate it. Why can’t he just be Grandad?

But like… do we get a say in this? Could my husband have a word and say no? Or is it up to them what they want to be referred as?

YABU- stop being so precious and let them be called what they want by their grandchild

YANBU- no it’s weird

Does your husband knows where this comes from? What did he call his grandparents?

I hate nanny too. My MiL similarly decided it was what she wanted. It grates every time.

My father was Grandpa, but known by some as Grumpy. Because he was. I actually like it and would be ok with it, on the proviso that he wasn't allowed to live up to the name.

Literally just choked on my cuppa @DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe

Was laughing so much it came down my nose

This is hilarious. I would be loving this and laughing to myself everytime we went to see them.

That is a bit strange I wouldn't be keen on that either but I suppose it's up to him. Although I do know someone that gets his grandkids to call him grumps.

My fil wanted to be called grandpa but my daughter just kept calling him grandad (that's what she called my dad). So u might find ur child will not use it or will use what they use for the other grandparents.

I did use to refer to him as grandpa but it made no difference she still always said grandad.

I mean… as long as you’re not using them for childcare I’d just use the standard Grandma/Grandpa (or whatever you prefer) and your child will follow suit. My mother thinks mine might call her “Mimi.”* She will be lucky to see them once a year so that will absolutely not be happening. Her name doesn’t even have an M in it. 🙄

*Because she “is NOT old and never wanted grandchildren anyway, is NOT a grandmother, you’d better not make me a grandmother, no one will ever call me Granny, you can grow old with your pets,” etc etc. Of course, now that she is 73 and I am 30 and her friends have grandchildren she’s changed her tune somewhat.

My MIL wanted to be called Mama - which I vetoed for obvious reasons. Then when DD was about 14 months decided to be Meema but my DD called her Moomoo instead which has stuck. MIL hates it, and now wants to be MiMi but we think it's very cute!

My grandparents were Granny and Bub, and Grandmum and Poom. My parents have non-traditional monikers also... I think Grumpy is lovely.

Emu. I love Emu!

In your shoes I'd just be relieved that both sets of parents opted for different choices....

Goodness the only stipulation I made when our grandchildren were born was I preferred Nanny to Granny. The other Nanny also made the same stipulation but we came up with additional ways to distinguish between us. I guess though if he wants to be called Grumpy (why would he?) then does it really matter to you? If he is adamant you can always refer to him as Grandad or whoever and let him elaborate as they get older. They aren't going to be calling him anything for a few years until they can talk anyway.

When the baby can talk, he or she will call them what they will. Let them get on with it

Just be grateful they don't want yo ve called mummy and daddy, which my inlaws decided would be perfect and didn't think bizarre in the slightest.
It didn't happen.

That is a bit passive aggressive. Does Daddy not have any responsibility for teaching good manners?

This isn’t how it usually works in practice. My MiL invented a cute name adding Gr to her first name which starts with a vowel - think GrAlison or GrEllie. From as soon as he could speak DS called her Oo-lah and that is what she is now known as to all the family 😁. My DM wasn’t too bothered whether she was Gran or Nanny etc, but we live in Wales (even though she doesn’t) so she has become Nain. People just don’t choose their own nickname.

Kind of a Ronseal solution if her name happens to be Annie

Like the bird? I’ve never heard this one, is it common in the UK?

My dad called his grandparents Mam and Dad, which I thought was (a) mental and (b) confusing but that's what he did and his siblings and cousins followed suit.

It's up to the grandparents what they are called....until the grandchildren decide to call them something different!!!

Well Grumpy describes my FIL really well so it'd be hilarious if the kids called him that. Neither of you get to decide, sometimes the kids chose for themselves

I got news for them - they don’t get to choose. Your kid will call them what they can/ want and then will stick🤣🤣. My IL aren’t called anything anywhere close to what they wished as kid couldn’t pronounce it. Then they found their names endearing and they stuck.

Don't worry about it, and just call them whatever you want to call them, your kid will follow suit.

Your child will likely use a name that suits them anyway, it's often quite organic.

I kinda love it!

Makes me think of the seven dwarfs.

Aww I quite like it! Your DC may choose a different name anyway, my dad was meant to be 'grandad' to his eldest grandchild (my DN) but ended up as Gaga as DN couldn't pronounce grandad. It stuck and now all my DNs (age range from 4 to late teens, from multiple siblings) call my parents Nana and Gaga 🤣

They can decide what they want, that doesn't mean your child will use it.

The queen was known as 'Garry' because Prince William couldn't say 'Granny'.

We had similar in our family, I'm not putting the name because it would absolutely out me.

Also as you said, your baby will not be talking at birth and as s/he starts to speak there are words children struggle with, hence 'baby talk' often ending in 'y' endings. I predict husband's dad will be, "Gummy".

I think it's sweet! I don't like traditional GP names and told my 12 year old son who lives big bang theory and young sheldon I wanted to be Memaw ... he lived that lol - hopefully it'll be a good 15-20 years het!
FWIW I'd hate it if I was called nanny or grandma 😵‍💫